How this NY couple discovered their friends are swingers too!

Swinger symbol jewelry necklace

Dear Partners ID,

We often read your blogs and always enjoy the stories about how other swingers have met each other because of your jewelry.  I have to admit, we were not even in the lifestyle when we first came across your website.  We found it because we were researching swinging to decide if seemed like a good fit for us.  

One of your blogs popped up when we first began our search and we liked Penny’s tongue in cheek style of writing.  We have been reading them ever since.

My wife and I are in our mid-fifties and have been married for a little over 20 years.  We have one son who no longer lives at home so we are now essentially empty nesters.  Sex has always been an important part of our relationship, so it was natural for us to look for something erotic that we could do as a couple.  

When we investigated swinging, we were totally shocked to read so many forums debating what age is too old to swing.  I, for one, imagined swinging was something for older couples who had been married for many years.  Baby boomers came to mind when I thought of swingers.  After all, isn’t swinging something couples do to spice up their marriage?  

Clearly, I was wrong.  Swingers seem to range in age from 20s through 60s (and even 70s).  Wow!  So we had to hit the reset button and try to open our minds to what swinging actually encompasses.  

We began checking out some swinger dating sites and looked to see if there were any swing clubs within a reasonable distance to our home.  All the while, my wife and I couldn’t help but wonder if we weren’t actually already friends with swingers.  Would we know?  

Next, we bought a necklace for each of us and wore them every time we went out.  

Well, it didn’t take long!  The second weekend after receiving the jewelry, we wore our necklaces to a friend’s housewarming party.  A couple we have known for at least 5 or 6 years approached us not long after we arrived.  They kissed us hello and the woman turned to her husband and said, “I knew it!”

She moved close to my wife and fondled the pendant which was hanging from her necklace.   We both looked at them, hoping we understood what was happening.  

What we discovered was that we do have friends in the lifestyle!  The funny thing is that they suspected we were swingers long before we had ever thought about it.  

The best part about this, is that we have friends who are now helping us to navigate the lifestyle!

Thank you for the lovely jewelry, we will keep you up to date on our new adventures!

Stay well,

Julie and Mark

Great Neck, NY

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Our hilarious experience taking ecstasy; part one of two…

 Ecstasy fueled party goers.

After reading about Monogamish Marriage’s* experience with MDMA, I thought I would write about our experience with Ecstasy.  

A few years ago we invited a friend for lunch on a Sunday afternoon.  As soon as he arrived, he took off his baseball cap and put his hand deep into the front pocket of his jeans.  He pulled out a white tissue which had been carefully folded.  Delicately placing the curious tissue on our countertop, he slowly unfolded and yelled, “Look what I have!”  My husband and I took a step forward to peer into the now open tissue.  

There inside the fold of the napkin lay 3 little pink heart-shaped pills.  I have to be honest, I had no idea what I was looking at, neither did my husband.  “Ecstasy,” he cried, “we are all going to take it this afternoon, it will be a blast.”

Shaking my head I turned away from the counter and told him no way, not interested.  My husband agreed that this was not his thing.  I will say that when I was in high school and college, I would have grabbed one and taken it without asking any questions.  For me, those days ended when I graduated from college.  For my husband, those days never existed and he never experimented with drugs at all.  

After desperately trying to persuade us to try this, our friend gave up.   The disappointment on his face was obvious.  He spent the entire afternoon extolling the virtues of taking ecstasy and how amazing sex is for everyone when they are high.  He even went as far as to tell my husband that his erection would be like never before.  

After he left, my husband seemed to take up his cause.  It doesn’t take a whole lot to persuade me to do things, and so I conceded. We decided it would be fun to have a small party and all the guests would take one half of a pill.

Soon the party was planned and we would be four couples.  Everyone was excited and arrived promptly so that we could all take a pill at the same time.  We were given our dietary instructions from the friend who had brought the pills and he was in charge of handing out the half pink hearts as each guest arrived.  We all swallowed our pills at the same time and went outside to listen to music.  Although he encouraged us not to drink alcohol, one couple did drink champagne.  

Almost exactly one hour later, I began to feel the effects.  It hit me so hard and fast that I was unable to speak.  I sat watching as the others seemed to notice that it was working.  The man who had been drinking suddenly felt very ill.  He started to sweat and felt palpitations in his heart.  As some of the others scrambled to help him, I literally could not move.  One of the men suggested that perhaps they should throw him into the pool to cool him off.  Sadly, I was the only one with any medical background and I couldn’t do anything but sit and pray that they didn’t do that because I was afraid the consequences could be deadly.  

Luckily, the initial reaction for this friend soon passed and he seemed to feel ok. One woman claimed she felt nothing and quickly took another half to “catch up”.  

We soon moved the party into the hot tub where we imagined all of the fun would begin.  The water was warm and everyone got comfortable.  The woman sitting next to me tapped me on the shoulder and in a baby voice said, “I’m Snow White and you are Cinderella!”  I literally couldn’t deal with such a nonsensical conversation and simply turned my back to her.  She continued to say this over and over to me until I started to feel sick. 

I made my way to the restroom and threw up.  Walking out of the restroom one of my friends was lying on the floor in front of a closed bedroom door.  She told me she was so hot she couldn’t stand it and could feel the breeze coming from underneath the door.  For me, I felt better when I looked into the light, so I stood staring up into the light from above.  Another friend found us and brought us back into the hot tub.

