Swingers should celebrate the new year by leaving politics behind.

Swingers symbol

In prior blogs, I have written about how open-minded and all-inclusive swingers tend to be.  Swingers are generally not judgmental and try to be open to others regardless of their race or religion.  A visit to a swing club or any other lifestyle venue would lead one to believe that the world could learn a lot from people who swing.  It is very common to see interracial couples, lesbian couples, and even the occasional crossdresser or transgender person partying alongside everyone else.

So what is happening?  A quick visit to Facebook shows me that perhaps I was wrong.  Facebook has become a battleground between political parties.  Is politics the great divide?  It is very uncommon to hear swingers discussing politics when they are out partying. That’s not to say it doesn’t happen, it just seems a bit rare.  Swingers are out looking to have a good time, not an argument over politics.

The pandemic has created a great divide amongst those in the lifestyle.  There are swingers who are opting to remain at home and ride it out and others who are throwing caution to the wind.  Whichever side you are on, spewing hatred to those with opposing views is not likely to change their behavior.

What makes it so easy to be so hateful on social media?  Is it easier to speak your mind when you are behind a computer screen?  Apparently so, but whatever is fueling the hatred, it is sad to watch.  People unfriending each other, while others threatening harm if they don’t see things their way.  Groups of people ganging up against others to belittle and verbally assault their opinions if they don’t mesh with their own.

What happened to the fun-loving community we were in just a few months ago.  There was talk about politics but it seemed a little more respectful.  Now it is a war zone and I’m not sure where this is heading.  If this were to erupt into a public confrontation (perhaps if couples meet up in a club or resort), I’m quite certain it could have some very serious consequences.

What do we accomplish when we vent our political agenda on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram, etc.  Not much more than making friends with those who agree, while making enemies with those who won’t tolerate a difference in opinion.

We must try to remember who we were before this election.  Most of us were friends with common lifestyle choices.  None of us cared what our lifestyle friends did for a living, what color they were, what religion they practiced.  Our only concern was making a connection to have a good time, a fun night, perhaps a life long friend.  We were all on the same side.  Our common goal was protecting and defending a lifestyle that we all partake in.

Politics has no home in the lifestyle.  Religion is not something that we discuss either before or after playing with other couples.  What difference does it make what their views are?  We are there to have a good time; that’s it, that’s all.  If we allow politics and religion into the lifestyle, it will cease to exist as we know it and the safety of everyone at a lifestyle event will come into question.

Just like people who do not accept swingers or swinging, we must accept their views.  We may not agree with them but we know that we might not ever change their minds.  For this reason, many swingers keep silent about their lifestyle choice.  We would all be upset to hear them bashing us for our lifestyle because it would be unfair of them to judge us.  Isn’t that what we stand for?  We are a minority but feel strongly that we are entitled to do as we see fit.  After all, we are not harming anyone.

It is the same for politics.  Everyone has the right to their opinion but they do not have the right to bash others if their views are different.  It doesn’t solve anything but it does create a lot of hatred and division.  Let’s go back to showing the world that swingers are lovers and not haters.  It starts here…

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Keeping the excitement of the lifestyle alive during COVID.

The lifestyle should be easy and fun. Are you struggling?

Couple new to the lifestyle wearing Partners ID Lifestyle Jewelry

We met a couple recently who told us that they find it very difficult to meet other people in the lifestyle.  I was a bit surprised because I have seen them both in a very busy swing club and at several private parties.  They are both attractive yet admittedly a bit reserved.  She is friendly when approached but he comes across as aloof and disinterested.

The next time we saw them in a swing club I observed them.  They came into the club and headed straight for the dining area.  To begin with, they did not make eye contact with anyone as they walked.  Rather than sitting at the long cafeteria-style table, they opted for a small, private table in the back.  This, in my opinion, was a mistake.  The long tables make it impossible to avoid meeting other people.  You are seated next to and across from quite a few people and it makes it very easy to simply join in on conversations. 

After dinner, the couple grabbed their wine glasses and sauntered around the club.  The two bars were crowded with people laughing and having fun.  Rather than attempting to join the crowds, they linked arms and moved past them.  They eventually sat down on some stools which face the dance floor. 

