This Thanksgiving , don’t forget to be thankful for the lifestyle!

 

I think it is safe to say that these days, people have learned not to take things for granted. For those of us who have been fortunate and are in good health, Thanksgiving seems like the right time to take notice.  It seems every time you turn on your television or computer there is news of yet another tragic event.  Between school shootings, random killings, political discourse, natural disasters, etc. it is becoming very difficult to ignore the fact that so many people are suffering.

Thanksgiving is the perfect time to sit back and count your blessings. First of all, it is important to be grateful for all of the positive things in your life.  It helps to diminish the things we worry about that really are not all that important.  

When considering all of the thing in your life that you are thankful for, don’t forget to include the lifestyle.  For those of us who are fortunate enough to be in the lifestyle, do we tend to take it for granted?  Imagine how many of your friends and colleagues would like to spend just one evening in your shoes!  Swing clubs, private parties, cruises, take overs, resorts, you name it!   For most people, once you have experienced the lifestyle, you do not want to be out.  Why is that?  What is so special about the lifestyle?

What comes to mind for most people would probably be the sex.  The sex is what makes the lifestyle so special.  Being able to have an open marriage and sleep with others has got to be the best thing ever!  Right?  Sure, sex plays a big part in the lifestyle, but that is not what makes it the most special.

Besides the sex, what is so great about the lifestyle?  Most importantly, it would have to be the people.  The lifestyle is the only place where you will always be surrounded by people who just want to have a good time.  There is a time and a place for serious conversations and complaining about all of the world’s problems, but not here.  Swinger events are about joy.  People do not want to spend their day or night thinking about the latest school shooting or the political problems of the world.  The lifestyle is a place to put that aside and enjoy yourself.  

People who are in the lifestyle tend to be very open minded.  That extends far beyond their mentality towards sex.  Most people are not racist, homophobic, prejudiced or judgmental.  Swing clubs are home to every race, religion and gender.  People are welcoming and warm. 

The bottom line?  As you sit around the table and gives thanks for everything in your life that you are grateful for, don’t forget to include the lifestyle.  Perhaps you do not want to say that out loud. Simply give your partner that look and they will know what you’re thinking!

Happy Thanksgiving from Partners ID!!  Enjoy your turkey!

Remember to order your holiday jewelry early for the best selection!  Many pieces are one of a kind and will not be duplicated.  Lifestyle jewelry is the perfect gift for all of your lifestyle friends, lovers and hosts!  See the jewelry here:

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A unicorn explains why she is in the lifestyle and what she is looking for.

 

 

 

Unicorn wearing Partners ID jewelry
Unicorn wearing Partners ID jewelry

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This blog was written for Partners ID by Kennedy M., a single woman in the lifestyle.

Most swingers prefer to keep the fact that they are in the lifestyle to themselves.  At times it can be challenging, especially when we find ourselves in situations that are hard to explain.  Imagine how hard it would be for vanilla people to wrap their minds around a unicorn!

Not long ago, while taking notes in a board room for an important client, I received an email with a subject line that said it was an important message from Joe (a close friend’s name).  I was busy and did not look at the return email address.  As soon as we took a break for a few minutes I scrolled down and clicked on it.  To my surprise there was a close up picture of a black man’s dick.  Before I could click delete, a male coworker was standing behind my chair asking if that was my new boyfriend.

When I am not blogging about my lifestyle experiences I have a job that is quite vanilla; complete with meetings in board rooms and client lunches.  For obvious reasons, I do not discuss my private life where I work.  When colleagues ask what I did over the weekend, I usually tell them, “The usual; a movie, some dinner” etc.  The company I work for would be horrified if they really knew how I spend my weekends.

I am a unicorn, a single girl in the swinger lifestyle, for those who do not know the term.

When I started swinging, I was not alone.  My boyfriend and I spent at least two night each week in our local swing club.   I was very much in love with my boyfriend and was heart broken when he ended it with little explanation.

I am not soured by this nor do I hate men.  Right now, I am wary of putting my heart out there again in fear that I will find myself in the same situation.

