Swingers finding swingers in New York City.

Swingers posing for the camera wearing Partners ID jewelry

Dear Partners ID,

I love reading about how swingers have met each other wearing your jewelry! Our story isn’t as exotic as some of the others but I hope it is good enough to publish! 

We have been swingers for a long time, over 15 years, and when we heard about your jewelry we were hopeful that it would catch on.  There is no question that swingers need something like this.  We are so tired of trying to meet swingers through dating sites for all of the obvious reasons:  people lie about their age, show old pictures, don’t show up for planned meetings, etc.  

Anyway, we did buy jewelry, crossed our fingers that it would work and we wear it proudly.  Last weekend was our anniversary and my husband planned a romantic getaway for us in New York City.  Fancy hotel, tickets to a show, chic restaurants and even a carriage ride through Central Park.  What could be more exciting!  

We went to see Hamilton (which was as good as we had heard it was) and off to dinner after.  We tried to get a cab after the show but that was impossible.  We ended up walking the whole way back to the upper east side where our restaurant reservation was. (Quite painful in my beautiful new shoes!)  Of course we were very late so they had given our table away. They told us to wait at the bar for one to open up.  

A very nice man offered me his seat at the very crowded bar and I gladly accepted!  My husband in turn bought he and his wife a round of drinks and we chatted with them.  They asked us if we were planning anything after dinner and we were intrigued.  We have been in the lifestyle a long time and had the feeling this was something promising!  We asked what they had in mind and the wife lifted her purse off the bar to show it to me.  OMG!  I couldn’t believe it!  She had a gorgeous bag with your pendant on it!  How clever!  We laughed because my husband and I were both wearing pieces from your collection!

Needless to say, we had dinner with them and then headed back to their hotel room for a night of fun.  They told us they have met many couples because of the jewelry.  I told them they were our first but she did point out that she looks for it.  That is a good point because I had never thought to look.  Now I will!

Thanks!!!

Cindy and Rob

Charlotte, NC

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Picking up strangers for a sexual encounter; why this is not always a safe idea.

 

 

Sexual girl in bar wearing Partners ID jewelry

Swinging is a lot of fun and allows people to live out some of their sexual fantasies in a safe way.  You meet other swingers, you have sex, you go home.  But what happens when swingers want to push the envelope and see if they can wrangle in a vanilla person to fulfill their fantasy?  If this sounds exciting to you, perhaps there are things you should consider before taking this route.

Most swingers choose to keep the fact that they are in the lifestyle a secret. They go to great lengths to hide this from family, friends, coworkers and neighbors. Why do we do this? Well, let’s face it, people who are not in the lifestyle really do not understand the concept. Most people find swinging to be highly unethical and simply cannot imagine giving their partner permission to have sex with other people.  Although they have seen threesomes and gangbangs while watching porn, this is not something they want to explore for themselves.

Why then, do some swingers think that picking up an unsuspecting vanilla person for a sexual encounter is a good idea? Fantasies are a wonderful thing, but when people try to incorporate that into their real lives, with unsuspecting people, things can go very wrong.

I have heard stories of couples hitting on unsuspecting businessmen in hotel bars which had near disastrous consequences. Some couples send their wives into the bar to hit on the men. They don’t tell the men about the husband waiting upstairs until the man arrives at the room. Most men simply leave, but one couple chose a man with an anger problem and he was ready to fight the man for the “right” to have sex with his wife and insisted the husband leave the room.  A quick thinking wife dialed the operator from the hotel phone and security showed up a few moments later to escort the man from their room.

I read a story on a forum about a couple who befriended a stranger in a bar and invited him back to their home for a drink. They honestly thought he knew what their intentions were but this man is not in the lifestyle and so his mind did not go there. When the wife tried to hit on him he freaked out and left. The next day they found a sign on their lawn announcing that ‘swingers live here’.

Another couple tried to pick up a woman in a bar while they were vacationing. They brought her back to their room hoping she would be open to a threesome. She did kiss the woman for a few minutes but said she was too drunk and needed to sleep it off on the couch for a while and then would be open to sex with them both. The woman fell asleep and eventually so did this couple. When they woke up, she was gone and so was his wallet.