Early in the evenings, when the club is quiet, it is the perfect opportunity to mingle with other people.  Sitting on a couch, where others will have to sit next to you, or across from you would be a better strategy.  I noticed that they always chose to sit alone.

When the music picked up and people started to dance, they made their way to the dance floor.  Many couples flirt and interact on the dance floor, but they did not.  In contrast, they danced close to each other, never checking their surroundings to see if others were interested in mingling with them.  

Later that night, we went outside to get some air and sat amongst a group of smokers on the benches. Honestly, we meet most people when we are outside because the music is quiet and we are sitting close together on the bench.  This couple arrived outside, said hello to us, and moved away from the group to stand alone.  

Do you see the pattern here?  If I did not know them, I would say they are not interested in meeting other people.  I believe that they act like they don’t want to be approached and so others see this and stay away.

Success in the lifestyle is up to you.  People who are warm, friendly, and open to meeting others will meet people.  Everyone who attends a swing club is looking to meet people.  Even the cliques that hang together are open to meeting new, friendly faces.  

Imagine if this couple tried a new approach.  To begin with, when they enter the club, smile, and say hi to the people they walk past on their way to the dining area.  Next, grab a plate and sit amongst the other people at the long table.  Join in one of the conversations or compliment someone on their outfit or shoes. As they finish dinner, tell the couple sitting next to them, see you on the dance floor.  Stop to get a drink at the busy bar.  Smile as you say excuse me to get closer to order a drink.  Introduce yourself to someone at the bar and ask them a question about anything.  Show interest in getting to meet them.

Whatever happens, even if you don’t have luck at that bar, find a place to sit where there is another couple.  Take a seat and start a conversation.  Smile, show some interest in what they have to say.  

Next, when you hit the dance floor, don’t dance closed up to the people around you.   Smile at others and feel free to lightly touch people on the back to let them know you are there.

Then, when you go outside, sit on the bench with the group.  Ask them to make room for you and join their conversation.  When you find a couple that is friendly and you have some interest in them, tell them you’ll see them in the back room.  You never know!  Maybe they will join you!

Without putting yourself out, meeting others can be difficult.  While nobody likes rejection,  a couple who seems disinterested is unlikely to be approached by others.  Above all, smile, be warm and friendly and show some interest in others.  This approach is guaranteed to help you to meet others in the lifestyle. 

 

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Hilarious swinger stories that cannot be shared with vanilla friends!

Doctor holding condom in front of a swinger

Swingers are a special breed of people.   No topic is off-limits when they talk amongst each other,.  Things that you would never discuss with vanilla friends or close family are perfect things to talk about with your swinger friends.  These are friends who can truly relate to some of the bizarre or hilarious things that happen in the lifestyle.

What’s in your box?

A swinger friend visited a nude beach and while relaxing, observed a beautiful girl walking around showing people something in a cardboard box.  As she got closer, he was eager to not only see what was inside the box but to have an opportunity to meet this beautiful, naked girl.  He waved for her to come over to his group, and with a big smile, she headed in their direction.

When she reached this group, she greeted them with a big smile and put her box on the sand.  My friend peered into the box but wasn’t quite sure what he was looking at.  “Cock rings,” she explained, “you really should try wearing one!”  My friend said the seller was so cute it would not have mattered what she was selling, he was buying.  He reached into the box and chose one.  She showed him how to put it on and he was quite the happy camper. He and his wife left the beach and headed back to their apartment.

Later that evening they were heading out to a swing club so he slipped on the cock ring. He was very excited to show it to his friends.  They got into the elevator along with two elderly women.  The elevator door shut and as the elevator jolted to a start, they hear a clink, clink, clink on the floor of the elevator as the cock ring fell out of the bottom of his pant leg to the ground.  He looked down and says, “Oh, there’s my cuff link!”

Excuse me, can you speak up?

Other swinger friends were traveling to see family out of town and decided to go to a local swing club in the area.  Having heard good things about this club, they were excited to go and meet some new people.  After dressing in their sexy club clothes, they were on their way.  The crowd was great and one couple, in particular, seemed eager to play with them.  Heading into the playroom together, the other couple suggested a private room, to which this couple agreed.