When I was finally ready to go back out after the breakup, I returned to a place where I felt very comfortable in the past.  My former boyfriend and I were swing club rats and spent at least two nights a week in our local establishment.  We had a nice circle of lifestyle friends, many of whom had reached out to me after the break up.

My first night out alone was a little bit scary.  Naturally, I was unsure how I would be received by some of the women.  Although I knew I was not looking to intrude on anyone’s relationship, would other people know that?  I had never really known any unicorns but had heard some women speaking poorly of them in the past.  The last thing I wanted was for people to think I had some ulterior motives for spending time in a swing club.

For the most part, the women were happy to see me and welcomed me with open arms.  One or two seemed a bit uncomfortable with all the attention the men lavished upon me (which I in no way sought out but as most unicorns will admit, it is hard to avoid).

The first few times I went to the club I felt a little awkward.  I needed people to make me feel like I belonged there.  It didn’t take long for couples (some I knew, some I did not) to ask me to join them in the back room.  After a period of time I started receiving invitations to parties.  Then men started asking me to accompany them to the club when their wives were out of town.   Although I do know other unicorns who have no problem with this, I have always declined the offers.   Whereas I knew why I was there, I wasn’t sure others understood why I chose to make a swing club my night life of choice.  It was hurtful when I overheard women asking each other what exactly I was looking for.

I will tell you “what I was, and still am, looking for.”  I love to dance, I love to dress sexy and I love to have fun.  I like to meet new people and I love to have sex; both with men and with women.  I like the comfort and the warmth of the lifestyle.  It’s a great place to go to as you do not need a date, or to make plans with others.  You just show up and hang with the people who are there.  You can spend an amazing night, have great sex and kiss the other people goodnight.  I can go home and sleep alone in my bed.  Nobody to answer to.  I can stay until 12 midnight or go home at 4am.  I can do what I want with no strings attached.

If I am looking for some one on one time, there are always single guys who are more than willing to spend the evening with a unicorn.  The best part is, I do not have to be alone with them.  We can choose a private room to play but I am not in a scary situation with a stranger.  If I want to be with a couple, no problem.  If I want a gang bang, that’s my choice.  The best part for me is that I leave alone.

I am not looking for a boyfriend, husband or anything else; just a good time.  That’s it, that’s all.  Obviously I cannot speak for every unicorn as we are all individuals.  Over time I have gotten to know a few who spend time in this swing club. We are definitely not all on the same page.  Personally, I will not go into the back room with someone else’s husband if she is not in the club to approve.  Most of the other girls have no problem with that.

I  will not date a married man with or without the wife’s permission.  I will only play with someone’s husband if she is present, but even then, I prefer to make it a threesome.  Most unicorns I have met don’t really have any rules.  They are out for themselves and offer no apologies for what they do.  They prefer to be alone for a variety of reasons and although they love the attention they get in the clubs, for the most part, they are not looking for anything more than a good time.

I have tried to imagine how I would feel if there was a unicorn around when my boyfriend and I were together at the club.  We did not really know of any at that time so it is hard to say.  If unicorns are respectful of other’s relationships then there should never be a problem.  I would suggest making sure that if you choose this route you pay a lot of attention to the women.  If you are flirting with their husband and ignoring them, this will be a problem for sure.  Since you have no one to offer to them, you must flirt with them as a couple.  Always try to put yourself in the woman’s shoes and ask yourself how you would feel if the situation were reversed.

Unicorns are a great addition to the lifestyle if they understand the rules of the game.  Some think they are the stars of the club because they get a lot of attention.  Perhaps it would be better to just think of yourself as another component to the lifestyle.  Although we bring an added element to the lifestyle, the lifestyle could easily exist without us.

