Whatever the case, if you are one of those “shy” people, perhaps this is the perfect time for you to take advantage and go after what you want! There are women in the lifestyle who always wear a wig when they are at a lifestyle event. They claim they have more confidence because people do not recognize them and they like it that way. Costumes are also a good conversation starter. Complimenting others on how clever they are or how perfect their costume, makes it easy to open the dialogue. Once you have begun a conversation it is easy to introduce yourselves and ask the other couple questions about themselves.
We get a lot of emails from our customers, which we truly appreciate! We obviously cannot publish every letter we receive but this couple asked us to share their story:
Hello Partners ID!
First of all I want to say that my wife and I have been fans of your company since we first heard about you. As I am sure many others did when they learned of your company, we wondered why it took this long for someone to actually develop a symbol strictly for swingers. It seems like a no-brainer yet nobody has ever done it before so, bravo to you!
We purchased a couple of necklaces a few months ago, which we love, and put them on our necks. About 3 weeks after we started to wear them we were traveling to see my wife’s parents down south. We do not like to stay with them so we checked into a hotel not far from where they live. The first night we arrived late so we decided rather than disturbing them we would just grab a bite somewhere near the hotel and wait until morning to see them. The concierge at the hotel recommended a bar within walking distance of the hotel, so off we went for dinner.
The place had a decent crowd so we figured the food must be good. My wife and I waited at the bar for a table, and soon the hostess came to get us. The hostess told us that it would be no problem to just put the bar tab on our food bill. With that, we followed her to the table. A few minutes after sitting down, the hostess came back to our table to inform us that a couple at the bar had paid our bar tab. We were shocked because we did not know anyone there and we don’t live nearby. She then pointed to an attractive couple sitting across the bar from where we were sitting. The hostess then handed me a piece of a napkin which was folded in half. The note was from the couple, it read, “We love your necklaces.”
We couldn’t believe it! WOW! We waved them over to the table and the rest is history! We had a wonderful night with them and have been in touch ever since. They are planning to come and stay with us soon and we are really looking forward to that!
So again, Bravo! Well done! We really weren’t sure we would ever find someone with the jewelry but we did! The funny thing is, the other couple did not have the jewelry but they knew what it was. As you know, we just purchased 2 necklaces and are planning to surprise them with the jewelry when they come to visit.
Thank you again Partners ID!
David and Vicki
North Potomac, MD
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Are people still afraid to let others know that they are in the lifestyle?
Why do swingers feel the need to keep their lifestyle a secret? I frequently hear swingers say that nobody knows that they are in the lifestyle. They would die if someone found out. Why is that? What do people think when they hear someone they know is a swinger? It reminds me of the time before I had ever had sex. I couldn’t imagine how you could face the person you had sex with afterward. What would they think after they had seen you in such a compromising way? How would others see you? Obviously I discovered that these fears were unfounded. Nobody seemed to look at me any differently, and facing the guy who I was with was no problem. So what is it that makes us fear discovery?
What is it that swingers fear about exposure?
Curiosity got the best of me and so I started to ask swingers. I asked a group of swingers if they are very religious, but they are not. I wondered if their children were at an age that it would create confusion and uncertainty, but they are not. Do they think they are doing something criminal or unethical? They do not. Hmm. Would exposure embarrass them? This question got a nod. Embarrassed? Why? In truth, swingers are doing something that most people wish they could do. They have sex with others and it doesn’t destroy their marriage. Why? Because two consenting adults have agreed to enter into this together. There are no lies or secrets.
Would friends and family alienate you if they found out you were having an affair?
Admitting that you are a swinger should be a lot less traumatic than admitting you are having an affair, no? After all, one is cheating and lying to someone you say you are in love with, the other is not. Cheaters sneak around, worrying that they will be caught. Getting caught would disrupt their lives and the lives of those around them. Swingers, on the other hand, are out having a great time together. They are out enjoying parties and events with their significant other. This is something that others only dream of.
I wonder how many swingers are truly living this lifestyle unbeknownst to their friends and family. Probably not nearly as many as believe they are. Often times I watch swingers arrive at a club clad in an oversized trench coat in the middle of the summer. When I ask these women if their family or neighbors don’t find this strange they say they don’t think so. Really? It’s 90 degrees outside and you leave your house or condo wearing a trench coat cinched at the waist with stiletto heels and nobody thinks that’s odd?
What happens to couples who come clean about the lifestyle?
