The journey from unicorn to prostitute; something she never imagined would happen.

Unicorn turned prostitute wearing Partners ID swinger jewelry black ring

A few years ago, you urged me to write about why I had chosen to become a unicorn. It seemed to help people to understand that not every unicorn is in the lifestyle because they want to steal other women’s husbands.  https://www.swingersjewelry.net/unicorn/

My story today is how I took the leap from reliable second female in the FMF, into paid call girl.

Not long into the COVID crisis, I lost my job.  Having little savings and a steady stream of bills to pay, I began to feel desperate.

I had never thought of charging people money for sex, it actually happened rather organically.  

Swing clubs closed down in March and at first, my lifestyle friends resorted to throwing private parties.  They said they would keep everyone safe by only inviting “close” friends.  For me, this made no sense, and the last thing I needed, was to get sick.  I declined every invitation and was clear in explaining that it felt too risky.  

Those parties came to a screeching halt when sadly, several of the party-goers ended up in the hospital with COVID.  Those who did not feel sick quickly got tested to calm their fears.

Soon after, I began to get calls from couples I knew from the lifestyle.  Each asked casually if I would like to join them one evening for drinks at their home.  I might be single, but I’m not stupid.  When a  swinger couple invites me to their home, I know what they are expecting.

Sitting at home for weeks on end was causing me to suffer from cabin fever! When I accepted the first invitation, it never crossed my mind to ask for payment from them.  I was looking forward to a fun evening!  

The night with this couple was great and I felt relaxed knowing they had been tested after the party incident.  When the evening was over, the husband walked me out to my car.  He stuffed a wad of bills into my hand and thanked me.  I was shocked and said he was crazy, but he explained that he was simply trying to help me.  “We are friends, and I understand your current situation.  You need the money, just take it,” he said.  Thanking him, I kissed him and drove home.

Did this make me a prostitute?  Was I just paid for sex?  In my head, I really felt he was being kind and trying to help me.  It was true, I needed the money and I did take a risk going to their home.

A few days later, another couple called with a similar invitation.  I was less friendly with this couple and I hesitated.  Could I accept the invitation but tell them I would expect to be paid?  After considering how thrilled I was with the money I received last time, it was tempting.

I rehearsed what I would say and finally mustered up the courage to call them back.  Thankfully, the call went to voicemail.  It was a quick explanation of my current financial situation and the risk I was taking. I added that for some financial compensation, I would love to join them.

They did not call me back which made me feel awful.  Not because I cared about them, but I felt awful about myself.  During that first day, I went back and forth about it, but ultimately believed it was my right.  I don’t owe anybody anything and I am allowed to set the terms if people want to use me. 

Guess what?  Two days later, another couple phoned.  Same invitation and had already heard from the second couple.  They were happy to “help me out financially”!  I was thrilled!  This time I didn’t have to ask because they already knew.

And just like that, I had gone from unicorn, fun ‘extra’ female, to paid call girl!  The truth is, I don’t feel bad about it.  I am fulfilling a need for these couples and they are doing something to help me in return.  This is a win-win!

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Why your attitude and demeanor are crucial to your success in a swing club.

 

couple in swing club wearing Partners ID lifestyle jewelry

 

By now, for those who read my blogs, you know my husband and I spend a good amount of time in swing clubs.  This weekend was no different and we proudly made it out all 3 nights!  

It is in the swing club that I often find topics of interest.  This weekend we were talking about people’s demeanors and how this can affect their success in the lifestyle.  We observed an attractive woman talking with her husband at the bar.  She was smiling and seemed approachable but her husband looked angry and annoyed.  

Soon after first noticing them, they were passing by to walk to the dance floor and she stopped and said hello to us.  Her husband, still with a sour look on his face, stopped beside her.  We introduced ourselves and waited for them to do the same.  She kissed us hello and told us both of their names.  He simply nodded his head.  When we spoke to him he was cordial but never once smiled.   As they walked away we tried to imagine what kind of success they would have in a swing club.  

This man looked so unapproachable, it is hard to imagine that anyone would choose to engage in conversation with them.  We spotted them from time to time and his demeanor never changed.  Even on the dance floor, he looked miserable.  It is possible that he did not want to come to a swing club and was doing it for his wife.  If this was the case, I would understand.  Clearly, however, this man did not have to worry about other couples wanting to get close to them.

Oddly, when the couple was passing us to go back to their seats at the bar, she stopped to speak with my husband.  I smiled at her husband and he simply pretended to be interested in whatever was on the tv screen.  I laughed to myself because this woman was truly wasting her time.  At this point, even if this man suddenly wanted to play with me, I had zero interest.  

Swingers, in general, are warm and friendly people.  While there are exceptions to every rule, most people that we meet in swing clubs, are there to meet others.  For this reason, if someone conveys negativity, their chances of hooking up with others is very low.

I couldn’t help but wonder if she realized how he came across to other people.  Our assumption was that she brought him to the club and clearly, he did not appreciate being there.   We lost track of them but I imagine their night ended early.