Nobody ever asks what single men are looking for in the club.  Why the double standard?  It seems a question I hear often regarding unicorns.   Perhaps it would surprise people to hear that I am looking for sex just like they are.  It just so happens tothat I prefer the no strings attached variety.  I don’t want you to call me in the morning.  Really, I don’t.  More often that not, I also don’t want to play with you again.  It was fun once but I am not looking to repeat the experience regardless of how awesome it might have been.  I am not looking for you to cuddle with me or tell me how beautiful I am.  Please do not tell me about your problems and I will not bother you with mine.  The truth is, I don’t really care, I just want to enjoy my night out.

I do like to try new things and am very open minded.  Sometimes that seems to make some women feel  a little threatened.  I am not a slut or a whore because I am a sexual person.  When I was in a relationship I did not feel as free to explore things as I do now.  Perhaps that is why it is hard for you to relate, but that doesn’t really give you the right to judge.

People have asked me many times why I am not out looking for someone of my own.  It is a valid question but again, I am enjoying being by myself.  When I am ready to be in a relationship, I can assure you I will not be fishing for someone in a swing club.  Perhaps one day I will meet a nice single guy at a lifestyle event but who knows.  For now, I am very happy to be a unicorn and have no plans to change that any time soon.

 

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Sex in Texas! A hotwife bank teller finds what she’s looking for!

Bank teller looking for sex

My husband and I have been married for 10 years and although I love him, I need more sex than he does.  At the beginning the sex was hot and often, but after a few years, he was happy to have sex twice a week.  For a while I simply satisfied myself, but after we discovered swinging, everything changed.  

Swinging woke him up sexually and that has been a positive for both of us.  More importantly is that I can go to a swing club and have sex with many men in one night.  My husband loves to watch and if he finds a woman he wants to play with, he likes to hear about what I was doing while he was busy.  

Although I love the sex I can have at a club, I discovered what I was really looking for was the freedom to have sex with other men.  As in, what I want, with who I want, when I want!  

I discussed this with my husband and he told me the thought of my meeting other men for sex was a huge turn on for him!  All he wanted was to hear all about it.  He suggested trying to video tape encounters on my phone so that he could watch what happens.  I wasn’t sure how many men would agree to this but I said I would do my best.

The only problem was, how to let men know that I am available.  I work in a bank and  I meet many men but flirting is frowned upon by management.  We had seen your jewelry before and decided that this would be a way to accomplish this!  Not only would I be able to let other swingers know that I am a swinger, but I love black men and so adding the queen of spade charm was perfect!

I did not meet someone right away but I got a lot of compliments on my necklace.  One of coworkers is obsessed with it which makes me laugh.  At first I thought maybe she was a swinger but she has no clue what it is.  

It took a while but finally I had a bite!  It was a regular customer and he simply handed me his deposit and his personal calling card together.  He smiled and told me to have a nice day.  I think I got wet just thinking about what this meant!  I sent him a text as soon as I was on a break and he responded right away!  He and his wife are swingers and they have an open marriage!  He is allowed to meet other women as long as he tells his wife!  

We met up for drinks the next night after work and headed right over to a motel nearby.  He was not open to the video idea but said my husband could listen in over the phone if that would make him happy.  The sex was incredibly hot and lasted quite a few hours.  We talked about the necklace and he asked about the extra charm.  I told him that I love black men (he is not) and he told me he knows quite a few from their circle of swingers.  He said he could ask them to call me if I liked.  This was unbelievable!  Needless to say, I was thrilled!

Long story short, I have been very busy after work and wanted to tell you that the jewelry definitely works!  

Hugs and kisses

Francesca

Dallas, TX

Check out the necklace this hotwife is wearing here:  https://www.swingersjewelry.net/product/spade/

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Swingers finding swingers in New York City.

Swingers posing for the camera wearing Partners ID jewelry

Dear Partners ID,

I love reading about how swingers have met each other wearing your jewelry! Our story isn’t as exotic as some of the others but I hope it is good enough to publish! 

We have been swingers for a long time, over 15 years, and when we heard about your jewelry we were hopeful that it would catch on.  There is no question that swingers need something like this.  We are so tired of trying to meet swingers through dating sites for all of the obvious reasons:  people lie about their age, show old pictures, don’t show up for planned meetings, etc.  