The lifestyle offers so many ways to meet other swingers that it is hard to understand why people would put themselves in these types of situations. Although you read stories about wild nights of sex with strangers that couples manage to pick up, how many are actually true? There is a good chance that most of these stories are fantasies that people wish were real!
Swing clubs offer an environment where threesomes and foursomes and gang bangs are normal and accepted. Flirting with other men and women is expected and desired. There are bouncers and a staff that is ready to intervene if ever there is a problem. Every person who enters a club must present ID at the door, which is entered into a computer so there are no strangers in a club.

Online dating sites for swingers offers people the chance to meet other swingers for fun. Why not contact couples or singles to meet in a bar or other public venue from a site like this? At least you know these people are open to whatever you are looking for because you can ask them before you meet!

We have heard recent horror stories about dating apps like Tinder and Plenty of Fish yet some couples continue to hope that they can meet other swingers from these types of apps. Why not try an app that is geared to swingers?

Craigslist has proven itself to be a haven for the insane. Ashley Madison has attracted some swingers but why look for people who are cheating on their spouse?

It is not hard to find other swingers with all the resources that are out there. Check Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or simply google to find endless sites that help swingers find other swingers.

If finding other swingers out in a public venue is still your goal, wear our lifestyle jewelry to let others know what you are looking for. The pendant is recognized around the world!

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It is important to remember that just because you and your partner are sexually adventurous and open, does not mean that people who appeal to you feel the same way.  Even close friends who can be a bit flirtatious are not usually swingers and might be shocked if you hit on them.

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Swinging can be confusing; if your spouse loves you, why does he want to play with someone else?

Man interested in swinging

 

While at a lifestyle party recently, a woman struck up a conversation with a group of swingers .  She said she was confused by the whole notion of swinging. This couple is very new to the lifestyle and when she asked her husband why he wanted to have sex with someone else, his response was so that he would appreciate being with her.  Her first thought was ‘I guess you don’t appreciate being with me or you would not need to have sex with someone else to appreciate me’.  It upset her because she was concerned about the fact that she was not enough for him and why would he even want to be with someone else if he really loved her.   You could see by the look on several of the women’s faces that this was an age old question for people who were either new to the lifestyle or considering trying it out.

Almost everyone has been raised to believe that we should be monogamous.  We grow up, find a mate, settle down and remain faithful to this one person; till death do us part.  Forever is a long time and for most people, when they take this vow, they truly believe they will never want to be with anyone else.  We can all agree that it is usually with the very best intentions that we enter into these marriages.  Even for couples who are not married, fidelity is expected when you are in an exclusive relationship with someone.

The question is:  how many couples, if they are honest, are happy like this?  This is not to imply that everyone cheats or wants to cheat, rather it is intended to make you question how many people honestly go through life and never think about having sex with someone else? A neighbor, a coworker, the pool boy, a bartender, your doctor, etc.  The truth is, very few people have never thought or fantasized about being with someone else. Even pornography is basically allowing people to engage in fantasies from afar; something to play over in our minds when we have sex with our partner.

How many people are just plain unfaithful in their committed relationships?  Even people who cheat are not always wanting to give up the relationship they have; many are simply looking for something different and exciting in bed.  A happy marriage does not always mean a happy sex life together.  How many times have you heard a woman tell you she was making a mental shopping list while waiting for her partner to finish?  If she was swinging with someone new, chances are she would be concentrating on the man she was with and what they were doing.  Not because she is in love with him, but because it would be new and exciting.

Swinging allows you and your partner to explore your fantasies together.  It permits you the opportunity to have sex with other people without having to cheat  on each other.  When you have sex with different partners, you learn new things.  The most exciting part about this is bringing it back to your spouse to try together.   Swinging allows each partner to partake in things that perhaps their spouse is not open to trying.