Many swingers have said that when they finally decided to disclose to friends and family that they were swingers, many were not surprised. Many said they had known about it for years but understood the swinger couple wanted to keep it to themselves. (If these were the trench coat women, it’s no wonder people knew.)
What about the family and friends who did not suspect this person or couple was in the lifestyle? What was their reaction? Were they shocked and appalled? Not according to the people I have spoken with. Most said that more than anything, they were curious about swinging. They asked a lot of questions but did not seem to have a negative reaction. Many couples said that both friends and many family members (mostly siblings), eventually asked if they could tag along one night to see what it was all about.
Stop apologizing for your lifestyle choices; it’s your life and your decision to make.
Like any other group, in order to gain acceptance, we must learn to stand up for what we believe in. Swingers should not be ashamed of their lifestyle. Obviously it is not necessary to divulge what you do when you are at a swing club, or party, or another event. Most people do not give blow by blow (pun intended) details to others about what they do in their bedrooms. No need to reveal that you participated in a gang bang with 15+ men last Saturday. Nobody needs to know that you tried double penetration for the first time and loved it. Many swingers don’t swap, and many people in the lifestyle are not swingers. Enjoying the warm atmosphere that accompanies the lifestyle is a wonderful thing and people should not have to hide from it.
Why do people find it acceptable to learn that many famous couples are swingers? Why are they held to a different standard than the rest of us. Because they are famous? Some are highly influential people and they do not deny that they are swingers. Famous people frequently answer questions about their lifestyle and seem quite comfortable doing so.
What does wearing lifestyle jewelry actually say about you?
Wearing our jewelry means that you are open-minded. If you think about it, being a part of the lifestyle really doesn’t mean more than that. If your children or parents told you the same thing, would it concern you? Although it might surprise you, you would be happy to see them happy.
When we initially came up with the concept for the jewelry, we had just this vision in mind. Wear the jewelry with pride. First of all, others do not know what it means. Secondly, even if they did, what does it really say about you? It says that you are an open-minded person.
Let’s continue the movement to unite the lifestyle. People in the lifestyle could really teach others a lot about relationships. Honesty, respect and fun are the three hallmarks of the lifestyle. What could be better than that?
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Hi Partners ID!
This coronavirus has really made everything lifestyle related very difficult. We were planning to be on a lifestyle cruise in March but that was canceled. April was filled with plans for private hotel parties and get-togethers with friends but obviously these plans were all canceled.
While my boyfriend and I are enjoying the time at home, we do miss our lifestyle friends. We have enjoyed a few zoom parties and virtual sex with friends but let’s face it, it’s not the same. It is impossible to duplicate the feeling of meeting up with our friends, both old and new, for lifestyle-related fun.
Out of boredom the other day, I took a face mask and applied a tattoo that we received as a gift when we purchased jewelry from you. My boyfriend loved it and so I made one for him as well. We took pictures of ourselves and decided we had to wear them when we went out food shopping.
It became obvious at the grocery store that nobody was paying any attention to me. They would not see the symbol on my mask because people were mainly concerned with keeping their distance from each other. We both wore our masks with the symbol each time we went out but it always seemed that people were more interested in avoiding other people than connecting.
Somehow, it always seems when you least expect it, someone seems to notice! My dog wasn’t feeling well so I ran her over to see our vet. Their office is very large so they simply ask the customers to social distance in the waiting room. I was watching tv when a woman sitting across from me waved to get my attention. As I looked up she pointed to my mask and told me she loved it and wanted to buy one. Unsure if she really knew the meaning or liked the decoration I laughed. She told me she was serious that she had a necklace with that pendant and then I knew.
Honestly, I never expected anyone to know what the symbol meant but clearly I was wrong! She gave me her phone number and I promised to make one for her. How fun that we met this other couple from the mask! Maybe you should consider selling masks!
I thought you would enjoy this!
Cathy and Keith
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My wife’s favorite night of the year happens to be New Year’s Eve. She loves shopping for a special dress, getting her hair done and spending the night at her favorite swing club.
My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for a long time (almost 20 years). Our social life is limited to swing clubs and private parties, meet and greets and Sunday fundays. We vacation at Desire and try to catch at least one lifestyle cruise every year. Yes, we are hard core but this is our life and we love it.
We spend every Christmas in South Florida visiting my parents. We discovered Trapeze about 10 years ago and have been going there every New Year’s Eve since discovering this club. This year was to be no exception.