Anyway, we did buy jewelry, crossed our fingers that it would work and we wear it proudly.  Last weekend was our anniversary and my husband planned a romantic getaway for us in New York City.  Fancy hotel, tickets to a show, chic restaurants and even a carriage ride through Central Park.  What could be more exciting!  

We went to see Hamilton (which was as good as we had heard it was) and off to dinner after.  We tried to get a cab after the show but that was impossible.  We ended up walking the whole way back to the upper east side where our restaurant reservation was. (Quite painful in my beautiful new shoes!)  Of course we were very late so they had given our table away. They told us to wait at the bar for one to open up.  

A very nice man offered me his seat at the very crowded bar and I gladly accepted!  My husband in turn bought he and his wife a round of drinks and we chatted with them.  They asked us if we were planning anything after dinner and we were intrigued.  We have been in the lifestyle a long time and had the feeling this was something promising!  We asked what they had in mind and the wife lifted her purse off the bar to show it to me.  OMG!  I couldn’t believe it!  She had a gorgeous bag with your pendant on it!  How clever!  We laughed because my husband and I were both wearing pieces from your collection!

Needless to say, we had dinner with them and then headed back to their hotel room for a night of fun.  They told us they have met many couples because of the jewelry.  I told them they were our first but she did point out that she looks for it.  That is a good point because I had never thought to look.  Now I will!

Thanks!!!

Cindy and Rob

Charlotte, NC

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Picking up strangers for a sexual encounter; why this is not always a safe idea.

 

 

Sexual girl in bar wearing Partners ID jewelry

Swinging is a lot of fun and allows people to live out some of their sexual fantasies in a safe way.  You meet other swingers, you have sex, you go home.  But what happens when swingers want to push the envelope and see if they can wrangle in a vanilla person to fulfill their fantasy?  If this sounds exciting to you, perhaps there are things you should consider before taking this route.

Most swingers choose to keep the fact that they are in the lifestyle a secret. They go to great lengths to hide this from family, friends, coworkers and neighbors. Why do we do this? Well, let’s face it, people who are not in the lifestyle really do not understand the concept. Most people find swinging to be highly unethical and simply cannot imagine giving their partner permission to have sex with other people.  Although they have seen threesomes and gangbangs while watching porn, this is not something they want to explore for themselves.

Why then, do some swingers think that picking up an unsuspecting vanilla person for a sexual encounter is a good idea? Fantasies are a wonderful thing, but when people try to incorporate that into their real lives, with unsuspecting people, things can go very wrong.

I have heard stories of couples hitting on unsuspecting businessmen in hotel bars which had near disastrous consequences. Some couples send their wives into the bar to hit on the men. They don’t tell the men about the husband waiting upstairs until the man arrives at the room. Most men simply leave, but one couple chose a man with an anger problem and he was ready to fight the man for the “right” to have sex with his wife and insisted the husband leave the room.  A quick thinking wife dialed the operator from the hotel phone and security showed up a few moments later to escort the man from their room.

I read a story on a forum about a couple who befriended a stranger in a bar and invited him back to their home for a drink. They honestly thought he knew what their intentions were but this man is not in the lifestyle and so his mind did not go there. When the wife tried to hit on him he freaked out and left. The next day they found a sign on their lawn announcing that ‘swingers live here’.

Another couple tried to pick up a woman in a bar while they were vacationing. They brought her back to their room hoping she would be open to a threesome. She did kiss the woman for a few minutes but said she was too drunk and needed to sleep it off on the couch for a while and then would be open to sex with them both. The woman fell asleep and eventually so did this couple. When they woke up, she was gone and so was his wallet.

The lifestyle offers so many ways to meet other swingers that it is hard to understand why people would put themselves in these types of situations. Although you read stories about wild nights of sex with strangers that couples manage to pick up, how many are actually true? There is a good chance that most of these stories are fantasies that people wish were real!
Swing clubs offer an environment where threesomes and foursomes and gang bangs are normal and accepted. Flirting with other men and women is expected and desired. There are bouncers and a staff that is ready to intervene if ever there is a problem. Every person who enters a club must present ID at the door, which is entered into a computer so there are no strangers in a club.