For the woman who posed the question above, her husband’s answer was actually more honest than she realizes.  It is not that he loves her any less because he wants to have sex with other women, and it is not that she is not enough for him.  When you have sex for the first time when you swing, you realize that it is purely a physical act; there is no feeling towards the other person.  It is simply something different.  It breaks the routine that you and your partner eventually fall into when having sex.  Sometimes when you play with someone else it is good, and sometimes it is not.  The real treat is when you are back with your spouse!  The routine that was becoming monotonous, is suddenly the best sex you ever have!  When you make love to your partner you feel the difference and appreciate it so much more.  When you swing, you do not make love, you simply have sex.  When you are with your spouse, you make love.  There is a tremendous difference and swinging makes it so much more apparent.  Her spouse will love her more for allowing them to be free from other people’s expectations of what is right and wrong.  When you create your own rules as a couple, it is very liberating.  You become so much closer to each other.  You develop a tremendous amount of love and trust for allowing each other the freedom to explore.

Most importantly for this woman who is new to swinging to remember:  playing with someone else is for the moment.  After that, you are with your husband or partner and that is who you will go home with.  This is the person you will wake up with the next morning, and wait until you see the smile he gives you at breakfast the next morning. This is when you will realize that swinging is not about anyone but the two of you!

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When one of the couple wants out of the lifestyle…now what?

You and your spouse have been in the lifestyle for quite some time when all of the sudden, she wants out. Now what?

It is perhaps something that happens more frequently than we know. How often do you take a step back and realize you haven’t seen so and so in a while? Remember that couple? Whatever happened to them? The lifestyle, although it encompasses a lot of people, is actually a small community. If you reflect back, you will realize you have seen many couples come and go; couples you thought were in the lifestyle forever, have actually slowly drifted away.
So how does this work? One morning the wife or husband wakes up and tells their spouse that she has had enough, she does not wish to remain in the lifestyle. For many of us, over time, the lifestyle takes over our social lives. We start to build friendships here because this is where we spend our nights and weekends. Our vanilla friends would never understand so we put some distance between us and them so they will stop pressuring us to make time for them on Friday and Saturday nights. Our sex lives have become full and exciting with new possibilities every night we are out with our lifestyle friends. The conversations are sexier, there’s touching and flirting and the ability to be completely open and free. Now she wants to give that up and go back to the way it was before. She assures you the sex will still be great, but somehow you know that your wild and crazy nights of sex are about to become a thing of the past. The 4-5 nights a week will start to dwindle down to a few times a month. You even suspect your lifestyle friends will only make time to see you during the week so they can be with their lifestyle friends on the weekends.
I have known some couples who have left the lifestyle and stayed out for a year or two. Eventually they got bored and returned. I do know others who got divorced, but I do not personally know couples who were really vested in the lifestyle who left, stayed married and just turned to other interests. I would like to think that there are couples who have done this. It would seem to me that it would take a lot of patience on the husband’s behalf (or the wife’s) but with time and understanding I’m sure it can be done!

I think one of the most important things to do in this situation is to figure out why one person wants out. If everything was going so well it is hard to imagine that someone would just wake up one morning and change their mind. Is there some kind of jealousy or insecurity involved? Perhaps you have not really been paying attention because you are too busy fulfilling your own needs or desires and did not notice she was unhappy.  Is she doing things to please you?  Sometimes we get so caught up in our own fantasies that we forget that this desire belongs to us and not to our significant other.

Do you push her to do things that perhaps she doesn’t really enjoy?  It is not uncommon to hear men say how much their wife or girlfriend loves gang bangs or double penetration when the truth is, they are doing it only to please their husband or boyfriend.  This is a slippery slope and inevidably will end poorly.  Take time to assess that the lifestyle is fair for the both of you.  Make sure you take the time to consider if your partner is loving everything as much as you are.

Perhaps this is about age or weight or some other insecurity that has become a problem.  When your partner doesn’t feel good about themselves, the lifestyle can be difficult.

Maybe she is a ‘go with the flow’ type of girl but inside, when it’s enough, it’s enough. You have to know your spouse and you have to always pay attention to what is going on with her when you are out. Chances are, this has been building up for some time and she has finally reached the end. For couples who spend all of their weekends in lifestyle venues it is probably a good idea from time to time to ask your spouse if they would like to do something else that night or weekend.  If she insists that she is happy to go to a swing club or party maybe you should make it a point to make some of these evenings just about her. Sure, there are a lot of willing and sexy girls around, but making her feel like the most special one is very important. Without this, you just might find yourself in this situation.

