The journey from unicorn to prostitute; something she never imagined would happen.

Unicorn turned prostitute wearing Partners ID swinger jewelry black ring

A few years ago, you urged me to write about why I had chosen to become a unicorn. It seemed to help people to understand that not every unicorn is in the lifestyle because they want to steal other women’s husbands.  https://www.swingersjewelry.net/unicorn/

My story today is how I took the leap from reliable second female in the FMF, into paid call girl.

Not long into the COVID crisis, I lost my job.  Having little savings and a steady stream of bills to pay, I began to feel desperate.

I had never thought of charging people money for sex, it actually happened rather organically.  

Swing clubs closed down in March and at first, my lifestyle friends resorted to throwing private parties.  They said they would keep everyone safe by only inviting “close” friends.  For me, this made no sense, and the last thing I needed, was to get sick.  I declined every invitation and was clear in explaining that it felt too risky.  

Those parties came to a screeching halt when sadly, several of the party-goers ended up in the hospital with COVID.  Those who did not feel sick quickly got tested to calm their fears.

Soon after, I began to get calls from couples I knew from the lifestyle.  Each asked casually if I would like to join them one evening for drinks at their home.  I might be single, but I’m not stupid.  When a  swinger couple invites me to their home, I know what they are expecting.

Sitting at home for weeks on end was causing me to suffer from cabin fever! When I accepted the first invitation, it never crossed my mind to ask for payment from them.  I was looking forward to a fun evening!  

The night with this couple was great and I felt relaxed knowing they had been tested after the party incident.  When the evening was over, the husband walked me out to my car.  He stuffed a wad of bills into my hand and thanked me.  I was shocked and said he was crazy, but he explained that he was simply trying to help me.  “We are friends, and I understand your current situation.  You need the money, just take it,” he said.  Thanking him, I kissed him and drove home.

Did this make me a prostitute?  Was I just paid for sex?  In my head, I really felt he was being kind and trying to help me.  It was true, I needed the money and I did take a risk going to their home.

A few days later, another couple called with a similar invitation.  I was less friendly with this couple and I hesitated.  Could I accept the invitation but tell them I would expect to be paid?  After considering how thrilled I was with the money I received last time, it was tempting.

I rehearsed what I would say and finally mustered up the courage to call them back.  Thankfully, the call went to voicemail.  It was a quick explanation of my current financial situation and the risk I was taking. I added that for some financial compensation, I would love to join them.

They did not call me back which made me feel awful.  Not because I cared about them, but I felt awful about myself.  During that first day, I went back and forth about it, but ultimately believed it was my right.  I don’t owe anybody anything and I am allowed to set the terms if people want to use me. 

Guess what?  Two days later, another couple phoned.  Same invitation and had already heard from the second couple.  They were happy to “help me out financially”!  I was thrilled!  This time I didn’t have to ask because they already knew.

And just like that, I had gone from unicorn, fun ‘extra’ female, to paid call girl!  The truth is, I don’t feel bad about it.  I am fulfilling a need for these couples and they are doing something to help me in return.  This is a win-win!

Do you like Kennedy’s black ring? Looking for swinger jewelry?  Find it here: https://www.swingersjewelry.net/jewelry-for-swingers/

How the official international swinger symbol was created.

Official Internationl Swinger Symbol

Partners ID is proud to report that our swinger symbol is the only official swinger symbol recognized around the world.  We have sold our jewelry in close to 40 countries around the world and we are growing every day!

Why we created a symbol

Prior to entering this business, we did our research.  Did a swinger symbol exist?  If it did, we simply wanted to wear one!  The truth is, it did not.  There was no other symbol in the world that was created to identify swingers.  NASCA had created one in the past but gave us their blessing to create something new.   The closest thing we found was the black ring, but that seemed to be a controversial symbol.  Although swingers tried to designate a specific finger to wear the ring, black rings were readily available so many people wear them who are not swingers.

We did our homework, no symbol existed

After traveling to many different countries, we realized a swinger symbol simply did not exist.  Out of our own personal frustration, we got together with 2 other couples, from other countries, and decided to create a unique swinger symbol. Something that could not be confused or easily guessed by others.

The creation of the actual swinger symbol

This was no small undertaking.   It was important to design something symbolic of the lifestyle.  (Read about the meaning of our pendant here): https://www.swingersjewelry.net/what-does-the-pendant-mean                                            A symbol that could not simply be googled to discover its meaning, was of utmost importance.  If the design was too basic, anyone who saw the logo would be able to uncover its meaning, and that was something we wanted to avoid.  For us, a swinger symbol needed to be both beautiful, discreet, and private.

