You’ll never guess who I watched having sex the other night; well, sort of…

Doppelganger having sex with swinger

They say we all have a twin somewhere out there; some use the phrase doppelgänger.   Last night in a swing club, I saw a man who could clearly be a famous man’s doppelgänger.  To see a doppelgänger that looks like George Clooney or Brad Pitt in a swing club would be awesome.  Unfortunately, this was neither.  This man could be Bernie Sanders’ identical twin.  No offense to Bernie, but this is not my dream man to see when I open my eyes because a stranger is touching me.  Nope, not even close…

There is no question, seeing someone who closely resembles a famous person can be exciting. For people who like to fantasize about having sex with someone famous, this can be a pretty close second.  Unfortunately, I’m not convinced that many women are fantasizing about Bernie Sanders.    It has nothing to do with his politics or even his likability, this is purely physical.  As I watched “Bernie” play with his wife, and then with another woman, I couldn’t help but imagine what he was saying to the woman he was on top of.  With his thick New York accent, I imagined him explaining why condoms for all, for free, was a wonderful idea. As a matter of fact, I’m still imagining his conversations:  he loves everything about the lifestyle!  Sharing is what it’s all about!  We all win when we share!

It got me to wondering what it might be like to see other doppelgängers in a swing club.  Surely, if you look that much like someone else, you are aware.  Either because you can see it for yourself, or because others frequently point it out to you.  I tried to imagine how a Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Angelina Jolie or Blake Lively look alike might behave in a swing club.  

People who frequent swing clubs have little tolerance for arrogance.  The atmosphere is fun and friendly, and as we have discussed before, people who think they are too attractive for others, are not very successful in the lifestyle.  If, on the other hand, a friendly, hot, famous looking doppelgänger were to meander into a swing club, I imagine they would be quite popular.

This leads me to wonder about the next scenario.  What if your significant other’s twin showed up?  They clarify that they are not related.  Interested?  Maybe interested in playing with the two of them at the same time?  Now we’re talking…

What if your own doppelgänger appeared in a club one night.  How would you feel if your significant other was into her?  Happy that you are obviously his type?  Annoyed by the comparison?  Interested in playing as a threesome with her?

The Bernie Sanders’ doppelgänger is not the first person that I have seen in a swing club who genuinely looks like another famous person.  A few years ago I saw Kelly Conway and once, I saw my own sister.  When I approached her because the resemblance was uncanny, I think she thought I was trying to hit on her.  Probably the first time in my life I felt like a man.  No matter how hard I tried to explain, and even offered to show her a photo, she seemed creeped out.  It still makes me laugh.

Maybe one day I will get to experience the fantasy of having sex with a famous man (or woman) who turns me on.  Like I tell my husband, the more time we spend in the lifestyle, the better the odds.  For now, I have Bernie Sanders on the brain.  It’s hard to shake the image of him having sex in front of me.

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A unicorn, a tatto and an unexpected swinger encounter in Atlanta, Ga.

Partners ID Swinger Symbol Tattoo

Dear Partners ID,

I will speak for myself when I say that I love to read your letters from swingers who have found each other because they spotted your jewelry.

My story is a little bit different. I do have several pieces of your jewelry, which I love but it was your tattoo that inspired me. You might remember that I had contacted you asking for permission to use your logo for a permanent tattoo. I did have it done and just like the jewelry, it attracts attention.

The tattoo is located on the inside of my wrist so it is discreet but visible. The interesting thing about this tattoo is how it alerts people in the lifestyle that I am definitely a player. When they see it, they know what it means. Nobody has a permanent tattoo if they are not a genuine swinger!

The part about meeting another (very unexpected swinger) starts now. I had taken a bad fall and injured my wrist. My dad suggested I make an appointment to see his long time friend who is an orthopedic surgeon. After sending me for X-rays they determined that it was indeed fractured.

I met the doctor for a consultation. He suggested placing it in a cast for 6-8 weeks. When he examined my wrist he stopped when he spotted my tattoo. I could see him looking carefully at the design and came right out and asked me what it meant. Talk about awkward! The explanation I gave was for nothing as he told me he knew the sign well; he too is in the lifestyle!