Online dating sites for swingers offers people the chance to meet other swingers for fun. Why not contact couples or singles to meet in a bar or other public venue from a site like this? At least you know these people are open to whatever you are looking for because you can ask them before you meet!

We have heard recent horror stories about dating apps like Tinder and Plenty of Fish yet some couples continue to hope that they can meet other swingers from these types of apps. Why not try an app that is geared to swingers?

Craigslist has proven itself to be a haven for the insane. Ashley Madison has attracted some swingers but why look for people who are cheating on their spouse?

It is not hard to find other swingers with all the resources that are out there. Check Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or simply google to find endless sites that help swingers find other swingers.

If finding other swingers out in a public venue is still your goal, wear our lifestyle jewelry to let others know what you are looking for. The pendant is recognized around the world!

Check out our jewelry here: https://www.swingersjewelry.net/jewelry-for-swingers/

It is important to remember that just because you and your partner are sexually adventurous and open, does not mean that people who appeal to you feel the same way.  Even close friends who can be a bit flirtatious are not usually swingers and might be shocked if you hit on them.

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My name is Chris and I’ve been swinging for over 20 years.

Chris, who has been swinging for 20 years, sipping coffee wearing a Partners ID necklace
Man sipping coffe wearing Partners ID necklace.

My name is Chris and I have been swinging for over 20 years.  This is the first time I have ever met swingers without actually seeking them out either online or by attending a swinger’s event.

I often travel for business and my wife and I have an open marriage. What happens on the road, stays on the road and what my wife does while I’m on the road is all good. (I just want to hear all about it).

Recently my work took me to Boston, MA and while I have been there before, I never really thought of is as a place that would be riddled with swingers. Boston is a college town with so many young people that I never thought much about swinging when I visited in the past.

What set this trip apart was that my wife surprised me for our anniversary and bought me a beautiful gold and silver necklace from you, which of course has the pendant for swingers. I wear it everyday but never really expected to meet random swingers. Well, I was wrong on two accountants. First, Boston is a whole lot more than a college town, and second, you will meet random swingers when you wear the jewelry.

After spending the morning in a meeting, I needed to get some fresh air. I walked out to find a Starbucks so I could sit and answer some emails on my computer. I ordered some coffee, sat down at a table, and got to work. About 5 minutes after sitting down, a couple walked over and asked if they could sit at the table with me. I glanced up at them and told them no problem. We were sitting in a corner where we had relative privacy. Starbucks was busy and it was quite loud. I looked back down and started to type when I overheard the conversation between the couple. They were discussing their travel plans for an upcoming vacation to Miami and how they were excited to finally meet a couple they were talking to on SDC. As soon as I heard SDC I looked up and they were both looking at me. I didn’t say anything but the woman asked me if I was on SDC. I was taken aback but then she pointed to my necklace.

Honestly I couldn’t believe it! I took out my headphones and told her I was on SDC and assumed they were as well. She opened her bag, took out a card and handed it to me. She said she hoped to hear from me soon. With that, the two of the them got up from the table and left. I was so shocked I could barely believe what had just happened. How lucky to be in the right place at the right time!

Needless to say, i immediately signed on to SDC to check them out. They looked to be a very hot couple who are totally open so I sent them an email telling them I was only in town until the next day but would love to meet up with them. I got a response from them within a half an hour inviting me to their home that evening.

I won’t go into too much detail but I will say it was a wonderful experience that I would never have had if it were not for wearing your necklace. As you can see I have placed an order for a few more pieces. Although my new friends knew what the jewelry meant, they did not own the jewelry. As a thank you I have purchased these pieces for them.

I’m very excited for what I might experience in the future. We have been swinging for more than 20 years and nothing like this has ever happened to me before. This is a great help for swingers who like to meet others in unlikely places.

