Swinging is a lot of fun and allows people to live out some of their sexual fantasies in a safe way. You meet other swingers, you have sex, you go home. But what happens when swingers want to push the envelope and see if they can wrangle in a vanilla person to fulfill their fantasy? If this sounds exciting to you, perhaps there are things you should consider before taking this route.
Most swingers choose to keep the fact that they are in the lifestyle a secret. They go to great lengths to hide this from family, friends, coworkers and neighbors. Why do we do this? Well, let’s face it, people who are not in the lifestyle really do not understand the concept. Most people find swinging to be highly unethical and simply cannot imagine giving their partner permission to have sex with other people. Although they have seen threesomes and gangbangs while watching porn, this is not something they want to explore for themselves.
Why then, do some swingers think that picking up an unsuspecting vanilla person for a sexual encounter is a good idea? Fantasies are a wonderful thing, but when people try to incorporate that into their real lives, with unsuspecting people, things can go very wrong.
I have heard stories of couples hitting on unsuspecting businessmen in hotel bars which had near disastrous consequences. Some couples send their wives into the bar to hit on the men. They don’t tell the men about the husband waiting upstairs until the man arrives at the room. Most men simply leave, but one couple chose a man with an anger problem and he was ready to fight the man for the “right” to have sex with his wife and insisted the husband leave the room. A quick thinking wife dialed the operator from the hotel phone and security showed up a few moments later to escort the man from their room.
I read a story on a forum about a couple who befriended a stranger in a bar and invited him back to their home for a drink. They honestly thought he knew what their intentions were but this man is not in the lifestyle and so his mind did not go there. When the wife tried to hit on him he freaked out and left. The next day they found a sign on their lawn announcing that ‘swingers live here’.
Another couple tried to pick up a woman in a bar while they were vacationing. They brought her back to their room hoping she would be open to a threesome. She did kiss the woman for a few minutes but said she was too drunk and needed to sleep it off on the couch for a while and then would be open to sex with them both. The woman fell asleep and eventually so did this couple. When they woke up, she was gone and so was his wallet.
The lifestyle offers so many ways to meet other swingers that it is hard to understand why people would put themselves in these types of situations. Although you read stories about wild nights of sex with strangers that couples manage to pick up, how many are actually true? There is a good chance that most of these stories are fantasies that people wish were real!
Swing clubs offer an environment where threesomes and foursomes and gang bangs are normal and accepted. Flirting with other men and women is expected and desired. There are bouncers and a staff that is ready to intervene if ever there is a problem. Every person who enters a club must present ID at the door, which is entered into a computer so there are no strangers in a club.
Online dating sites for swingers offers people the chance to meet other swingers for fun. Why not contact couples or singles to meet in a bar or other public venue from a site like this? At least you know these people are open to whatever you are looking for because you can ask them before you meet!
We have heard recent horror stories about dating apps like Tinder and Plenty of Fish yet some couples continue to hope that they can meet other swingers from these types of apps. Why not try an app that is geared to swingers?
Craigslist has proven itself to be a haven for the insane. Ashley Madison has attracted some swingers but why look for people who are cheating on their spouse?
It is not hard to find other swingers with all the resources that are out there. Check Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or simply google to find endless sites that help swingers find other swingers.
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It is important to remember that just because you and your partner are sexually adventurous and open, does not mean that people who appeal to you feel the same way. Even close friends who can be a bit flirtatious are not usually swingers and might be shocked if you hit on them.