We did not make plans to meet up or anything of that nature. After all, he is my dad’s friend! This is a man who I have known since I was a young kid and never would have suspected he is in the lifestyle. We agreed that it should be our little secret but he did love my tattoo!

Although we will not see each other as swinger friends, he did fix me up with someone else who is in the lifestyle. We have been out a few times and we will see where that goes!

Love your concept, love the design and love the jewelry. I hope this story makes you smile and who knows, maybe I’ll be the second swinger bride!

Big hugs,

Nancy
Atlanta, Ga

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You might be the good looking one, but I’m the one wearing the lifestyle jewelry!

Painter wearing Partners ID lifestyle jewelry

Dear Partners ID,

I am happy to be able to write to you about how your lifestyle jewelry helped me to meet someone.  Those stories always make me smile and I think everyone who wears the jewelry is looking forward to writing one of their own.  Here is mine.

A few years ago I was dating a woman who introduced me to the lifestyle.   We spent several weekends each month attending house parties and hotel takeovers.  When we broke up, the prospect of being that single guy did not excite me and so I now only attend house parties if I am specifically invited.

For the past eleven years, I have been working as a house painter. After graduating from high school, my friend and I opened a business and we have done very well.  We have been friends since we were kids.  He has always been the more outgoing, good looking one, I am the quiet, reserved one.  

The next job on our roster was in a very upscale area.  The house is large and the property is isolated.  The nearest house is probably a quarter of a mile away.  It is surrounded by dense forest and a small lake.

The job was to paint the entire house, inside and out.  The first day we arrived it was raining, so we started with the inside.  We were greeted by the homeowners and their two young children.  The man soon set out for work and took the kids with him.   His wife explained that he always takes the kids to school and she picks them up.

The woman was very friendly and showed us around the house.  We set up our gear and got down to work.  Since we have been working together for so many years, we have a system and we each know what our job entails.  

Luckily the weather cleared up and after completing the inside, we were able to move outside to paint.  After getting set up outside, the woman came out and told us there was something she wanted to be fixed inside the house.  We tried to tell her we would get to it later in the day but she was insistent.  My partner generally paints inside and I usually paint outside but she insisted that she show it to me.

I climbed off my ladder and follow her into the house.  She leads me upstairs and into her bathroom.  Pointing to an area of ceiling that she said was imperfect, I looked up.  Not only was she wearing a robe when I looked up but also her hair was in a ponytail. When I turned back to say I saw no problem, the robe was on the floor and her long was hair was hanging straight.   The woman was wearing only her panties.  This was truly a first for me.  I imagine the shocked look on my face told her I was not expecting this.  She pointed to my ring (your ring) and said she had a few pieces of her own.  

Without hesitating, she picks up her phone and calls her husband.   With her husband on facetime, we proceeded to get down to business.  Needless to say, we had a great time!  I did feel bad that my buddy was working but she said he had been flirting with her since day one and she loved that he didn’t get what he wanted.  Had he been wearing the jewelry, she said she would have asked him to join us. 

This went on every day that we were there. Sometimes inside the house. other times outside.  Needless to say, my partner was suspicious as to why she only wanted me to come inside.   I just shrugged my shoulders and I said I really didn’t know why.  

Needless to say, I love my ring it is magical!   I recommend everyone in the lifestyle wear it as it does exactly what it was intended to do!

Thank you for doing what you do!

Warmly,

Steve

Millburn, NJ

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A single man in the lifestyle, a very happy ending.

Single man wearing Partners ID Lifestyle jewelry

Dear Partners ID,

I am a single man and I am in the lifestyle.  Let me tell you, it’s not easy for single men.  It’s easy to understand why people have such a negative reaction to single men in the lifestyle.  Trust me, even I have received dick pics in my inbox and I’m not even bi.

It actually takes more effort from the good guys to get past the stigma that is attached to us due to men with bad intentions and/or poor judgment.  Luckily for me, people tend to be able to differentiate the good guys from the bad relatively quickly.  