Do all of your vacations revolve around the lifestyle? How about just a vacation for the two of you to reconnect?  It goes a long way to make your partner know that they come first.  Spending some quality time away from the lifestyle is an important way to show your partner how you feel.

It’s always a good idea to have a conversation, from time to time, reminding them that the lifestyle is just a part of your relationship.  That your relationship is much more important than swinging.  Sometimes just hearing from your partner that they would be totally fine leaving the lifestyle, makes you feel secure.

So what if you have tried everything but she still wants out of the lifestyle?  Where does that leave you? What if you absolutely cannot imagine being out? Do you cheat? Try to hang on to lifestyle friends in the hopes they can help sway her to come back? It’s probably best to try to fix the problem and maybe in the future she will go back. Then again, maybe she won’t. It would be sad to think that a marriage cannot survive the departure from the lifestyle, after all, it is only for fun, right?

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Staying in the lifestyle for the long run; what it takes to be successful.

Lifestyle friends wearing Partners ID jewelry
Couples who are successful in the lifestyle, generally have one important thing in common.  Besides the fact that they trust their partner, they eased into swinging.  We often meet new couples who appear out of the blue and enter the lifestyle with a vengeance.  They waste no time in throwing themselves into full swap mode and within a month, they are never seen in the lifestyle again.  What happens with couples like this?  Why do they disappear from the lifestyle when they seemed so gung ho?
For most people, the thought of seeing their significant other with someone else makes them insanely jealous.  Even couples who have been together for many years and for whom sex has become infrequent and perhaps even olbigatory, the notion of their spouse having sex with someone other than themselves is not something they are comfortable with.   When you are new to the lifestyle, it can be daunting to consider your spouse having physical contact with someone else.  The important thing is that it should be a slow and steady process.  It is important to become comfortable in the lifestyle before you rush off to swap with another couple.  Generally, to those who have been in a monogamous relationship for a long time, it can be titillating to imagine just kissing someone else.
When couples are new to the lifestyle and jump right into the deep end, it is very hard to back up and start over.  These couples never gave themselves the chance to navigate at a pace that would allow them to be successful in the lifestyle.  If one person is ready to swap and the other is only doing it to please their partner, this will backfire very quickly.  Nobody wants to be used for any reason, but to feel like your partner is pushing you to do something you are not ready for, is a recipe for disaster.  Taking the time to feel confident in the process will help couples to move forward together in a way that will enhance their relationship.  For some couples this can happen quickly, while for others, it can take a long time.  Couples should be willing to move at a pace that works for them both.
When you are finally ready to take the leap into sex with someone else, prepare to be surprised at how much you will enjoy it!  The realization generally comes quickly after the first encounter, that you are in this together; you and your partner.  Many couples discover that sex after swinging is the most erotic sex they ever have.  It makes sex come alive again.  It’s new and it’s exciting.
It is something that you do together, which is why it creates such a strong bond between couples.  It becomes your little secret as a couple and that’s a positive thing!
Your spouse will still be your spouse and you might find you enjoy each other even more after you play with another couple.  The best part is, nobody is “cheating”, you are doing this together.
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Is a poor body image keeping you from enjoying ( or entering) the lifestyle?

Body image issues woman wearing Partners ID jewelry

Is a poor body image keeping you from feeling confident in the lifestyle?   Do you worry that having a less than perfect figure will make it hard to find couples who want to swing with you?

The lifestyle poses many challenges to both men and women.    It can be very difficult for someone if they are shy, insecure, become jealous easily and worst of all, if they have a poor self image.  Having a positive self image, especially regarding your body, is crucial if you are planning to swing.  Body image is defined as how you see yourself when you look in the mirror or how you picture yourself in your mind.  Sometimes these perceptions are accurate, but sometimes they are completely distorted and affect how you carry yourself and how you interact with others.  Developing a positive body image and a healthy mental attitude is crucial to a person’s happiness and wellness, and plays a key role to success in the lifestyle.