As they are playing, the man starts whispering something into my friend’s ear.  She can’t quite hear him and asks him to repeat himself.  When she is sure she can hear him she sits upright and looks at her husband, who is playing with this man’s wife.  The wife looks over and smiles at my friend.  My friend touches her husband and tells him she’s ready to go.  Confused, he gets up and she is already out the door.  He runs behind her to find out what happened.  The man had asked my friend to poop on his face.  She was sure he was joking but clearly he was not.  He said he likes it and his wife likes to watch.  It grossed her out so much that she had to leave.  Imagine telling your vanilla friends a story like this!

What happens in the dark stays in the dark

Swinger dating sites are a great resource for finding a private party in your area.  When swinger friends of ours found one of interest, they signed up on the guest list.  The address and time for the party was later sent in an email.   The party was planned for a Friday night, which coincided with a parent-teacher conference that was already on their schedule.  They went to meet the teachers, changed clothing in their car and headed off for an evening of fun.

Arriving a little late, they grabbed some drinks and mingled with some of the guests downstairs.  As the evening wore on, couples started to move upstairs to play.  It was dark in the bedrooms so they could see bodies, but they could not identify any faces.  They found a spot on a bed and settled in to play together.  Not long after, the woman next to them reached over and started to touch my friend.  It started as just kissing and before long the two couples were engaged in a four-way.  The other man was eager to swap so they switched and played with the other couple.  Soon my friend heard the other woman screaming in orgasm and showering them when she squirted.

When it was all over, the foursome walked out of the bedroom together so they could properly introduce themselves.  As soon as they got into a more lighted area my friend could not believe her eyes!  It was her son’s teacher that she had just met with earlier that evening!

Excuse me ma’am but is there something you’re not telling me?

A woman we know spends a fair amount of time at swing clubs and lifestyle events. When she attends these events, playing is a priority for her.  She went for a yearly gynecology exam and during the examination, her doctor asked her if she has multiple partners or does she just have sex with her husband.

With the doctor positioned between her legs, peering inside for the exam, her concern was that he was looking at something that indicated an STD or infection of some kind.  She knew him socially (vanilla) and felt she could not possibly tell him about the lifestyle.  She picked up her head and looked down at him telling him she was faithful to her husband.  With that, he reached inside her and pulled out a condom.

Candles create a lovely atmosphere, don’t they?

Swinger friends planned a sexy weekend at a hotel with another couple they frequently played with.  The women decided to check in early to decorate the room and surprise the men when they arrived.  They brought candles, rose petals and candy, massage oils, bath oils, and flowers. By the time the men arrived, the room was romantic and sexy; the women in lingerie, ready for fun. They wasted no time and spent the afternoon playing.  After a fun afternoon, my friends headed out for the evening.  Returning from the restaurant, there were firetrucks leaving the hotel and the guests were walking back inside.  When they asked what was happening, they were told that a guest had left candles burning when they left their room and it started a fire.  My friends were mortified because they realized it was them…

Let’s give these girls a round of applause!

When hosting a private swinger party, it is not uncommon for guests to bring a gift for the host and hostess.  At this particular party, one of the gifts some friends received was a huge pink vibrator that was shaped like a penis.  The party ended late and as they cleaned up, they carefully put the vibrator back in the box and stuck it in a guest room closet.  Several weeks later, their 5-year-old had a friend over.  Her older brother was bothering them and so they wandered into the guest room and closed the door so they would not be disturbed.   During the day my friend works, so the children are left with a babysitter.

Not long after, the babysitter goes into the room to check on the girls.  My friend’s daughter had found the vibrator and they were using it like a microphone, singing karaoke.  The babysitter was shocked but felt compelled to take a video so she could show my friend.   After seeing the video, my friend said she was so embarrassed that she wanted to fire the sitter so she wouldn’t have to face her, but was terrified because she had a video!

As swingers, we never know what crazy situations we will find ourselves in.  What I can say, is that we can never tell our vanilla friends stories like these!

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Drama in the lifestyle, why it is sure to ruin everyone’s night.