The process was a long one

When the swinger symbol design was finalized, we went through the process of mock-ups and had to decide on materials and colors, etc.  Next came the process of trying to figure out how to let people know about this symbol and what it represents.  

Why the name Partners ID?

We chose the name Partners ID to keep it meaningful but professional.  If anyone saw the name on a package, it would not be cause for concern.  We hired someone in the lifestyle to create our social media profiles and write blogs for our website.  Every photo, every design, everything we have done was with swingers in mind.  It is now an honor to receive emails from our customers relating to how they met other swingers because they wore our jewelry.

Including other swingers in the process, was important to us

Your opinions and feedback and are always extremely important to us. Each email and suggestion is taken seriously and discussed at monthly meetings.  We have donated jewelry for countless events and try to be an integral part of the community.  All the while, we continued listening to what those in the lifestyle want for their swinger symbol.  

The black ring with the swinger symbol is our design

When we discovered many swingers loved the black ring, we came up with the idea to put our logo on it to take the guess work out.  Experimenting with tattoos at a takeover proved swingers wanted our logo on a tattoo and so we created those.  Bumper stickers?  We created those as well.  A yard sign?  A beach flag?  All at our customers’ requests. 

There will always be copy cats…

This is what it takes to become the company that created the international symbol for swingers.  There can only be one swinger symbol or the purpose is mute.  Just like any other group, it is important to embrace one symbol and to wear it with pride.  The best part of our swinger symbol is that it is only known to those in the lifestyle.  They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery and we will accept the imitators with grace, knowing that they have simply copied both our ideas and products.

Just like swingers wanted the black ring, they want more than jewelry options…

We have expanded our line to include anything you can desire with our swinger symbol on it.  Although we personally sell mostly jewelry, we have partnered with other companies to provide an array of products.  If you are looking for jewelry, our website, our Etsy store, and Amazon carries those items:  

www.swingerjewelry.net      https://www.etsy.com/shop/Swingersjewelry  

For other items, you can find them here:

https://www.redbubble.com/people/Partners-ID/shop

https://www.cafepress.com/profile/partnersid

How easy it is to meet others swingers when you spot our lifestyle symbol.

 

Dear Partners ID,

We read all of your blogs and really enjoy reading about how people meet other swingers while wearing your jewelry. The need for a lifestyle symbol is over, you created it and it works.    Here is how we know this for sure!

A few months ago, we purchased two black rings from your website.  You were running a promotion that included a free bumper sticker.  When the package arrived, we slipped on the rings (which we love) and decided to put the bumper sticker on our mailbox.  The simple design seems to go unnoticed by people who don’t know what it means.

About one week after adhering the sticker, I found a plain white envelope on top of the mail left in the box.  It simply had our address scrawled on it.  I opened the envelope and there was a note with a business card.  I was about to toss it aside when I noticed the sexy couple pictured on the card.

The note was from a couple who passes our house every day on their way to work.  They noticed the sticker on the mailbox and wanted to say hi.  I picked up the card and looked carefully at the couple in the picture.  There was an email address and a Kasidie screen name.  

I ran to my computer and looked at their profile on Kasidie.  They looked to be a bit younger than we are but both looked attractive.  As soon as my husband returned home I showed him the note.  He was shocked that someone actually noticed the sticker and acted on it.

We sent an email and invited them for cocktails.  They accepted the invitation and we made plans for that same weekend.  Long story short, this couple lives one street over and our children go to school together.  This was the first time either of us had seen each other.  

Cocktails turned into a quick pizza dinner and they stayed well past midnight.  I would have liked to say we played with them but as I mentioned, we have children so that was not possible.  We do have plans to meet out for dinner and (maybe more) in a few weeks.  I can’t tell you how excited we are!  

They have been in the lifestyle for a few years and recognized the lifestyle sticker as soon as they saw it.  It took a few days to figure out how to approach us but this worked!

Thank you for the added gift!  We have new friends who live one block from us!  We would never have met them if not for the sticker!  

Looking forward to our future rendezvous!  

Big hugs!

Jessie and Brian

Livingston, NJ

We are still offering free bumper stickers (or mailbox stickers) for free with the purchase of 2 black rings.  You can see them here:

The Partners ID Black Lifestyle Ring – Buy 2 Rings get a FREE Bumper Sticker