Swinging is not for everyone. Some people need a little push to get started.

Swinging is not something everyone is open to.  Sometimes people need alittle push to get their toes wet in the swinger world. Here is one such story from a customer:

Dear Partners ID,

This is probably a little different from the emails you get from other swingers. I am actually not a swinger (soon to be, as my husband would say).

A few years ago my husband brought up the subject of swinging to me. He was very quiet about it at first but over time he started to push me. I have to be honest; I had zero interest in the whole idea. We have two young children and they are my priority. Most weekend night I am happy to stay home and watch a movie with my kids. My husband, is exactly the opposite. He would go out 7 nights a week if I agreed.

Anyway, after he started to push me towards experimenting with swinging and I was very confused by the whole idea. I felt inadequate, like I was not enough for him and he was looking for something else. He tried on several occasions to take me to a swing club but I was not open to the whole idea.

For Christmas he bought me a beautiful necklace with an interesting pendant. I put it on and thought nothing of it. I proudly showed it off to my parents and friends and everyone loved it.

One night we went out for dinner and when we were having dessert, a couple approached us at our table. I looked at my husband to see if he knew them but I could tell from his expression that he did not. The woman pointed to my necklace and showed me that she had a bracelet with the same pendant. I laughed at the coincidence but had no idea that it meant something! They asked if they could join us and as they were so friendly, we agreed. We actually had a wonderful time talking and laughing with them. After we were finished, we exchanged phone numbers and said we would get together soon.

On the ride home I was telling my husband how nice it was to meet a couple as nice as they were. It was then that he told me about the jewelry. At first I was upset that he let me walk around with it not even knowing what it meant. Then I realized that it helped us to meet a couple who seemed so normal.

They sent us a text the next morning and asked us if we wanted to meet them for dinner during the week. I hesitated because I wasn’t sure what they would be expecting. I decided to call her and tell her the truth. She couldn’t have been nicer! She said no problem, dinner was all they were expecting.

We met them for dinner and had a wonderful time. I loved how easy they were to talk to. I felt like we could talk about anything, which is not the case with our other friends. They told us stories about swinging that made me laugh so hard that my stomach hurt.

After dinner when we were leaving, she pulled me aside and told me that if I was ever interested in exploring playing with either a girl or a guy, we should call them. She said they would be happy to make it a comfortable experience with no strings attached. If I felt ok with it we could try, if not, that would be ok as well.

She kissed me goodbye on the lips and I was shocked and a little turned on all at the same time. In the car on the way home by husband was all smiles. I had to agree that the thought of kissing her again was on my mind.

We have plans to go to their house tonight. I don’t know what will happen, but I wanted to let you know that if I hadn’t been wearing the necklace, this would never have happened. I am still wearing it so maybe I am ready to try swinging!

xoxo
Cassidy

Lifestyle flags; what are they for?

Lifestyle Flags; what are they for?

Lifestyle flags have a definite purpose for swingers.  It seems that swingers are always looking for each other but would prefer to be discreet about identifying themselves. For this reason, the lifestyle jewelry is perfect. Wear the necklace or the bracelet, and nobody knows what it is if they are not in the lifestyle.

What about the times you are trying to call attention to yourself?  That is the purpose purpose of the lifestyle flags. The original concept was for beach goers. Whether in Fort Lauderdale at the nude beach (Haulover), at Hedonism in Jamaica, Desire in Mexico, in Tampa at Caliente or Paradise Lakes, in Cap D’agde in France, or any other swinger/nudist beach, the flag comes in very handy.  It has openings on each side for a pole so that remains open even when there is no wind.

We were at the beach recently (we live in Florida) and had our flag standing in the sand beside us. Within ten minutes of arriving on the beach, couples came over to talk to us. Some asked what the flag meant, others knew and wanted to say hi. Either way, we met a lot of people on the beach that day simply because  people saw the flag.

The neon color makes it very easy to spot. The picture of the bracelet with the logo, makes it apparent to swingers that we are there to meet other swingers. The best part is, it is very easy to see from quite a distance.  If people are not close enough to see our jewelry, they can easily see our flag.