We arrived in Florida for Christmas Eve and settled in for our 2 week stay. Everything was great until we got a phone call early December 31 from her mother. Her dad was admitted to the hospital with chest pains and they believed he had suffered a heart attack.
We soon boarded a plane and headed to Connecticut to see her dad. Our only thought at this point was her dad and his health.
Long story short, we arrived at the hospital and her dad was resting comfortably. He had not had a heart attack but did require a stent to prevent one. He was fine and would be released the next morning. We drove her mom home and she wanted nothing more than to sleep.
So here it is New Year’s Eve, in Connecticut, and we have no place to go. Since my wife did not actually grow up in Connecticut, she is not familiar with the night life. It was getting late so we decided to at least try to find a restaurant where we could enjoy a nice dinner.
Not far from where her parents live is a tavern that advertised live music and dancing. At least it was something! The bar was lively with groups of people out to celebrate New Years Eve. They had a large screen tv set up to watch the ball drop in Times Square. My wife and I were anxious to relax and enjoy the evening and ordered some drinks. Luckily we were seated at a table quickly and were able to get some food.
After we finished eating we were happy to join the party goers out on the dance floor. We had about 30 minutes before midnight and spent the entire time dancing.
Our attention turned to the dj as he counted down the remaining 10 seconds of 2018. As he screamed happy new year at exactly midnight, I turned to kiss my wife. Just as we kissed, a couple appeared next to us, telling us they were next. I was totally caught off guard when this attractive woman started kissing me right on the mouth. As I turned to look at my wife, she and the man were deep into a french kiss of their own.
I took a step backward to try to see if we knew this couple. The woman reached over and tugged at my necklace. “We have these too,” she said, which made me smile right away. We spent the rest of the night with this couple and that is how new years was saved! Obviously we are so grateful that we wear this lifestyle jewelry because without it, we would have not have met them. It was a wonderful and memorable evening!
Happy New Year to everyone!
Alex and Anna
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What is jealousy?
According to dictionary.com, jealousy is defined as the following:
1.jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself.
2.mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.
3.vigilance in maintaining or guarding something.
4.a jealous feeling, disposition, state, or mood.
Are some people more prone to feeling jealous?
It certainly seems that some people really struggle with jealousy issues, while others seem immune. The lifestyle is absolutely an environment where jealousy can really come into play. Perhaps the ability to control or avoid jealousy stems from our upbringing. When parents teach their children not to compare themselves with others, this is a healthy way to teach self confidence.
Teaching children to treat others in a way they would like to be treated can also go a long way in helping. If children are taught to understand that their kindness and empathy for others is important, they will learn to practice this. When people grow up with the understanding that they should follow the “Golden Rule”: ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you,’ it goes a long way to understanding how to treat others.
Why do some people have such issues with this? Is it because they don’t feel good about themselves?
Why is it that some people have no problem with jealousy, while others really suffer with this? Although we tend to think jealousy stems from a lack of self confidence, in fact, it really has little to do with this. Jealousy usually occurs when you do not have confidence in the other person. If your partner thinks about his or herself first, this can become a problem. If your partner, on the other hand, always seems to consider how you are feeling, it goes a long way to making you feel relaxed and secure. Even for those who struggle with low self esteem, if your partner is always complimenting you and making you feel good about yourself, you will eventually come to trust that your partner feels attracted to you. Swinging can bring up serious issues about insecurity. If your partner gives you the confidence to feel good about yourself, this will go a long way in helping to curb any jealous feelings.
Communication between a couple will go along way to helping to avoid any jealous feelings.
The lifestyle is obviously not for everyone. Couples who choose to swing must have a very solid relationship. Couples who have this strong bond are very open with each other about what works for them and what does not. Communication is key to success in the lifestyle. If one partner has any doubts about why their partner wants to swing, this could lead to disaster. Before attempting to swing, couples should discuss what they are comfortable with. If one person is afraid they might feel jealous, the couple should address this ahead of time to try to understand why. They should then figure out how to eliminate any doubts from the person’s mind about the reasons their partner wants to swing. The jealous partner will never be the one to seek out the lifestyle; they will be the one who goes along.
Does it mean that you love a person more if seeing them with someone else makes you jealous?
Actually, it has nothing to do with that. Jealousy can become a problem for anyone if they do not trust their partner. It does not matter if you are a swinger or not. If your partner does not make you feel secure, jealousy is the result. You begin to question their motives, especially in the lifestyle.
How can we learn to either avoid it or eliminate jealous feelings?