That’s my story!

Chris K.

Chicago, IL

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“I never thought it would happen to me!” A swinger’s story…

Couple wearing Partners ID jewelry, whispering
Couple wearing Partners ID jewelry, whispering

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hi Partners ID.  I love reading your blog but I especially like to read the emails you recieve from folks who have had success with the jewelry.  Just like most things in life, I never thought it would happen to me but it did!  Magical!

We have been swingers for about 5 years and mostly seek out parties at hotels near where we live.  It can be a bit frustrating because we would like to have more of a swinger social life but we really don’t have a club close enough to drive just  for an evening.  

To try to satisfy our desire to immerse ourselves in swinging, we took a vacation in August to Hedonism.   That’s where we discovered your jewelry.  It worked like a charm in Jamaica because people could identify that we were swingers and so they approached us.  To be honest, we weren’t really sure if we would have any success with the jewelry back at home.

I wear my necklace everyday for two reasons:  first because I love the design and second, obviously, because I would like to meet other swingers.  

We live in a wonderful community and have met many of our neighbors since moving in last year.  We got a note in our mailbox a few weeks ago inviting us to their annual block party.  We are a very social couple and looked forward to spending the afternoon with everyone while hoping to meet some new people.  

We offered to help with the set up, and spent the evening before the party baking goodies to share with our neighbors.  We arrived early and were greeted by a couple we had not yet met.  They were quite a bit older than we are but were so warm and  welcoming.  They mentioned that their son and his wife would be attending the party and hoped we would get a chance to meet them.  

We were impressed with the turnout for the party!  There were well over 100 people out on the street enjoying the food, music, games and socializing.  At one point my husband left me talking with another couple to run back and get us some drinks.  He ran into the older couple that we had helped with the set up.  They were with their son and his wife and were thrilled to be able to introduce them to my husband.  

A short time later my husband returned and he was wilth another couple who seemed anxious to meet me.  I politely excused myself and went over to meet them.  With a big smile on his face my husband introduced me to this couple, who are about the same age we are.  I went to shake the man’s hand and he pulled me in for a kiss.  I was a little stunned until he whispered in my ear  to look at his bracelet.  Sure enough, there it was!  He, too, was wearing your jewelry!  OMG I was so excited to meet them!  We spent the entire rest of the day with them and the next night as well!  The best part is, since his parents are our neighbors, they come to town quite often.  

Such a great concept!  Thank you again for what you are doing for the lifestyle!  Like I said, it’s magical!

~Lisa and Doug

Colorado (too small a town to name!)

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It doesn’t get any hotter! A public sexual encounter because of the jewelry!

Sexual couple wearing Partners ID jewelry
Sexual couple wearing Partners ID jewelry

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It was supposed to be an easy, comfortable night. Dinner, movie then get a few drinks before heading home.

It was all so unexpected. I arrived at the movies early with my husband to get good seats. We snacked on some popcorn and licorice and drank bottled water (which we had filed with white wine at home).

We saw people enter the theater and grab seats, sometimes saving one or two for friends or loved ones.

The trailer started and lights went down. We were happy to see the movie would begin soon.

I rested my hand on his leg and he put his hand on top of mine.

Well after the movie began, I leaned into my husband and whispered in his ear that I would be right back, I was going to the restroom.

After I washed my hands and was walking out of the restroom I noticed a good looking man was waiting next to the door. I looked at him because I knew I was alone in the bathroom. I wondered who he could be waiting for.

He saw me looking curiously at him. He lifted his arm to point to his wrist. I looked down and saw he wearing lifestyle jewelry. I smiled because I knew he must have seen mine! I was wearing beautiful earrings which dangled down to my shoulders.

He wanted to know if my husband and I would be willing to meet him and his wife for a drink after the movie. I told him we would (I know my husband very well). He leaned in to kiss my cheek and I turned and opened my mouth to kiss him. It was an unexpected surprise for him and he grabbed my ass and pulled me in to him. Next thing I know we are in a stall and he’s pulling down my panties while kissing me. It was quick and it was hot. I hadn’t had sex like that in a very long time (and yes, we are swingers, this was just so hot).