Drama free group of swingers wearing  Partners ID swinger symbol jewelry 

Nobody likes complicated things and most people hate drama. As a rule, when it comes to swinging, it is no different.

Swinging is something people do for enjoyment.  Going to a lifestyle event, hotel takeover, swing club, private party or a lifestyle cruise are things people do for fun.  If couples were looking for a complicated evening or vacation, they would make plans with their teenage children.

The majority of the time, swinging is a fun way to spend a night.  You get dressed up, you get cleaned up and you are looking forward to a good time.  Lifestyle friends are always up for a party and it does not matter what the venue is.

A perfect night usually entails heading out to a party or club. Once there, meeting friends and people you do not know (and some you do), having a few drinks,  and heading into a play area.  Next, you try to find another couple (or single).  Ideally,  everybody plays, everybody is happy, and you leave.  That’s not so hard, right?

For many couples it is simple.  They have conversations about what works for the both of them.  Usually, the problems begin when a couple does not communicate or one is not honest.

So what causes drama in the lifestyle?  Swingers are out to have fun, what could possibly go wrong?  Here are a few issues that make swinging more difficult than it needs to be:

1.  Someone is too drunk to play.
2.  One member of the couple is not interested but their partner doesn’t seem to notice (or care).
3.  The couple is in a fight but they try to find another couple anyway.
4.  One member of the couple is not a player, they just like to watch.
5.  The husband is full swap, the wife is not.
6.  One of them gets jealous when they see the other play.
7.  They want others to touch them but they don’t reciprocate
8.  One is pushing the other to do things they are not comfortable with.
9.  One engages with another couple without getting their partners approval
10.  One gets upset and leaves during play.

Not surprisingly, when couples find themselves in situations such as these, it ruins the moment, and sometimes the night.

With this in mind,  how can you avoid ending up with couples who create drama?  Unfortunately, with the exception of someone being too intoxicated, it is hard to know in advance.  Couples are not always upfront and honest regarding what they will and will not participate in. Not to mention the couples who say they are full swap and ready to play, and they are not.

To begin with, couples who enter a play area must communicate with each other and the couple they intend to play with.  If one of you does not play, be honest and upfront.  Pushing your partner into a situation that they are not comfortable with can never end well.  Besides, couples who cause drama eventually develop a reputation as such.

Like myself, most people are in the lifestyle to have fun.  Swinging should be something you do for enjoyment.  If you don’t enjoy it or you have a laundry list of rules, better to stay home.

The bottom line, I love to swing, but only when it is simple…

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How the official international swinger symbol was created.

Official Internationl Swinger Symbol

Partners ID is proud to report that our swinger symbol is the only official swinger symbol recognized around the world.  We have sold our jewelry in close to 40 countries around the world and we are growing every day!

Why we created a symbol

Prior to entering this business, we did our research.  Did a swinger symbol exist?  If it did, we simply wanted to wear one!  The truth is, it did not.  There was no other symbol in the world that was created to identify swingers.  NASCA had created one in the past but gave us their blessing to create something new.   The closest thing we found was the black ring, but that seemed to be a controversial symbol.  Although swingers tried to designate a specific finger to wear the ring, black rings were readily available so many people wear them who are not swingers.

We did our homework, no symbol existed

After traveling to many different countries, we realized a swinger symbol simply did not exist.  Out of our own personal frustration, we got together with 2 other couples, from other countries, and decided to create a unique swinger symbol. Something that could not be confused or easily guessed by others.

The creation of the actual swinger symbol

This was no small undertaking.   It was important to design something symbolic of the lifestyle.  (Read about the meaning of our pendant here): https://www.swingersjewelry.net/what-does-the-pendant-mean                                            A symbol that could not simply be googled to discover its meaning, was of utmost importance.  If the design was too basic, anyone who saw the logo would be able to uncover its meaning, and that was something we wanted to avoid.  For us, a swinger symbol needed to be both beautiful, discreet, and private.

The process was a long one

When the swinger symbol design was finalized, we went through the process of mock-ups and had to decide on materials and colors, etc.  Next came the process of trying to figure out how to let people know about this symbol and what it represents.  

Why the name Partners ID?

