My name is Chris and I’ve been swinging for over 20 years.

Chris, who has been swinging for 20 years, sipping coffee wearing a Partners ID necklace
Man sipping coffe wearing Partners ID necklace.

My name is Chris and I have been swinging for over 20 years.  This is the first time I have ever met swingers without actually seeking them out either online or by attending a swinger’s event.

I often travel for business and my wife and I have an open marriage. What happens on the road, stays on the road and what my wife does while I’m on the road is all good. (I just want to hear all about it).

Recently my work took me to Boston, MA and while I have been there before, I never really thought of is as a place that would be riddled with swingers. Boston is a college town with so many young people that I never thought much about swinging when I visited in the past.

What set this trip apart was that my wife surprised me for our anniversary and bought me a beautiful gold and silver necklace from you, which of course has the pendant for swingers. I wear it everyday but never really expected to meet random swingers. Well, I was wrong on two accountants. First, Boston is a whole lot more than a college town, and second, you will meet random swingers when you wear the jewelry.

After spending the morning in a meeting, I needed to get some fresh air. I walked out to find a Starbucks so I could sit and answer some emails on my computer. I ordered some coffee, sat down at a table, and got to work. About 5 minutes after sitting down, a couple walked over and asked if they could sit at the table with me. I glanced up at them and told them no problem. We were sitting in a corner where we had relative privacy. Starbucks was busy and it was quite loud. I looked back down and started to type when I overheard the conversation between the couple. They were discussing their travel plans for an upcoming vacation to Miami and how they were excited to finally meet a couple they were talking to on SDC. As soon as I heard SDC I looked up and they were both looking at me. I didn’t say anything but the woman asked me if I was on SDC. I was taken aback but then she pointed to my necklace.

Honestly I couldn’t believe it! I took out my headphones and told her I was on SDC and assumed they were as well. She opened her bag, took out a card and handed it to me. She said she hoped to hear from me soon. With that, the two of the them got up from the table and left. I was so shocked I could barely believe what had just happened. How lucky to be in the right place at the right time!

Needless to say, i immediately signed on to SDC to check them out. They looked to be a very hot couple who are totally open so I sent them an email telling them I was only in town until the next day but would love to meet up with them. I got a response from them within a half an hour inviting me to their home that evening.

I won’t go into too much detail but I will say it was a wonderful experience that I would never have had if it were not for wearing your necklace. As you can see I have placed an order for a few more pieces. Although my new friends knew what the jewelry meant, they did not own the jewelry. As a thank you I have purchased these pieces for them.

I’m very excited for what I might experience in the future. We have been swinging for more than 20 years and nothing like this has ever happened to me before. This is a great help for swingers who like to meet others in unlikely places.

That’s my story!

Chris K.

Chicago, IL

Swinging: The good, the bad and the ugly. Scenes from the playroom…

Pillow fight between swinging couple and a girl. All wearing Partners ID jewelry
Pillow fight between swinging couple and a girl. All wearing Partners ID jewelry

Are you a swinger?  If you are and you have been in the lifestyle for a while, you have witnessed some comical, odd or just plain bizarre occurrences.  It goes without saying that the whole process of swinging can lead to some very interesting experiences.

The moments leading up to actual “swinging” can also prove entertaining.

 

For those of you who go to swing clubs, the whole locker room scenario can be rather compelling to watch both before the couple enters the back room as well as upon their return.  It is possible that some people are oblivious to those around them, but for those who are people watchers, the entertainment value is not lost on them.  It begins with couples entering the locker room; some are loving and considerate.  They help each other disrobe and seem to be in good spirits.  Others clearly are not quite as happy and are not afraid to show it.  I have witnessed couples where one clearly does not want to go into the back and the other is undressed before they even get the locker opened.  It would seem to me that this is a disaster in the making.  We all know this can’t end well, back even though things are starting off so poorly, eventually, the couple will make their way into the back room.

 

When you see such a scenario in the locker room, this is the time for the couple to talk.  Swinging is not for everyone, but whatever their problem may be, this is something that should be ironed out prior to engaging with another couple.  If couples have rules regarding swinging, this too should be discussed ahead of time.  When couples head into the playroom with another couple, it can be too late to start a conversation regarding what works for them.  If they head back when things are not going well between them, this can also be a blow up waiting to happen.

 

When couples try to play with another couple without know their boundaries, things can get difficult quickly.   Sometimes everything seems to be so easy and uncomplicated; other times not so much.  In a recent visit to the back room, a very nice couple approached us while we were playing and started to touch us.  I looked over and they were an attractive, equally matched ( I know, how often does that happen?) couple and I knew my partner would be agreeable, so we welcomed them to join us.  Everything was going well, they were fun to play with and she was screaming with pleasure so I was sure she was ok.  She was ok, until her husband came.  It was like the exorcist, she sat straight up and start spewing obscenities at him.  I think at one point her head spun all the way around (just kidding).  She jumped off the mattress and stormed out of the back room leaving her husband to grab his towel and run off behind her.  Maybe they have issues with saying goodnight and this way they can avoid small talk?  It’s always hard to understand when I see things like this because 30 seconds before she was screaming and splashing all over the place.  Why was it ok for her but not him?  Interesting experience…

 

One night we witnessed two couples enter the back together and everyone looked eager to get down to business.  The couples switched and everyone seemed to be enjoying themselves.  One man pulled out a condom right away, climbed on top of the other woman and got busy.   It was moving along smoothly  until the other man reached for a condom.  The husband pulled away from the girl he was playing with and got on top of his wife, essentially blocking the other guy.  His wife seemed to think this was perfectly normal, wrapped her legs around his waist and was having a perfectly good time.  The other couple were sitting there with their mouths open.  What was that??  They tried to touch the couple but were totally ignored.  Soon after they got up and left.  I don’t think the couple will get a rain check…

 

Recently when in the back room we witnessed two couples meet at the bar and agree to move onto the mattress nearby.  One man quickly switched and was going down on the other mans wife.  The other man then turned toward the first man’s wife and tried to touch her.  She very politely took his hand off her and moved farther away from him.  Her husband and the other girl continued to play and from time to time his wife would touch his back or his arm but never pulled him away.  This went on for quite some time and several times the man would once again try to touch her only to be rejected completely.  After the couple was finished playing the foursome got up and headed for the locker room.  They were still there when we arrived and oddly enough everyone seemd very happy and friendly.  What????  Did I miss something?  Very strange.  I tend to doubt that many couples would feel this was a good experience.

 

We have had many nights when we are getting dressed to leave and see couples return from the back room.  Again, same scenario; some happy and laughing and others are fighting and yelling and cursing at each other.  It truly is an adventure to spend time in a swing club!  Never a dull evening and always a good show!