After getting sick, I felt much more in control.  I had a small drink and the feeling was now very nice.  (I was told liquor kills the effect of ecstasy and this was intentional).  The men were anxious to test out how sex would feel while high.  Unfortunately, 4 out of 4 men could not get any erection at all, which I found to be hilarious.  It did not matter what they tried, nothing worked.  As for the women, they said they felt no heightened interest in sex from taking the ecstasy, myself included.

The night ended as soon as everyone felt back to normal.  Only the woman who took the other half reported feeling high well into the next day.  Our friend who provided the pills was disappointed and said it must have been that batch because the reaction was not normal.

We did try it one more time at our next party.  I will write about that soon…

*You can find Monogamish Marriage’s experience here:  https://themonogamishmarriage.com/2020/03/09/sex-on-mdma/

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When a couple in the lifestyle finds you!

Partners ID Necklace telling others your are in the lifestyle

Hi, Partners ID we have a story that we hope you will want to share with your readers. It happened over the winter holidays when my husband and I took a trip to the Cayman Islands.  

My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for about 8 years.  While lifestyle events are our favorite way to spend a weekend, we do not usually seek it out when we travel.  The thought of 7 or 8 days on a boat with lifestyle folk or even a resort does not really appeal to us.  An evening with another sexy couple is perfect for us, it’s just how we roll.

Before our children were out of school for winter break, we decided to book a quick getaway.  We love to snorkel so when we travel south, we like to try to work this into our plans.  Having heard that the Cayman Islands has some nice snorkeling opportunities, we decided to give it a try.  

The resort was beautiful and the weather was perfect.  We always wear our lifestyle jewelry and so naturally we traveled with our necklaces.  On our second day, we woke up early to catch the bus that was taking us on the snorkeling excursion.  There was a couple that we were drawn to but obviously we had no clue if they were being friendly or if they were in the lifestyle.  They had no reaction to our jewelry so we kept it vanilla.  

When we took the actual dive, we left our jewelry in our shoes to make sure they wouldn’t slip off while diving.  When we returned to the boat, one of the other guests on the excursion was holding  my necklace.  As we approached, he apologized for touching it but wanted to take a closer look at the design.  My husband and I looked at each other both wondering the same thing.  Did he know?  

Turns out he did!  His wife was still diving so we waited for her to return to the boat.  They both have pieces of your jewelry as well, they just did not bring them on the boat.  We did spend a rather enjoyable evening with our new friends!  They are also avid snorkelers and we have planned a trip  with them in June!  We booked adjoining rooms so that should be a blast!  

I just want to point out that this is exactly why we purchased this jewelry.  We were hoping that somewhere along the way we would make friends simply because they understood we are in the lifestyle too.  As for the first couple, I doubt they are swingers, they were simply being friendly.  What I love is that this allows us to meet each other without playing the game of are they or aren’t they.  We enjoyed a nice dinner with the couple we were unsure about but did not do anything that would make them feel uncomfortable.  No silly remarks about sex or being vanilla, we simply enjoyed them as ordinary friends.  Often, if we did play this game it would end badly with another couple thinking we were odd, or creepy.  This allows us to know without having to guess.

Thank you for making things easier for us! 

xoxo

Lauren and Peter

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Our lifestyle keychain attracts a couple at a valet stand in Chicago!

Swinger with Partners ID lifestyle keychain

 

Hello Partners ID,

It is with great pleasure that we write to you to tell you about our very good luck with your swinger jewelry!  Here is our story:

Not long ago, my husband threw a surprise swinger party to celebrate my birthday.  Each person was asked to bring a swinger related gift to the party. It was a wonderful idea because it forced people to be creative.  The gifts ranged from dildos and lingerie to swinger jewelry.  Some were beautiful and some were very funny. The party reminded me of a baby shower where I sat and opened each gift.  Guessing who each gift was from was part of the fun.

Without a doubt, my favorite gifts were from Partners ID!  Three different gifts were from your company! One was a beautiful black purse, one a beautiful necklace and the third was a gold key chain with diamond crystals. Each of these gifts are special and I love them!

Not long after the party we went out to a very trendy restaurant with some vanilla friends. We valet parked our car and spent the evening dining and having fun with some long time friends of ours. After dinner was over, we went outside, said our goodbyes and waited for the valet to bring our car.

Upon entering the car we noticed there was a folded paper on the dashboard. Thinking the valet had left it there by mistake, we tried to hand it back to him.  He told us some friends of ours had asked him to leave the note in the car for us.

My husband and I looked at each other and I opened the note. It simply said, “We saw your keychain and asked the valet to leave you this note.” We are _____ from SDC.  This was such a wonderful surprise!  The note was so cleverly written so that the valet would never understand, but we knew right away! Luckily we are on SDC!

As soon as we arrived home, we rushed to the computer to look up their profile. We sent them a message and went to sleep.  The next morning, like kids on Christmas, we raced downstairs.  The computer was left open to SDC and we checked to see if they had responded. They had!

That was a few months ago and we have been out with them quite a few times. We never realized how clever the keychain was until this happened! I thought we would meet people simply because they would see me holding it! We now valet park more frequently than in the past!

Thank you for these wonderful times that we would never have shared with these people if it were not for the jewelry (and handbag that I love)!

Hugs and kisses from Chicago!
xox
Lori and Marc