We chose the name Partners ID to keep it meaningful but professional.  If anyone saw the name on a package, it would not be cause for concern.  We hired someone in the lifestyle to create our social media profiles and write blogs for our website.  Every photo, every design, everything we have done was with swingers in mind.  It is now an honor to receive emails from our customers relating to how they met other swingers because they wore our jewelry.

Including other swingers in the process, was important to us

Your opinions and feedback and are always extremely important to us. Each email and suggestion is taken seriously and discussed at monthly meetings.  We have donated jewelry for countless events and try to be an integral part of the community.  All the while, we continued listening to what those in the lifestyle want for their swinger symbol.  

The black ring with the swinger symbol is our design

When we discovered many swingers loved the black ring, we came up with the idea to put our logo on it to take the guess work out.  Experimenting with tattoos at a takeover proved swingers wanted our logo on a tattoo and so we created those.  Bumper stickers?  We created those as well.  A yard sign?  A beach flag?  All at our customers’ requests. 

There will always be copy cats…

This is what it takes to become the company that created the international symbol for swingers.  There can only be one swinger symbol or the purpose is mute.  Just like any other group, it is important to embrace one symbol and to wear it with pride.  The best part of our swinger symbol is that it is only known to those in the lifestyle.  They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery and we will accept the imitators with grace, knowing that they have simply copied both our ideas and products.

Just like swingers wanted the black ring, they want more than jewelry options…

We have expanded our line to include anything you can desire with our swinger symbol on it.  Although we personally sell mostly jewelry, we have partnered with other companies to provide an array of products.  If you are looking for jewelry, our website, our Etsy store, and Amazon carries those items:  

www.swingerjewelry.net      https://www.etsy.com/shop/Swingersjewelry  

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Why your attitude and demeanor are crucial to your success in a swing club.

 

couple in swing club wearing Partners ID lifestyle jewelry

 

By now, for those who read my blogs, you know my husband and I spend a good amount of time in swing clubs.  This weekend was no different and we proudly made it out all 3 nights!  

It is in the swing club that I often find topics of interest.  This weekend we were talking about people’s demeanors and how this can affect their success in the lifestyle.  We observed an attractive woman talking with her husband at the bar.  She was smiling and seemed approachable but her husband looked angry and annoyed.  

Soon after first noticing them, they were passing by to walk to the dance floor and she stopped and said hello to us.  Her husband, still with a sour look on his face, stopped beside her.  We introduced ourselves and waited for them to do the same.  She kissed us hello and told us both of their names.  He simply nodded his head.  When we spoke to him he was cordial but never once smiled.   As they walked away we tried to imagine what kind of success they would have in a swing club.  

This man looked so unapproachable, it is hard to imagine that anyone would choose to engage in conversation with them.  We spotted them from time to time and his demeanor never changed.  Even on the dance floor, he looked miserable.  It is possible that he did not want to come to a swing club and was doing it for his wife.  If this was the case, I would understand.  Clearly, however, this man did not have to worry about other couples wanting to get close to them.

Oddly, when the couple was passing us to go back to their seats at the bar, she stopped to speak with my husband.  I smiled at her husband and he simply pretended to be interested in whatever was on the tv screen.  I laughed to myself because this woman was truly wasting her time.  At this point, even if this man suddenly wanted to play with me, I had zero interest.  

Swingers, in general, are warm and friendly people.  While there are exceptions to every rule, most people that we meet in swing clubs, are there to meet others.  For this reason, if someone conveys negativity, their chances of hooking up with others is very low.

I couldn’t help but wonder if she realized how he came across to other people.  Our assumption was that she brought him to the club and clearly, he did not appreciate being there.   We lost track of them but I imagine their night ended early.

This is not the first person in a swing club that I have observed with a chip on their shoulder. It continues to confuse me as to why people waste their time and money doing something they are clearly not interested in doing.  To please their partner?  Maybe, but obviously this generally backfires.  

Swinging is something that couples must approach together.  If a couple is not on the same page, this is the result.  Coming into a lifestyle situation with a closed mind is not going to yield a positive outcome, regardless of how much one person wants it to work.  