Swing clubs, parties and hotel takeovers are filled with scantily clad women wearing fishnet dresses, sexy lingerie and exotic mini skirts and dresses which all show a lot of skin.  Many of these women are over the age of 40 and have bodies which indicate as much.  There are women who have beautiful, tight, fit bodies but they are not in the majority.  They are also not always the hottest or the most secure.  It seems that self image plays a much larger role in what makes a woman desirable to both men and other women.  A beautiful, fit woman with poor body image (yes, there are many) seems to be less attractive to others than the overweight woman who is comfortable in her own skin and has an aura of self confidence.  The lifestyle is not about the most attractive person or people, and it is important to remember that everyone is attracted to something different.  A person who is friendly and warm and seems genuinely interested in what you have to say, will be much more attractive to you than someone who is the opposite; regardless of their physical appearance.

Men suffer from the same problem but regarding different aspects of their bodies.  Women tend to be focused on their weight, their breasts and any areas of their bodies they see as imperfect; cellulite on their thighs, a butt that is too large or too small, scars from past surgeries or c sections, etc.  Men tend to be more concerned with their height, their weight, their muscle mass and obviously the size of their penis, as compared with other men.  Interestingly enough, if you were to ask ten men to point out which woman they find most attractive, chances are you would get 6-7 different responses.  For women it would probably be about the same.  Luckily, everyone is attracted to something different.   Imagine if everyone was attracted to the same person!

The lifestyle is supposed to be fun.  When people get too hung up about their bodies and their imperfections it can be a real downer.  Try to remember that swinging is for a short time and if you don’t take advantage of the moment, you will miss it.  Chances are if someone has chosen to swing with you, it is because they think it will be enjoyable.  If you cannot relax and savor the moment, you are not only wasting your night but the night of the person who is trying to have fun with you.  I sincerely doubt that while your partner for the evening is playing with you he is thinking about your thighs.  If, however, you are showing your insecurities regarding your thighs, he probably will look at them to decide if you are right.   When a woman is with a man who is less endowed than most, she will only care if it keeps him from being able to enjoy himself.  If he steps up and shows her he is confident with himself, she knows it will be a fun night regardless of his size.

When everyone in the back room is naked and you appear with something covering you, whether it’s a towel or some garment wrapped around your mid section, chances are everyone will notice you because you are different.   If you step into the play area with nothing but a smile, people will admire your confidence and appreciate that about you.  If you are open to people they will look to join you, it’s that simple.  Big thighs, sagging boobs, cellulite and all, if you show people that you are ok with yourself, they will be ok with you.

Swing clubs, parties and take overs can be fun and exciting.  People come out to party and have a good time.  When you meet people, if they seem friendly and self confident you are drawn to them.  If, on the other hand, you meet people who are shy and withdrawn, chances are you will move on to another couple.  It really is ok if you don’t think you are perfect because guess what?  Pretty much everyone else has the same insecurities that you have, the only difference is that they refuse to let it ruin their night!

 

Remeber to check out our lifestyle jewelry!  New items are offered frequently and we are happy to take custom orders.

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Are there any swingers in Hong Kong? The answer is yes, just ask this couple.

 

 

Couple living in Hong Kong wearing Partners ID jewelry

 

Dear Partners ID,

Nǐmén hǎo! This is hello in Cantonese. We are Lidia and Sam and we live in Hong Kong. We had to move for business a few years ago. We moved from California almost 2 years ago when my husband was offered a job he couldn’t turn down.

We have been in the lifestyle for the past 10 years and one of the hardest things about this move was leaving our friends. As you know, lifestyle friends are very special and we couldn’t wrap our minds around having to say good bye.

One of the first things we did after getting settled into our new home was to try to discover if swinging was popular in our area. Although we did see quite a few listings for swing clubs, we were nervous to take this route. My husband was new to the company and the last thing he wanted, was to run into someone he worked with.

We did take a chance online to try to meet others for an evening of play but that was not working out so well. After a few months we were getting antsy and very much wanted to play!

