Swingers frequently refer to the lifestyle. What exactly is the lifestyle?

Swingers at club wearing Partners ID lifestyle jewelry

The first time my husband and I went to a swing club, it was strictly out of curiosity.  His, more than mine.  My husband had heard about a local swing club and was eager to see what it was all about.  Our lives were busy with work, kids, and vanilla friends.  I don’t think either one of us felt we were ‘missing’ anything.  We were very sexually active together and we both liked to explore new things.  Since a swing club was  something we had never explored, my curiosity got the better of me and I agreed to check it out.

Upon entering the swing club, it became clear that many people seemed to know each other.  They stood around in clusters talking, laughing, and drinking.  The dance floor was already packed with people.  Immediately I felt a sense of community within the club.  Couples drifted from group to group, kissing and hugging like (warm) old friends.  

As soon as we approached the bar for a drink, a couple seated at the bar spoke with us.  Having been to many bars and clubs over the years, I was surprised at how friendly they were. It was rare that strangers would start a  conversation with us when we were out.  

The couple asked if it was our first time at the club.  The man noted that he had never seen us before.  I asked if he knew everyone else in the club that evening.  He glanced around and said that while he didn’t know everyone’s name, he recognized most of the people.  As we knew nothing about swingers, this came as a surprise to us both.  Namely, the fact that these people did not simply choose this swing club for a Saturday night outing.  Clearly, these people were regulars and that is why they all seem to know each other.

That first night at the club was fun.  We drank, we danced and we mingled easily with other couples.  It seemed to us that people recognized very quickly that we were new.  Considering there were well over 100 people there that night, we were surprised and impressed.  

It seemed only logical to return and get our money’s worth since membership was required to enter the club,   Our rationale was that since we had already paid, we should make use of the 3-month membership.  

In the beginning, we visited the club about once a month on Saturday nights.  Although some couples had mentioned that they frequently spent 2-3 nights per week there, we were skeptical.  Why would we spend so many nights each week in a swing club?

Well, before long, that changed.  Slowly but surely, we started to try different nights at the club and we were hooked!  It was so easy to simply show up, without having to make plans.  Each night we went was a slightly different crowd but there were many regulars that we looked forward to seeing.  I have to admit, the atmosphere can be intoxicating.  In all honesty, over time, we preferred our nightlife at the club, to anything else we had done in the past.

The club became like Cheers (the infamous bar on tv).  Everyone knows your name, what you drink, what music you like to dance to, etc.  It was about more than just sex.  The club was a place where you could let your hair down and just have a good time.  Before we knew it, without ever knowing such a thing existed, we were a part of it.  It is called the lifestyle.

Our nights revolved around the club, we discovered a local nude beach and Sunday Fundays became a ritual.   Before long we were vacationing at lifestyle resorts and enjoying sleepovers with friends.  What started out as an adventurous night out to see a swing club had morphed into a whole new way of life!

As a result of the lifestyle, we lost some vanilla friends over the years. It became almost impossible to maintain some of those relationships because we became unavailable.  Committing to an evening with vanilla friends kept us away from the lifestyle for a night and we rarely wanted to stay away.

Does everyone who visits a swing club succumb to the lifestyle?  Whatever happens, it is obviously a choice that you make.  Some people enjoy an occasional night out with other swingers, either in a club or elsewhere.  On the other hand, there are those who jump right in and embrace the lifestyle right from the beginning.

Finally, those who are not in the lifestyle are probably wondering if  we are happier in the lifestyle than we were prior.  The answer is yes.  We love the way of life, the friends and the fun.  There is a camaraderie in the lifestyle that we have never found elsewhere.  Sure, we had good friends, but it was not the same.  There is freedom in the lifestyle that you do not find elsewhere.  

Try it!  You might like it!

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Golfers wearing Partners ID lifestyle jewelry
Hi Partners ID!

My husband and I have been wearing your jewelry for about 6 months. No one has ever asked if it has any special meaning. One friend did point out that they were both of the same design. We laughed and said that this is why we each bought a piece. Much like wedding rings, it makes us feel connected.

We are avid golfers and spend a lot of time at our golf club. Over the years, we have gotten to know most of the members. This is strictly a vanilla club.

As we are in the lifestyle, we have created two separate lives: our night life and our day life. There is no question that people would never suspect that we are swingers.

Like most weekends, we had plans to play golf with some friends.   At the last minute, the couple we had planned to play with had to cancel.  As a result, we were randomly paired up with another couple looking to play. Although we have known this couple for at least 8 years, the wife is a new golfer so they usually try to play alone.

After teeing off on the 3rd hole, my ball went very far to the right. As I approached I realized it went into the lake. The man who joined us drove up in his cart to hand me a ball retriever.  Just after hitting my ball, he offered me a ride to catch up with the others.   As soon as I sat in the cart, he started to laugh. I was confused and looked over at him. The man reached over and gently held the pendant of my necklace in his hand. He told me that they have been in the lifestyle for quite awhile and also have your jewelry.

This was a huge surprise!  We have known this couple for a long time and neither of us would have ever suspected that they are swingers.  It was equally as shocking for them to discover that we are also swingers.

This couple, like ourselves, prefer to travel for lifestyle events and parties. Over the past few weeks we have been in constant contact as it turns out, we are both going on a lifestyle cruise in April!

You often tell people that it’s impossible to know  who the other swingers are, and as you can see, this is true!   Certainly, without the jewelry, we would never have guessed.   For instance, here is a couple that we have known for 8 years and never suspected.

Everyone needs to wear your jewelry. It really is the only way to know who else is in the lifestyle!

Thanks!

Lauren and Andy
City withheld, AZ