When you are a swinger, if your partner always consults with you regarding what you would like or who you would like to play with, there would be no reason to feel jealous. If your partner keeps checking in to make sure you are happy and comfortable, you feel they care about you. How could you feel jealous when someone makes you a priority?
When you take the attitude that what is good for you, is good for your partner, it helps keep you balanced. If you want your partner to treat you a certain way, you should first treat your partner that way. It starts at the very beginning of any evening. When you take time to get dressed and look your best, if your partner says nothing, you wonder if maybe you don’t look great. You start to second guess your hair, what you are wearing, etc. If, on the other hand, your partner takes notice and tells you how nice you look, the night will start off on a better note.
If your partner grabs your hand while you are talking to other couples, it makes you feel united. When they pay you a compliment in front of others, it also makes you feel special. Going that little extra distance will make any partner feel special and important. Imagine if everyone took a moment out of their night to tune in to the person they are with to let them know how special they are. Maybe an unexpected kiss or touch; it goes a long way to making your partner feel loved. When you feel loved and secure, there is never a reason to feel jealous.
Communicating the reason you swing to your partner will also help to avoid jealous feelings. When you remind them that they are your priority, it helps them to accept seeing you play with someone else. When you take the time to tell you partner that swinging is for the moment, that they are your partner and you will go home together, it makes a big difference. When you are playing with someone else, a simple touch or kiss with your partner reminds them that you are there for them all the time. It tells them that even though you are playing with someone else, they are still thinking about you.
Can we learn to turn off jealous feelings?
If a couple takes the time to practice these tips, there should be no reason for anyone to feel jealous. Just remember, the next time you want to leer at someone you are interested in or disregard your partner’s lack of desire to play with another couple that you are not thinking about them. If one person is always thinking about themselves, jealousy will come into play for their partner.
Always remember that what is good for you, is good for your partner. If you treat your partner in a way that is respectful and loving, you give them no reason to feel jealous. It’s that simple.
Dear Partners ID,
This is a quickie that we think you’ll enjoy. My hubby and I have been in the lifestyle for over 4 years. We have met many couples in our everyday life over the years that we have wondered about but never came right out and asked. We have tried many times to “discover” which one of our friends or neighbors might be swingers through conversations but it never led to a confession from any of them.
We have your jewelry and love both the design and the concept. We went to a concert one night with friends of ours and were very excited because we had second-row seats. During the concert, I realized the lead guitarist was wearing your jewelry! I couldn’t believe it! I tried several times to catch his attention to point to my own necklace but I wasn’t sure if he could see us with all the lights. Finally, the lights went down for a solo so I took out my phone and used the flashlight to shine on my necklace. It took awhile but he finally spotted us and gave us the thumbs up. Of course, my friend was watching and she was very curious. I told her I’d tell her later (really having no clue what I would say).
At the encore performance, a security guard came over to us and handed us a note. It was from the lead guitarist! He asked us to come backstage after the concert! It was like I was dreaming. Now I really had to say something to my friends because they would have to come with us.
We told them the necklace is a symbol of being open-minded. We got it when we went to Jamaica because we thought it was a cool concept. Right there, they were like, “OMG you went to Hedo!”
Turns out, they are pretty new to the lifestyle but have had some experiences with people they know. They were interested in going to Hedonism and had read about it online. They also said they had wondered about us as possible swingers!
Anyway, we met the guitarist who was super nice and very cool. We hung out with him for a bit and we exchanged emails. It was incredibly surreal to be backstage with a well-known band!
Oh, and I did kiss his wife…
Long story short, we bought our friends some jewelry for the holidays and we have since discovered there is a swing club not too far from where we live. We are planning for all 4 of us to go next weekend.
Thanks for the jewelry! It’s such a great idea and it really does work!
Brittany and Joe
We love hearing from everyone all around the world about their successes wearing the jewelry. This is a letter we received from a customer about her experience with the jewelry. It was written both in English and French and we included our response in both English and French underneath. Keep the emails coming!
Salut Partners ID,
I just wanted to drop you a line and let you know how well the jewelry works! Such a simple concept with such a great result!
I was born and raised in America, but after college I met a man and moved to the south of France with him. We lived there for 15 years. Part of my initial attraction to him was the sexual chemistry that we had (and of course his sexy French accent). It was intense and lasted quite awhile but something was always missing.
We always spend several weeks each summer at Cap D’agde (a very popular nudist and swinger village), and we always have a good time. We spend our days naked on the beach, drink cocktails at sundown, have dinner and hit the clubs. We play mostly together, which is fine by me, but still something was missing (in my life).