Although some think otherwise before getting to know me, I am not in the lifestyle for “easy” or “non-committal” sex.  Believe it or not, I took to the lifestyle to find love.  Yes, love, I was looking for a wife.

Like most people who know me, this revelation seemed to shock people.  Why on earth would you look for a wife in a swing club?  That’s like looking for a needle in a haystack! 

Growing up, my parents were swingers.  Although I did not know when I was a kid, I discovered their “secret” when I was in my teens.  It was confusing at first, but after the initial shock, I realized my parents seemed happier than any of my friend’s parents.  They didn’t say they had sex with other people, just that they had close relationships as couples.  It took me a little bit of research on my own to figure out what exactly they were trying to say.

After I turned 40, I realized that I had been serial dating for years and could not seem to find what I was looking for.  After internet dating sites, picking girls up at bars and being set up on countless blind dates I was ready to give up.  Many of the women I dated started out great, but not long into the relationship I could feel the change.  Sex was never as important to them as it was to me.  I wanted to find a woman who actually loved sex and this proved to be very difficult!

Growing up with parents who were constantly physical with each other, I knew this was possible, I just had to find it.  This is what led me to the lifestyle.  

Although there are not too many single women at any lifestyle event, there are always a few.  And guess what?  Many of them are in the lifestyle because they love sex!  It was not hard to meet unicorns and I have dated quite a few over the past few years.  Guess what?  This is not how I met my wife!

Believe it or not, I was in a swing club and saw your lifestyle jewelry!  I bought a necklace and started wearing it all the time.  Even if it wasn’t going to work, I love the design.

Not long after I started wearing it, I met a woman while at a sports bar who noticed the necklace.  She knew what it meant and we started to talk.  That was almost one year ago to the day and we are getting married in March.  Wow!  Best $50 I have ever spent!  And if you are all wondering, yes, she loves sex!

Sorry for the long story but it has a happy ending that I wanted to share with you!  I also want to give a shout out to your customer service girl Julie, who is so patient and kind!  Happy New Year and best wishes to all of you!

Carson

Detroit, MI

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I love swinging! When it is simple…

Difficult couple new to swinging

Nobody likes complicated things and most people hate drama.  When it comes to swinging, it is no different.

Swinging is something people do for enjoyment.  Going to a lifestyle event, hotel takeover, swing club, private party or a lifestyle cruise are things people do for fun.  If couples were looking for a complicated evening or vacation, they would make plans with their teenaged children.

The majority of the time, swinging is a fun way to spend a night.  You get dressed up, you get cleaned up and you are looking forward to a good time.  Lifestyle friends are always up for a party and it does not matter what the venue is.

A perfect night usually entails heading out to a party or club. Once there, meeting friends and people you do not know (and some you do), having a few drinks,  and heading into a play area.  You find another couple (or single), everybody plays, everybody is happy, you leave.  That’s not so hard, right?

For many couples it is simple.  They have conversations about what works for the both of them. The problem usually begins when a couple does not communicate or one is not honest.

So what is drama in the lifestyle?  Swingers are out to have fun, what could possibly go wrong?  Here are a few issues that make swinging more difficult than it needs to be:

1.  Someone is too drunk to play.
2.  One of the couple is not interested but their partner doesn’t seem to notice (or care).
3.  The couple is in a fight but they try to find another couple anyway.
4.  One of the couple is not a player, they just like to watch.
5.  The husband is full swap, the wife is not.
6.  One of them gets jealous when they see the other play.
7.  They want others to touch them but they don’t reciprocate
8.  One is pushing the other to do things they are not comfortable with.
9.  One engages with another couple without getting their partners approval
10.  One gets upset and leaves during play.

When couples find themselves in situations such as these it ruins the moment, and sometimes the night.

How can you avoid ending up with couples who are like this?  Unfortunately, with the exception of someone being too intoxicated, it is hard to know in advance.  Sometimes even when a couple says they are full swap or ready to play, they are not.

Couples who enter a play area must communicate with each other and the couple they intend to play with.  If one of you does not play, be honest and upfront.  Pushing your partner into a situation that they are not comfortable with can never end well.

