The first time my husband and I went to a swing club, it was strictly out of curiosity. His, more than mine. My husband had heard about a local swing club and was eager to see what it was all about. Our lives were busy with work, kids, and vanilla friends. I don’t think either one of us felt we were ‘missing’ anything. We were very sexually active together and we both liked to explore new things. Since a swing club was something we had never explored, my curiosity got the better of me and I agreed to check it out.
Upon entering the swing club, it became clear that many people seemed to know each other. They stood around in clusters talking, laughing, and drinking. The dance floor was already packed with people. Immediately I felt a sense of community within the club. Couples drifted from group to group, kissing and hugging like (warm) old friends.
As soon as we approached the bar for a drink, a couple seated at the bar spoke with us. Having been to many bars and clubs over the years, I was surprised at how friendly they were. It was rare that strangers would start a conversation with us when we were out.
The couple asked if it was our first time at the club. The man noted that he had never seen us before. I asked if he knew everyone else in the club that evening. He glanced around and said that while he didn’t know everyone’s name, he recognized most of the people. As we knew nothing about swingers, this came as a surprise to us both. Namely, the fact that these people did not simply choose this swing club for a Saturday night outing. Clearly, these people were regulars and that is why they all seem to know each other.
That first night at the club was fun. We drank, we danced and we mingled easily with other couples. It seemed to us that people recognized very quickly that we were new. Considering there were well over 100 people there that night, we were surprised and impressed.
It seemed only logical to return and get our money’s worth since membership was required to enter the club, Our rationale was that since we had already paid, we should make use of the 3-month membership.
In the beginning, we visited the club about once a month on Saturday nights. Although some couples had mentioned that they frequently spent 2-3 nights per week there, we were skeptical. Why would we spend so many nights each week in a swing club?
Well, before long, that changed. Slowly but surely, we started to try different nights at the club and we were hooked! It was so easy to simply show up, without having to make plans. Each night we went was a slightly different crowd but there were many regulars that we looked forward to seeing. I have to admit, the atmosphere can be intoxicating. In all honesty, over time, we preferred our nightlife at the club, to anything else we had done in the past.
The club became like Cheers (the infamous bar on tv). Everyone knows your name, what you drink, what music you like to dance to, etc. It was about more than just sex. The club was a place where you could let your hair down and just have a good time. Before we knew it, without ever knowing such a thing existed, we were a part of it. It is called the lifestyle.
Our nights revolved around the club, we discovered a local nude beach and Sunday Fundays became a ritual. Before long we were vacationing at lifestyle resorts and enjoying sleepovers with friends. What started out as an adventurous night out to see a swing club had morphed into a whole new way of life!
As a result of the lifestyle, we lost some vanilla friends over the years. It became almost impossible to maintain some of those relationships because we became unavailable. Committing to an evening with vanilla friends kept us away from the lifestyle for a night and we rarely wanted to stay away.
Does everyone who visits a swing club succumb to the lifestyle? Whatever happens, it is obviously a choice that you make. Some people enjoy an occasional night out with other swingers, either in a club or elsewhere. On the other hand, there are those who jump right in and embrace the lifestyle right from the beginning.
Finally, those who are not in the lifestyle are probably wondering if we are happier in the lifestyle than we were prior. The answer is yes. We love the way of life, the friends and the fun. There is a camaraderie in the lifestyle that we have never found elsewhere. Sure, we had good friends, but it was not the same. There is freedom in the lifestyle that you do not find elsewhere.
Try it! You might like it!
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