We decided to meet at a bar across the street after the movie.

I returned to my seat and my husband was caught up in the movie. I decided to wait until after to tell him about my experience.

I told him I had met someone in the restroom and agreed to meet them at the bar after the movie. He was fine with that so we hurried across the street to get out of the cold. We waited for them at the bar and I was happy to see that his wife was someone my husband would find attractive (always makes things easier)! They came over and we introduced ourselves.

Over drinks we told them how we had met at the restroom and had a quickie before heading back into the theater. His wife got very excited just hearing the story and put her hand on my husband’s leg. She told him it would seem only fair if the two of the them went to the restroom in the back and did the same. My husband was on his feet before anyone could respond and off they went.

Needless to say, this was the most incredible experience we have ever had with another couple. It was easy and spontaneous and so hot that we are still talking about it at night in bed!

We have seen them quite a few times and it has been amazing!

This is all thanks to the jewelry because without it, none of us would have known the other was in the lifestyle.

Thank you thank you thank you!!!!!

Kisses,

Tori and Jonathan
Michigan

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How big is too big? Hey guys, how do you measure up?

Man sleeping with big erection woman staring at him wearing Partners ID bracelet
Man sleeping with big erection woman staring at him wearing Partners ID bracelet
I imagine when men see this title they immediately click on it to see if I think they measure up.   It seems men are always wondering if they are big enough, and for those who think they are big enough, they wonder if they are the best because of this.  The funny thing is, if you ask almost any woman, she will tell you that although size matters to a degree, it really is what you do with it that matters most.
This is not a topic that required much investigating.  If you listen carefully, you will hear women discussing this frequently in the lifestyle.  Although there are some women who will say that they want the biggest one they can find, they seem to be a very small minority.  More often women say, “Too big is too big.”  Let’s face it, there is only so much room in there and when a man is too big, how does that work?  I have read articles that say you can judge who is a good fit for you if you compare hands.  Women with longer fingers tend to have more length inside whereas women with very short fingers do not.  That being said, if you have longer fingers you should be looking for a man who is larger and vice versa.
A good example of a man’s size not making him good in bed is evident in porn.  Almost every porn flick I have ever seen is about the same.  The man has an enormous penis, the woman gives him a blow job and he climbs on top or takes her from behind.  Ok ladies, is this your fantasy guy?  Sure he has a big dick but so what?  It is very rare for the guy to take care of the woman in porn.  She better hope she’s wet because clearly that was not his priority.  Now I personally do like a guy who’s well endowed but if I was not ready for him it would not be fun.  That is the whole point of what makes a man measure up.  When women say it is not the size but what he does with it, this is part of that equation.
Sexy man in his underwear with Parnters ID necklace
Sexy man in his underwear with Parnters ID necklace
Bigger is only better if you are ready for it and you are able to accommodate it.  A few weeks ago we were playing in the back room of a swing club and a couple came over to the spot next to us.  She was on her back and he took his towel off (already in an erection, I’m guessing he had an injection).  He climbs on top of her and she pushed him back and asked him, “Where ya goin’ with that?”  I couldn’t help but laugh because he looked confused.  She informed him that it was going to take more than that to get her ready.
There are men who are not so lucky and are abnormally small.  You would think they would not have much success in the lifestyle but I have discovered that this is not true.  They seem to make up for their short coming by paying extreme attention to their woman’s needs. This  is very appealing to many women.  By the time they are ready for intercourse, the woman they are playing with are usually very turned on and seem not to notice the size; they just want sex!
Something I have always wondered about is when a man is so large, it must be hard for him to enjoy blow jobs.  Women can only take so much in their mouths.  The smaller sized man has the advantage of the woman being able to deep throat him with no problem at all.  I do enjoy the challenge with the large guys but worry that they are not as fulfilled if I am unable to get to the base.
My true heros in the lifestyle are the women who seek out the most well endowed men for double penetration.  It would seem to me that this is where they might favor the smaller dicks!  Big guy up front, little guy in the back.  No?  Apparently not.
Whatever the case, size is relative.  Everyone likes something different and every man should feel confident with what they have.  You can be sure you measure up if you take the time to take care of your woman.  It works both ways; how would you feel if your woman did not take care of you?  You want the experience to be erotic and hot but it takes two to get there!
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We wore our jewelry in Hawaii and had a hot time when someone spotted us!