I considered that maybe this is simply the man’s disposition.  It is possible, however,  that he is one of those people whose resting facial expression leads people astray.  His wife did mention he is foreign, perhaps his country of origin does not expect people to smile and be up all the time.  Maybe he had a bad day at work or some other personal problem.  

Any of these things are possible and it was for that reason that when they stopped to talk, we made an effort to be warm to them both.  Not because we wanted to play with them, but simply to be nice and put him at ease.  This is where he fell short.  He had an opportunity to be friendly and he chose to be cold.

Much like when someone has bad breath and we wonder why their significant other doesn’t tell them, we questioned if she said something to him.  If the problem is that he is shy, his wife needs to help him engage when the opportunity presents itself.  If he is simply unfriendly, maybe they need to rethink the whole swing club idea.

Whatever the case, the bottom line is that a positive attitude and demeanor are important if you want to have success in a swing club.  There are too many friendly faces for people to waste their time trying to warm up someone who is just plain cold.

 

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A unicorn, a tatto and an unexpected swinger encounter in Atlanta, Ga.

Partners ID Swinger Symbol Tattoo

Dear Partners ID,

I will speak for myself when I say that I love to read your letters from swingers who have found each other because they spotted your jewelry.

My story is a little bit different. I do have several pieces of your jewelry, which I love but it was your tattoo that inspired me. You might remember that I had contacted you asking for permission to use your logo for a permanent tattoo. I did have it done and just like the jewelry, it attracts attention.

The tattoo is located on the inside of my wrist so it is discreet but visible. The interesting thing about this tattoo is how it alerts people in the lifestyle that I am definitely a player. When they see it, they know what it means. Nobody has a permanent tattoo if they are not a genuine swinger!

The part about meeting another (very unexpected swinger) starts now. I had taken a bad fall and injured my wrist. My dad suggested I make an appointment to see his long time friend who is an orthopedic surgeon. After sending me for X-rays they determined that it was indeed fractured.

I met the doctor for a consultation. He suggested placing it in a cast for 6-8 weeks. When he examined my wrist he stopped when he spotted my tattoo. I could see him looking carefully at the design and came right out and asked me what it meant. Talk about awkward! The explanation I gave was for nothing as he told me he knew the sign well; he too is in the lifestyle!

We did not make plans to meet up or anything of that nature. After all, he is my dad’s friend! This is a man who I have known since I was a young kid and never would have suspected he is in the lifestyle. We agreed that it should be our little secret but he did love my tattoo!

Although we will not see each other as swinger friends, he did fix me up with someone else who is in the lifestyle. We have been out a few times and we will see where that goes!

Love your concept, love the design and love the jewelry. I hope this story makes you smile and who knows, maybe I’ll be the second swinger bride!

Big hugs,

Nancy
Atlanta, Ga

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You might be the good looking one, but I’m the one wearing the lifestyle jewelry!

Painter wearing Partners ID lifestyle jewelry

Dear Partners ID,

I am happy to be able to write to you about how your lifestyle jewelry helped me to meet someone.  Those stories always make me smile and I think everyone who wears the jewelry is looking forward to writing one of their own.  Here is mine.

A few years ago I was dating a woman who introduced me to the lifestyle.   We spent several weekends each month attending house parties and hotel takeovers.  When we broke up, the prospect of being that single guy did not excite me and so I now only attend house parties if I am specifically invited.

For the past eleven years, I have been working as a house painter. After graduating from high school, my friend and I opened a business and we have done very well.  We have been friends since we were kids.  He has always been the more outgoing, good looking one, I am the quiet, reserved one.  

The next job on our roster was in a very upscale area.  The house is large and the property is isolated.  The nearest house is probably a quarter of a mile away.  It is surrounded by dense forest and a small lake.

The job was to paint the entire house, inside and out.  The first day we arrived it was raining, so we started with the inside.  We were greeted by the homeowners and their two young children.  The man soon set out for work and took the kids with him.   His wife explained that he always takes the kids to school and she picks them up.

The woman was very friendly and showed us around the house.  We set up our gear and got down to work.  Since we have been working together for so many years, we have a system and we each know what our job entails.  