I had heard about your jewelry when we were still living in California and decided to order a few pieces for us to try. I purchased a necklace for my husband and a bracelet for myself and waited for them to arrive. I wasn’t really sure that anyone in Hong Kong would actually know what it meant but figured it couldn’t hurt!

I wear my bracelet most of the time but my husband prefers to wear his only when we go out socially. We went for dinner at a trendy restaurant one evening and when we were walking to our table, a woman grabbed my arm as we passed by. I looked down and she was holding a purse with your pendant on it! I was shocked! I never thought it would be this easy! They were with another couple and said they would stop at our table before they left.

Although this particular couple is not our style to play with, they are nice people who have helped us to navigate the lifestyle! They gave us all the information that we needed to meet other swingers and told us which clubs were the best in the area.

This was a few weeks ago and we have been invited to a party (through this couple) that we will attend this weekend. We just wanted to let you know that people in Hong Kong know the jewelry and it is pretty popular here!

Thank you! You really helped us!

Hugs and kisses,

Lidia and Sam

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If couples understood why people cheat, would they consider swinging?

As a swinger, when I spend time with my vanilla girlfriends, I am always paying close attention to what they say and how they behave when somebody brings up the subject of sex.

My friends do not know that I am in the lifestyle so bringing up the subject of swinging is a very delicate matter. It is very rare that it comes up, but at our latest get together, I couldn’t resist.

The topic of conversation was infidelity. One of our mutual friends is in the process of divorce because she recently discovered that her husband was cheating on her. Almost all of the other women agreed that this would be grounds for divorce in their own marriages. They would not care if it was a one time thing or a long standing affair, it is something they all agree is unforgivable.

I listened to them rant for quite awhile about men being dogs and not being able to keep it in their pants, etc. I asked them if they really think it is only a male problem. While they all agreed that it is not, they all vehemently denied that they had ever cheated or even contemplated sleeping with a man other than their husband. These are women who are all over 40 years old!

I looked around at each one of them and told them that it was impossible for me to believe that they had never been attracted to another man since the day they had gotten married. “You mean to tell me that you have never fantasized about another man?” (I wanted to say or woman, but was too afraid to open that can of worms.)

Most of them admitted that they had fantasized about men over the years but not to the point that they would act on it. I asked them if they ever did act on it, did they think it would change the way they feel about their husbands or would it simply be a physical release.

I asked them if they thought it was possible that a man could have sex with another woman, yet be completely in love with his wife? Better yet, could a woman have sex with another man and still love her husband? Are sex and love mutually exclusive?

The fascinating thing is that when the question was asking women if they could have that fantasy sex and come home to their husbands, I could see the wheels turning while they considered that. Wouldn’t it simply be a physical act? The men you fantasize about, are you hoping to share your life with him or have a quickie?

As the group fell silent in contemplation, I pushed on. What about swingers? I asked. From what I have read (I explained), they seem to be able to find the balance between their love for each other and having sex with others. Does this type of a lifestyle possibly eliminate a need to cheat? I turned to the woman who is now in the process of divorce. Do you think perhaps if the two of you were in the lifestyle this would not be happening?

None of the women were open to the thought of swinging, as far as I could tell, but at least they were considering what I was saying. Does it make sense to break up marriages and families over a sexual encounter?

The women explained that it was less about the sex and more about the betrayal of trust. So my next question was, “If your husband had told you he wanted to have sex with someone else, would you be open to it?” They all shook their heads no. Then I am confused. The anger stems from the trust issue, yet if their husbands were honest, it wouldn’t change anything. Seems to me like a no win situation. Perhaps the thought process for someone who is looking for something different resorts to cheating because they might get away with it. If they cannot discuss this with their partner, they feel out of options.

This, sadly, seems to be a cornerstone of contemporary marriages. Fidelity sounds like a wonderful and romantic concept, but in the 21st century, it seems almost ridiculously outdated. That is not to say that there aren’t many couples out there who manage to remain married and faithful, but are they happy? Are they faithful by choice or out of fear of the repercussions?