Sexy woman poolside at resort in Hawaii
Sexy woman poolside at resort in Hawaii

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Partners ID,

We purchased jewelry from you last winter and wanted to tell you about our sexy adventure in Hawaii.

My husband and I took a vacation in March to a resort in Mauna Kea Beach, Hawaii. It was so beautiful but it was just the two of us. We were simply looking to get away from it all for a week so we thought Hawaii would be a good place to go.

We are swingers (obviously) and do spend a lot of time doing lifestyle type things. Once a year we take a trip alone to get away from it all. Wherever we do go, we wear our jewelry, just in case!

It was our third day there and we were enjoying the beautiful weather. We had done some exploring the day before so we decided to just relax by the pool. The sun was hot so we slipped off our jewelry, left it with our things on our chairs and headed into the pool. We climbed onto some rafts and enjoyed a long time just soaking up the sun.

When we got back to our chairs, someone had left a piece of paper sitting on top of our bags. My husband picked it up and read it. He was excited and showed it to me. The note said that someone had seen our jewelry and was wondering if we would like to meet this evening in the bar for some drinks!! It named the place to meet and said to be there at 9:00 if we were interested. We looked around to see if we could figure out who it was from, but nobody seemed to be paying any attention to us.

We spent the rest of the day like two spies, trying to figure out who the other swingers were. There was no doubt that we were going to meet this couple but we were both hoping to figure out who they were before we went.

After looking over our shoulders all day, we never could find the other swingers but were excited at the prospect of a fun evening. We showered, headed downstairs for some dinner and talked about the evening ahead. We looked around the restaurant hoping to spot another couple wearing the jewelry but it was very crowded and impossible to see most of the people.

At 8:30 we headed over to the bar to have a chance to check out some of the other couples. We ordered some drinks and watched the door. As couples entered the bar we tried to guess which ones it could be. At around ten to nine, a couple appeared at the bar and we both got excited. They were good looking, holding hands and smiling. They looked over at us and without thinking, I waved to them. They walked over and we asked them to join us for a drink. They introduced themselves and sat down. We were about to ask about the note when a tall man appeared at the table. He said, “I see you got my note. My name is Jules and I will be at the bar.” My husband and I looked at each other and we were in shock! It was a single guy and now we had this random couple sitting at our table! We looked at each other and I knew we were thinking the same thing. Maybe this couple swings but how do we ask? We told them we had met this other man at the pool because he spotted our jewelry. They looked at each other and told us it was very beautiful jewelry. Clearly, they had no clue. We explained that we had made plans earlier to meet him here and we didn’t want to be rude. They seemed confused but no big deal, they said maybe they would see us at the pool tomorrow. We got up and headed over to the bar.

Jules was the bartender at the pool area during the day and had spotted us wearing our jewelry. This explained why we didn’t notice him! He was very good looking and eager to be with some new people. He said there are plenty of swingers in Hawaii, on all the islands as far as he knows but it’s always fun to meet new people. We had a few drinks and headed up to our room for a night of fun!

The best part was, he was off the following day so he took us to see some of the local sites and hang with people who were from the island. It was wonderful and we wanted to thank you because obviously in a million years, without the jewelry, we would never have met him and had this opportunity!

My husband gave him his necklace to keep as a reminder of a fun day! He was so grateful! Now, we have to order a new necklace (maybe a bracelet this time).

We will keep you posted when we have another great experience like this! I doubt this will be the only one!

 

Hugs!

Cameron and Justin
Chicago

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