Like myself, most people are in the lifestyle to have fun.  Swinging should be something you do for enjoyment.  If you don’t enjoy it or you have a laundry list of rules, better to stay home.

Bottom line, I love to swing, but only when it is simple…

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Couple wearing Partners ID Lifestyle Jewelry

How the lifestyle helped this couple rekindle their sexual relationship!

Dear Partners ID,

My story is a bit different from most I have read on your website but hopefully, you will appreciate it.  

My husband and I have been married for 30 years.  We raised our children and did all the things married people with families tend to do.  Now that our children are older and have their own lives, we realized our marriage was dull and boring.  

Neither of us had much interest in sex anymore and had even started to sleep in separate bedrooms.  Our marriage had become nothing more than a couple of roommates living together.  

One evening I was looking for something new and exciting to watch and stumbled upon a news story about swinging.  I noticed that not all of the couples were young but they all seemed to be having an incredible time.  I ran into my husband’s bedroom and flipped to the channel I was watching.  We watched in silence and when it was over, he looked at me and said, “Hmm, interesting.” 

We started to talk about how wild and free we were before having children and how much fun life had been back then.  One thing led to another and we actually had sex for the first time in years.  It was great, just like it had been in the past.  This woke us both up to the realization that we were wasting our time waiting to get older.  

My husband took the initiative and booked us on a trip to Desire in Mexico and off we went!  We did not do much more than observe and fool around together but the spark was lit!  Fast forward 4 years and we are heavy into the lifestyle!  We go to all the big events and have made amazing friends.  It is amazing how we have totally turned our lives around and have fallen back in love with each other and our exciting lives together! 

My husband and I discovered your lifestyle jewelry on a trip to Cap D’Agde in France and we both wear it all the time.  We sat with a group of people at the hotel pool one day and they were all wearing it.  Clever way to find other swingers!

I did meet a woman in Starbucks near my home one time who showed me her lifestyle bracelet and we became instant friends. She even bought my husband one of your wallets for his birthday.   Magical jewelry, magical lifestyle!

Hopefully,  our story will make others realize that the lifestyle can be such a wonderful way to spark up your marriage!  It certainly did for us!

We know you are based in Florida and are hoping to maybe meet you when we are there over the holidays!

Hugs!

Leslie and Ron

Philadelphia, PA

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The lifestyle is not a cult, we do not recruit people. Is this what our vanilla friends are afraid of?

Friend backing up

Most people who are in the lifestyle go to great lengths to keep it a secret.  They do not want to reveal this to family, friends or coworkers. People in the lifestyle would agree that the majority of people in their lives would not understand. 

This is not hard to believe as people can be very judgmental, especially about things that they do not understand.  What I cannot wrap my head around are the stories about the way “friends” react if they are told.

I have heard many stories about people who told a close friend and the friend turned their back.  Some prior friends go as far as to spread the word to others, while some simply ostracize the individual or couple who divulge their secret. 

The first thing that comes to mind is the fact that these people clearly thought these were close, trustworthy friends.  Nobody goes around mentioning this kind of private detail about their life to mere acquaintances. 

It makes me think about my friends; what could they tell me about themselves that would make me turn my back on them?  That they murdered someone?  That they destroyed someone’s life?  Stole someone’s money?  Hurt someone’s children?  Whatever it might be, it would have to be something really horrific.  

How many times have people revealed to a friend that they were having an affair?  I don’t recall hearing that their friends deserted them when they were told.  Why then is it acceptable to reject a friend for a lifestyle choice that he or she has made?  

The lifestyle is not a cult, we do not recruit people.  Is that what people are afraid of?  That we will try to convert them? Do people imagine that swingers have no self -control and they will hit on everyone they know?  That our friends are no longer safe around us because we cannot control our desire for sex?

Honestly, when you think about it, it makes no sense.  Why have we evolved so much in every other arena when it comes to accepting human sexuality, except for swingers?  People applaud transgender people for opening up and doing what is right for them.  The gay and lesbian community is stronger than ever and they no longer feel the need to hide.  Heck, NY has a list of 33 acceptable genders and people are not ok with swingers?  