It was during our last trip to Cap D’agde that we discovered your jewelry. We had seen many other couples wearing it and decided to buy pieces for ourselves. The very day I slipped on the necklace, I was alone at the beach when a woman approached me. She, too, was wearing your necklace so I knew that she was a swinger. She introduced herself and sat on the edge of my blanket. As we talked, she gently touched my leg. It was like an electric shock ran through me. She could immediately sense my response as my erect nipples were hard to hide. We sat and talked for about an hour and agreed to meet with our husbands later on at a club.
As I lay in the sun on the beach I considered my response to her touch. I had never played with another woman but the very thought of it made me extremely horny. One of the things I most enjoyed about the American club we had visited was watching women play together. It is not as common here and I always found it a turn on. I packed up my beach gear and rushed back to the room to talk with my husband. I told him about the beach and he laughed. We have a very open marriage and he was happy at the thought of seeing me play with another woman. We had been swinging for years but I never really had the opportunity to play with another woman.
Needless to say, that evening was the most memorable of my entire adult life. I realized that what was missing from my life was another woman! I didn’t realize that I was bisexual before. We were able to get together a few times before she left to go home to Germany and she promised to look us up when she came to the states.
Had I not been wearing the jewelry, this would never have happened. It has opened a door for me that might never have been opened, and I am grateful that this happened!
The jewelry is really beautiful and very easy to spot! As I mentioned, it is quite popular in France and now that we are back home in the states, we plan to wear it all the time.
Merci et bisous à vous!
Danielle y Marcel
Cher Danielle y Marcel,
Merci sincerement ,a tout ceux et celles qui prennent le temps de nous partager leurs enthousiasmes ,concernant notre creation de bijous libertin.Nous sommes tres fier du resultat positif ,car seulement après 2 ans de lancement ,nous recevons continuellement des temoignages encourageants comme les votres a cette effet et ce de partout dans le monde ,aussi loin que de l Australie a Dubail,du Japon a l Afrique Du Sud,d Israel passant par l Europe juste qu en Amerique du Nord ainsi que d Argentine aux Indes.Nous apprecions grandement vos commantaire ,qui nous aident a amiliorer de jour en jour, nos produits destines au monde libertin. A+
(Thank you sincerely, to all of you who take the time to share your enthusiasm concerning our creation of lifestyle jewelry. We are very proud of the positive result! It has now been 4 years since launching the line and we continuously receive encouraging testimonials like yours about its success from all over the world. We hear from people from as far away as Australia to Dubai, Japan to South Africa, Israel passing through Europe, in North America as well as Argentina to India. We greatly appreciate your commentaries, which help us to improve from day to day. Our products are destined to be for everyone in the lifestyle all around the world.)
We read all of your stories about how people have met other swingers by wearing your jewelry and I want to share what happened to me.
I purchased a bracelet from you a few months ago but don’t wear it all of the time. I usually wear it when we go out at night to pubs and such but never thought to wear it during the day.
Last weekend we went out with some swinger friends and had a bit too much to drink. We were in no condition to drive home so we all piled into a cab and went to our friend’s house for the night. The next morning, my hubby and his buddy were busy doing some work around his buddy’s house so I asked his wife to please drive me back to the pub to pick up our car.
Before heading back to get my hubby, I stopped at the pharmacy to pick up some aspirin as my head was pounding from all of the alcohol. I was driving back toward my friend’s house when all of the sudden I see the flashing blue lights behind me. I pulled over and waited for the cop to tell me what the hell I did wrong. He walks over and tells me I was doing 72 mph in a 40 mph zone. Oops! My bad! I hadn’t even realized I was driving that fast. He asks me for my license and registration and when I reach out of the window to hand it to him he starts to smile. I have no idea what his problem is but I’m happy to see him smiling! He puts his hand in his pocket and pulls out a set of keys and there was the key ring with the pendant on it! How lucky am I???
Needless to say, he did not give me a ticket but did tell me about a swing club about 40 miles away that he goes to with his girlfriend. He gave me his card and said if my hubby and I would like to meet them at this club one night to text him and let him know.
I am going to text him soon and set up a date to meet him (he was very cute), but more importantly, I didn’t get a ticket!
I now consider this my lucky bracelet! Had I not stayed over at a friend’s house the night before, I would not have been wearing it! I now wear the bracelet all the time because you really never know!
Hope it brings everyone else as much luck as it has brought me!