Sex is not simply something that only men enjoy. Women get a tremendous amount of pleasure from it as well. Why do women have such a hard time admitting this?
Why is a woman’s sexuality still such a confusing topic? Why do so many people still believe that women are sexual simply to please men? This stereotype still exists and casts a shadow over women who readily admit that they enjoy sex.
Still, to this day, if a woman says she loves sex, this causes people to make assumptions about her: She’s wild, she’s a whore, she will sleep with anyone, etc. Where does this come from? Why is it when men say they love sex (which they never have to say, it is always assumed) it is taken in stride? It is normal for men to love sex but something is very wrong when a woman does.
I can remember a conversation I had with some friends many years ago. One woman mentioned that it was her husband’s birthday and so she gave him the obligatory blow job that morning. It was something she was only willing to do once a year. I was honestly in shock and blurted out, “Once a year?! I give my husband a blow job every day!” With that comment, all heads turned in unison to stare at me with mouthes wide open. They all thought my husband must be some type of a monster to force me to do this. Force me? I explained that I loved pleasuring him and it turned me on to see him so excited. All four women shook their heads in disbelief and the topic was dropped.
I remember thinking that not one of them believed me when I said I enjoyed it. Thankfully I didn’t tell them we had sex twice a day every day because I love sex. I did wonder, after this conversation, why women had such a hard time believing that another woman could find pleasure in giving her man head. Was I different?
The answer is, yes, I think I am different. Different from many women simply because I am willing to admit that I love sex. While it is certainly possible that not every woman does love it, I do believe that many more women love it than are willing to admit to it. Why do women pretend not to love sex? Certainly it is not always pleasurable if the person you are with is not very good at it. There are however, toys and aids to help. It is also a good idea to guide your partner if they are not good at understanding what you need or what feels good to you. Most men truly want to please their partner and prefer she tell him then leave him guessing. Men also get pleasure from seeing their partner enjoying themselves and getting turned on. If a man feels that a woman is having sex with him out of obligation, he will not enjoy it in the same way.
Many women seem a bit shy to express their desire for sex. Let’s face it, we grew up learning that girls who love sex were dirty and easy. They were thought to be indiscriminate in who they slept with and were willing to do anything to please a guy. It seems nobody ever thought to ask a girl if perhaps she wanted to have sex with guys purely because she enjoyed it.
I love sex but that does not mean that I am not particular about who I will play with. I do not cruise around by day looking to pick up men for a quickie. I am also not a nymphomaniac. There is nothing extraordinary about me. I am a mother, a daughter, sister, employee, and wife who just happens to enjoy sex. You wouldn’t be able to spot me on the street and think: now there’s a woman who loves sex!
The lifestyle seems to be the perfect fit for sexual women. Swinging attracts women with all different types of sexual appetites. It is a safe and comfortable environment for women who love to simply watch others have sex, to the opposite extreme of women who like gang bangs, and everything in between. Nobody is there to judge, and this type of environment allows women to speak and act freely regarding their sexual desires. It can be very liberating for women who always thought they were not normal simply because they love sex.