I asked the women if they could honestly say that they believe their husbands have never thought about cheating (as they seemed to believe that they had not already done so). Most of the women said that their husbands had probably been attracted to another woman at some point and might have considered cheating. I asked what kept them from acting on it. They all said the same thing: my husband knows if I catch him cheating I will leave him. So women feel comfortable suppressing their husbands sexual desires by threatening them with consequences. Is this healthy? More importantly, is this really love?

I think most swingers would agree that by allowing their spouses to be able to have sex with other women, on some level, we are expressing love. We are happy to see our husband happy. We understand that it is not realistic to be able to be the only person our significant other is ever attracted to or wants to have sex with. The same goes for women. If our husband allows us the opportunity to be with other men, why would we cheat? True love is so much deeper than sex and it is a shame that the concept seems to be lost on so many people.

There is no doubt that during this lunch date my friends were all eyeing me suspiciously. I clearly was not on the same page as they were with regard to sex and marriage. I do think, however, I was able to give my soon to be divorced friend something to think about. While I totally understand the importance of trust in a marriage, I also understand the importance of communication. If her husband had tried to express his desire to have sex with another woman, they would probably be in the same position they are now. She is angry and hurt because she cannot understand why she isn’t “enough” for him.

This is where swingers have a healthier perspective. As we’ve all heard the common saying: Show me a beautiful woman and I will show you a man who is tired of having sex with her…
We can substitute man for woman and vice versa, but the meaning is the same. Humans are essentially not monogamist, and until we accept this, this conversation will go on indefinitely.

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Swinging can sometimes be a beautiful expression of love.

Swinging couple in bed wearing Partners ID jewelry

 

 

Swinging can sometimes be a beautiful expression of love.  I have no doubt that when some people see this title and they are not in the lifestyle, it will conjure up an image of a 1960s love fest; something reminiscent of Woodstock.  This really could not be farther from my point.

I met a couple last night while at a swing club and speaking with them really opened my eyes to how love can play a part in swinging.  This couple met when they were kids and were married before they even graduated from high school.  They entered the lifestyle as a mutual decision because neither had ever had sex with anyone else and as a couple they were honest enough to express their curiosity.  

I don’t believe that most people can be this honest with their spouse.  If couples were able to have this level of honest communication, there would be a lot less infidelity and a lot more swingers!

This couple is adorable to listen to.  The woman told us that prior to the lifestyle, she had not realized that her husband was not only a good lover but he was well endowed!  She had nothing to compare him with prior to her first experience as a swinger.  He echoed a similar sentiment and it made me realize how swinging has really helped to elevate their relationship to a whole new level. 

This is an aspect of swinging that is lost to the vanilla world.  Without having these experiences, they cannot relate to the degree of honesty and trust that is needed to do this.  To have an honest conversation with your spouse about having a desire to have sex with someone else is not easy.  We all already know this, as we see time and time again on all of the forums, where newcomers are asking how to bring up the subject to their significant other.   Most people would be highly insulted and hurt to hear their partner admit that they would like to try having sex with someone else.  The initial reaction is to think something is wrong with you and that is why your partner is seeking something else.  The truth is, if your partner didn’t love and respect you, they would do what most people who are not in the lifestyle do, they would simply do it behind your back.  When your partner wants to include you in this, it is only because they love and respect you.  When done correctly, the lifestyle can bring couples closer than ever.   

Love and sex are both wonderful and when the two are not mutually exclusive, anything is possible.

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A couple from Australia found a “very cute” swinger because of the jewelry!

 

 

Living in Australia we didn’t expect that after purchasing jewelry we would find another swinger very quickly.  How wrong we were.  We have only had our jewelry for about 3 weeks and were wearing it while out running some errands.  We stopped to grab a bite and while sitting in a corner booth, suddenly a man appeared out of nowwhere and was sitting next to me smiling.  We were  a bit confused but he pointed  to the pendant hanging from his necklace.  How wonderful this was!  Such a surprise and he’s quite cute to look at!  I am so pleased and wanted to thank you!  It really does help you spot other swingers and it really is around the world!  Bravo!

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