Lifestyle Flag
Lifestyle Flag

Friends took the lifestyle flag on a lifestyle cruise recently and taped it to their cabin door. They were shocked at how many people came and knocked on their door to say hi. A lifestyle cruise (or resort) means there are both swingers and nudists present. The flag helps identify you to other swingers.

Another couple used their flag when meeting a group of swingers in the lobby of a hotel for a meet and greet. It was easy to spot, and nobody had to be afraid to approach them.   The flag made it obvious to others that they were approaching the right group of people without having to ask.

We have another friend who owns a boat.  They like to try to meet up with others in the lifestyle to dock and enjoy an afternoon. Sometimes outsiders drift over to try to join the fun but  without any kind of sign, nobody is sure if they are in the lifestyle and nobody ever wants to ask. They took some  lifestyle flags and started giving them out to swingers with boats. This way, they would be able to spot each other out on the water. It worked!  It eliminated the guess work.  They see the  lifestyle flag and they know who they can approach.

There are many reasons why the lifestyle flag is helpful. They are very durable and easy to use.

What will you use yours for?

Vaginas: They are sought after by so many, yet rarely spoken of.

Let’s talk about vaginas, shall we? It is something people rarely mention…

Vaginas are an integral part of our sex lives yet just saying the word seems to make people uncomfotable.   To test out this theory it seemed natural to talk with a group of swingers.  Swingers are such a great resource when sex is the topic. They are not afraid to be open and candid. If you want to know something that you have never been comfortable asking, regarding sex, ask a swinger. They might not have all the answers, but they will certainly give you any information they can! Why then, when they hear the word vagina, do even swingers giggle?

So what’s the deal with vaginas?

Just the word vagina makes people shy away. A Michigan lawmaker was banned from speaking in her state’s House of Representatives because she said the word “vagina.” Really?! Is the vagina not simply a female body part? Should she have called it a va jay jay? How about pussy or snatch? Better?

How about the tampon commercials? They are obviously dealing directly with vaginas yet they never once use the word. How is this possible? If you watch carefully, they don’t even make mention of the female genitalia; not even a “down there” reference. What’s up with that?

 

It makes people giggle and look at you like you are drunk when you say the word vagina.

There are so many nicknames for vagina that this should be a red flag right there! I have heard everything from penis snuggie, to tuna taco to honey pot, and those are some of the nicer ones. There are actually lists of names on the internet. Here are a few sites I found:

Name That Vajayjay: 40 Words For Every Situation

https://www.bustle.com/articles/105361

http://www.webdate.com/forum/all_things_webdate/Unique_Names_for_A_Vagina

 

Not even swingers are comfortable using the word?

I asked a group of female swingers if they ever use the word in general. Whether while talking about sex or even with their gynecologist. Ready for this? They all answered no, it’s not a word they feel comfortable using. Really? Even for swingers? I asked if they were having a problem with their vagina, how would they refer to it while with their doctor? The most common answer: “down there.” One said she would actually say va jay jay to her doctor. I asked if he laughed and she said no.

Why do we need to use other words to describe it?

Is there a problem with the word vagina? Maybe we should consider simply changing the name to something that doesn’t make people so uncomfortable. Even after reading through some pretty ridiculous, yet hilarious names, I’m not sure what would be better: Cooch? Hooha? Snatch?

Is it the actual name of the organ that causes so much discomfort or is it the organ itself?

Men seem to take great pride in the fact that they have a penis. We see that from an early age and it seems to stay with them for their whole lives. Even as little boys, we see them touching it and playing with it as soon as they become aware of it. It’s rare that men shy away from an opportunity to take it out and show it off.

Why is it different for women? Is it the way we are brought up? Almost as if we are taught that it is something to be ashamed of? Why should something that is part of our sexual makeup, something that can make us feel so good, make us feel so ashamed?

Maybe it is time we gave vaginas a break. They do an awful lot for us! It’s time we stopped being embarrassed by them and started giving them the respect they deserve! I am even willing to bet that after reading the word vagina this many times, you are feeling slightest more comfortable with it. Right?