This is not the first person in a swing club that I have observed with a chip on their shoulder. It continues to confuse me as to why people waste their time and money doing something they are clearly not interested in doing.  To please their partner?  Maybe, but obviously this generally backfires.  

Swinging is something that couples must approach together.  If a couple is not on the same page, this is the result.  Coming into a lifestyle situation with a closed mind is not going to yield a positive outcome, regardless of how much one person wants it to work.  

I considered that maybe this is simply the man’s disposition.  It is possible, however,  that he is one of those people whose resting facial expression leads people astray.  His wife did mention he is foreign, perhaps his country of origin does not expect people to smile and be up all the time.  Maybe he had a bad day at work or some other personal problem.  

Any of these things are possible and it was for that reason that when they stopped to talk, we made an effort to be warm to them both.  Not because we wanted to play with them, but simply to be nice and put him at ease.  This is where he fell short.  He had an opportunity to be friendly and he chose to be cold.

Much like when someone has bad breath and we wonder why their significant other doesn’t tell them, we questioned if she said something to him.  If the problem is that he is shy, his wife needs to help him engage when the opportunity presents itself.  If he is simply unfriendly, maybe they need to rethink the whole swing club idea.

Whatever the case, the bottom line is that a positive attitude and demeanor are important if you want to have success in a swing club.  There are too many friendly faces for people to waste their time trying to warm up someone who is just plain cold.

 

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We wore our jewelry in Hawaii and had a hot time when someone spotted us!

Sexy woman poolside at resort in Hawaii
Sexy woman poolside at resort in Hawaii

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Partners ID,

We purchased jewelry from you last winter and wanted to tell you about our sexy adventure in Hawaii.

My husband and I took a vacation in March to a resort in Mauna Kea Beach, Hawaii. It was so beautiful but it was just the two of us. We were simply looking to get away from it all for a week so we thought Hawaii would be a good place to go.

We are swingers (obviously) and do spend a lot of time doing lifestyle type things. Once a year we take a trip alone to get away from it all. Wherever we do go, we wear our jewelry, just in case!

It was our third day there and we were enjoying the beautiful weather. We had done some exploring the day before so we decided to just relax by the pool. The sun was hot so we slipped off our jewelry, left it with our things on our chairs and headed into the pool. We climbed onto some rafts and enjoyed a long time just soaking up the sun.

When we got back to our chairs, someone had left a piece of paper sitting on top of our bags. My husband picked it up and read it. He was excited and showed it to me. The note said that someone had seen our jewelry and was wondering if we would like to meet this evening in the bar for some drinks!! It named the place to meet and said to be there at 9:00 if we were interested. We looked around to see if we could figure out who it was from, but nobody seemed to be paying any attention to us.

We spent the rest of the day like two spies, trying to figure out who the other swingers were. There was no doubt that we were going to meet this couple but we were both hoping to figure out who they were before we went.

After looking over our shoulders all day, we never could find the other swingers but were excited at the prospect of a fun evening. We showered, headed downstairs for some dinner and talked about the evening ahead. We looked around the restaurant hoping to spot another couple wearing the jewelry but it was very crowded and impossible to see most of the people.

At 8:30 we headed over to the bar to have a chance to check out some of the other couples. We ordered some drinks and watched the door. As couples entered the bar we tried to guess which ones it could be. At around ten to nine, a couple appeared at the bar and we both got excited. They were good looking, holding hands and smiling. They looked over at us and without thinking, I waved to them. They walked over and we asked them to join us for a drink. They introduced themselves and sat down. We were about to ask about the note when a tall man appeared at the table. He said, “I see you got my note. My name is Jules and I will be at the bar.” My husband and I looked at each other and we were in shock! It was a single guy and now we had this random couple sitting at our table! We looked at each other and I knew we were thinking the same thing. Maybe this couple swings but how do we ask? We told them we had met this other man at the pool because he spotted our jewelry. They looked at each other and told us it was very beautiful jewelry. Clearly, they had no clue. We explained that we had made plans earlier to meet him here and we didn’t want to be rude. They seemed confused but no big deal, they said maybe they would see us at the pool tomorrow. We got up and headed over to the bar.

Jules was the bartender at the pool area during the day and had spotted us wearing our jewelry. This explained why we didn’t notice him! He was very good looking and eager to be with some new people. He said there are plenty of swingers in Hawaii, on all the islands as far as he knows but it’s always fun to meet new people. We had a few drinks and headed up to our room for a night of fun!

The best part was, he was off the following day so he took us to see some of the local sites and hang with people who were from the island. It was wonderful and we wanted to thank you because obviously in a million years, without the jewelry, we would never have met him and had this opportunity!

My husband gave him his necklace to keep as a reminder of a fun day! He was so grateful! Now, we have to order a new necklace (maybe a bracelet this time).

We will keep you posted when we have another great experience like this! I doubt this will be the only one!

 

Hugs!

Cameron and Justin
Chicago