I once asked a friend (yes, she knows we are in the lifestyle and she is still my friend.  She is also a psychologist) if she has any idea as to what it is that makes people so afraid.  I say afraid because I honestly have no other explanation for the way people react to swingers.  

She believes that most people are so insecure about their own lives and relationships that the thought of opening themselves up to others was too much to think about.  Her belief is that it is probably more often a female friend who turns their back while men might become curious.  All of the sudden, a close female friend is sexualizing herself and an insecure woman might  see this as a threat to her own relationship.  The fear is that if  her husband or boyfriend knows, he will find this friend suddenly more appealing.  

Whether or not this is always the case, it makes some sense.  Whatever the reason might be, it is rare that friends who are not in the lifestyle will remain in your life if they discover.  Not today anyway, but hopefully in the future people will gain an understanding and an acceptance.  It really is time.

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The lifestyle is not for everyone but if you don’t try it, how will you know?

Couple new to the lifestyle wearing Partners ID Lifestyle Jewelry

Our venture into the lifestyle; what we learned about ourselves and others.

Life is short, life is precious, life is a gift.  We have all heard this many times before.  It is something we often say or think about when we hear of someone dying.  Whether the person was sick or it was a  sudden event, it makes us promise to live life to the fullest because we never know what the future holds.  This seems especially true given today’s climate.  

What exactly is living life to the fullest?  In my opinion, it means living without regrets.  It means doing the things that make us happy.  Nobody wants to find themselves at the end of their life wishing they had done something but were too afraid.  It would seem at that point you would wonder what, exactly, you were afraid of.  

This makes me think of the lifestyle and our decision to see what it was all about.  When we pushed the door open to a swing club for the very first time, we had no idea what lay on the other side.  In our minds, it was simply to be one evening to placate our curiosity.  It would be one more thing to cross off our bucket list.  Something that we could say we were proud to have done in our lives because it was outside of our comfort zone. 

Even if our first night at a swing club had not been enjoyable (or even positive), I do believe we would have no regrets.  The fact that we had taken the risk to try something different would be a plus in our memory banks.  It might even give us something to laugh about if things went awry.

That, however, did not happen.  It turned out that in our quest to remember to live life to the fullest, we had found something wonderful.  Behind the doors to that first swing club was nothing we had prepared ourselves for.  What had started out as an evening of fun, turned into a completely new lifestyle.  

What we discovered that first night in a swing club is that once you cross the threshold, you belong.  Everyone is welcome in the lifestyle.  People do not discriminate against others.  There is no concern regarding race, religion, sexual orientation, age, etc.  If you are friendly, people in the lifestyle will accept you.  

The lifestyle has taught us so much about living life to the fullest.  People in the lifestyle are looking for fun.  Many couples we have met, have raised their family and are ready to focus on themselves.  An afternoon or an evening spent with lifestyle friends is always sure to be a party.  It is a group of people who are looking to enjoy their lives.  The lifestyle attracts a variety of people who come from different backgrounds, cultures and races.  What brings these people together is their desire to have a good time.  Every night in a swing club is like New Year’s Eve; it is festive and upbeat.  

The lifestyle has taught us about commitment and communication.  It gave me clarity about the difference between love and sex and how the two are not mutually exclusive.  

It teaches you that simply because you find someone attractive or charming, it does not mean you want to spend your life with them.  The same applies to your partner.  It is ok for them to find another person attractive.  Even if they have great sex together, it does not mean they want anything more.  You have fun, say goodbye and go home with your partner to your life.  

Having the opportunity to explore both your sexuality and your fantasies is very liberating.  When you share this with your partner there is no reason to cheat.  When you have everything you want at home, why would you seek it elsewhere? 

Obviously, this is not all that is on my bucket list but it is something for which  I will be forever grateful.  For us, this is living life to its fullest. Spending every free night at dinner or a movie was not something that either of us really enjoyed.  Rather than becoming complacent and discontent, we did something about it.  

The lifestyle is not for everyone but if you don’t try it, how will you know?