Luckily the weather cleared up and after completing the inside, we were able to move outside to paint.  After getting set up outside, the woman came out and told us there was something she wanted to be fixed inside the house.  We tried to tell her we would get to it later in the day but she was insistent.  My partner generally paints inside and I usually paint outside but she insisted that she show it to me.

I climbed off my ladder and follow her into the house.  She leads me upstairs and into her bathroom.  Pointing to an area of ceiling that she said was imperfect, I looked up.  Not only was she wearing a robe when I looked up but also her hair was in a ponytail. When I turned back to say I saw no problem, the robe was on the floor and her long was hair was hanging straight.   The woman was wearing only her panties.  This was truly a first for me.  I imagine the shocked look on my face told her I was not expecting this.  She pointed to my ring (your ring) and said she had a few pieces of her own.  

Without hesitating, she picks up her phone and calls her husband.   With her husband on facetime, we proceeded to get down to business.  Needless to say, we had a great time!  I did feel bad that my buddy was working but she said he had been flirting with her since day one and she loved that he didn’t get what he wanted.  Had he been wearing the jewelry, she said she would have asked him to join us. 

This went on every day that we were there. Sometimes inside the house. other times outside.  Needless to say, my partner was suspicious as to why she only wanted me to come inside.   I just shrugged my shoulders and I said I really didn’t know why.  

Needless to say, I love my ring it is magical!   I recommend everyone in the lifestyle wear it as it does exactly what it was intended to do!

Thank you for doing what you do!

Warmly,

Steve

Millburn, NJ

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A single man in the lifestyle, a very happy ending.

Single man wearing Partners ID Lifestyle jewelry

Dear Partners ID,

I am a single man and I am in the lifestyle.  Let me tell you, it’s not easy for single men.  It’s easy to understand why people have such a negative reaction to single men in the lifestyle.  Trust me, even I have received dick pics in my inbox and I’m not even bi.

It actually takes more effort from the good guys to get past the stigma that is attached to us due to men with bad intentions and/or poor judgment.  Luckily for me, people tend to be able to differentiate the good guys from the bad relatively quickly.  

Although some think otherwise before getting to know me, I am not in the lifestyle for “easy” or “non-committal” sex.  Believe it or not, I took to the lifestyle to find love.  Yes, love, I was looking for a wife.

Like most people who know me, this revelation seemed to shock people.  Why on earth would you look for a wife in a swing club?  That’s like looking for a needle in a haystack! 

Growing up, my parents were swingers.  Although I did not know when I was a kid, I discovered their “secret” when I was in my teens.  It was confusing at first, but after the initial shock, I realized my parents seemed happier than any of my friend’s parents.  They didn’t say they had sex with other people, just that they had close relationships as couples.  It took me a little bit of research on my own to figure out what exactly they were trying to say.

After I turned 40, I realized that I had been serial dating for years and could not seem to find what I was looking for.  After internet dating sites, picking girls up at bars and being set up on countless blind dates I was ready to give up.  Many of the women I dated started out great, but not long into the relationship I could feel the change.  Sex was never as important to them as it was to me.  I wanted to find a woman who actually loved sex and this proved to be very difficult!

Growing up with parents who were constantly physical with each other, I knew this was possible, I just had to find it.  This is what led me to the lifestyle.  

Although there are not too many single women at any lifestyle event, there are always a few.  And guess what?  Many of them are in the lifestyle because they love sex!  It was not hard to meet unicorns and I have dated quite a few over the past few years.  Guess what?  This is not how I met my wife!

Believe it or not, I was in a swing club and saw your lifestyle jewelry!  I bought a necklace and started wearing it all the time.  Even if it wasn’t going to work, I love the design.

Not long after I started wearing it, I met a woman while at a sports bar who noticed the necklace.  She knew what it meant and we started to talk.  That was almost one year ago to the day and we are getting married in March.  Wow!  Best $50 I have ever spent!  And if you are all wondering, yes, she loves sex!

Sorry for the long story but it has a happy ending that I wanted to share with you!  I also want to give a shout out to your customer service girl Julie, who is so patient and kind!  Happy New Year and best wishes to all of you!

Carson

Detroit, MI

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