Forums are an incredibly helpful tool for people in the lifestyle.

Couple reading a swinger forum

 

One of the many useful things that the internet has brought to us is our ability to communicate.  We email friends, we stay in touch with grade school buddies on Facebook, we comment on issues trending on Twitter, etc.  

When we have a question and do not know where to turn, we realize how helpful technology has become.   Even finding like-minded people to communicate with has become as easy as a click on the computer.  If you have a search engine, you have an opening to the world.  Close friends and relatives can be great resources, but sometimes we are looking for advice about things we prefer not to share with people close to us.

Back in the 1970s, many people enjoyed reading advice columns such as Dear Abby and Ann Landers.  Unfortunately, those columns dealt with topics of general interest.  While both columns were quite popular, people looking for something more sinister would not turn to either column for advice.

In the beginning, the internet offered chat rooms, which allowed us to communicate with others with similar interests.  Before becoming riddled with predators and other sketchy characters, chat rooms were somewhat useful.  One of the downfalls was that the only people who would see your question were those online at that moment.

Today, with so many social platforms, finding forums online is very easy.  This is especially true for swinger sites.  Most swinger dating sites include a forum.  Although popular websites such as Craigslist and Reddit also contain forums with swinger type discussions, they tend to attract trolls.  These participants are not there to help but rather to either provoke sexual talk or rile up the writers.

It is no surprise then, that so many swingers turn to forums on sites designed specifically for swingers.  There are quite a few out there and they are all very helpful.  

Situations that arise for swingers are unique and only another swinger can possibly relate.  The discussions range from topics such as ‘How to get my significant other into swinging’ to ‘I get off watching my husband get pegged, is that normal?’

In times of uncertainty, swingers generally cannot discuss problems that arise from swinging with their family or vanilla friends.  Most swingers will not call their mom on Sunday morning to complain that their husband wants them to try double penetration and they are not up for it.  Or that they took one for the team the previous night and were not happy about it.

 At times, swingers prefer to discuss their problems anonymously.  They might be looking for perspective on a situation they have encountered.  Perhaps a close swinger friend is a good resource but sometimes people would like to speak their mind and remain anonymous.  It is very easy to be honest when nobody knows who you are.  This applies to both the person posing the question and the people who respond.

Forums truly are a wonderful tool to help navigate all things lifestyle.  At times simply reading what others have to say helps to give swingers perspective on how others see situations.  

Swinger forums are also wonderful resources for party ideas, shoe shopping, vacation destinations, and swing clubs.  If you reach a forum and do not see what you are looking for, start your own topic!  Most forums will send you an email alerting you that someone has responded to your post.

Forums have truly made it easy to get the answers to whatever you might be looking for.  Anyone can join and comments are always welcome.  Sure, sometimes people will not agree with you, but either way, it helps to get perspective whether it is positive or negative. 

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Pegging; what is it and why is it supposed to be so pleasurable?  Is it a gateway to bisexual play?

 

 

It seems when you are in the lifestyle, you need to stay current with swinger’s vocabulary words.   Every time I think I have mastered it, I hear a new term that makes me run for my phone to look it up.  Today, the word of the day is “pegging”.  What is pegging?  It is when a woman penetrates a man’s ass, either with her finger, a dildo, vibrator or a strap on.   Most couples say that it begins with a woman using her finger and over time progresses to something more. 

Although the activity is not new, I was not aware that there was a word to describe it.   I can remember many years ago my husband mentioning that during play with another couple, the woman had inserted her finger into his ass.  He said that if anyone had seen his facial expression at that moment, he is certain, they would have laughed out loud.  He told me that it was almost a cartoonish expression with his eyes wide open and a look of complete shock on his face.  He was not expecting it and she was not subtle about her approach.  When I asked if he liked it, he said he was too shocked to say one way or the other.

One thing that people tend to want others to know, is that pegging is not in any way a “gay thing”.  Pegging takes place between a man and a woman so those who engage in this type of play want others to understand this.  Pegging does require a man to relinquish his role as the dominant partner and become the submissive partner.  For some men, they are simply not comfortable with this, for those who can do this, they swear by the benefit.

Pegging causes stimulation directly to the prostate gland.  The prostate gland is supposed to be so sensitive that simply stimulating this gland can bring men to orgasms that are much stronger than the traditional kind achieved by penile stimulation.   There is also a heavy supply of nerve endings in the anus which when touched, provide a tremendous amount of pleasure. 

Is this ever a gateway to bisexual play?  Although many men swear that it is not, many men say that it was for them.  Prior to pegging, they had no interest in other men but after experiencing the sensation that pegging created, they became curious and open.  While again, not all men follow this route, some do.  

What does the woman get out of this?  Many women have discovered strap ons that have vibrators built in which stimulate their clit during play.  This allows both the man and the woman to have simultaneous pleasure.  Other couples say that pegging was what opened them up to MFM play where the second male is behind the woman.  

There is no room in the lifestyle for judgment.  Everyone is there to live out their sexual fantasies.  If something feels good, people should be open to exploring.  Often, couples enter the lifestyle because their significant other is not open to certain types of play.  They are there looking for the experience with someone who is willing.   

Pegging is said to be very enjoyable but all men said the same thing:  this is not an activity to surprise someone with.  It is better to discuss this beforehand and to take things slow.

We already know that bisexuality amongst men is frowned upon in most swing clubs.  They have a policy that basically lets men know that they are free to do as they please behind closed doors in private rooms but there is no tolerance for public displays of male on male contact.  It seems that for many couples, this extends to pegging.  Even when it is from woman to man, this is generally done in private rooms.  Although I have personally witnessed women doing this, it’s not common to see.