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My story today is how I took the leap from reliable second female in the FMF, into paid call girl.
Not long into the COVID crisis, I lost my job. Having little savings and a steady stream of bills to pay, I began to feel desperate.
I had never thought of charging people money for sex, it actually happened rather organically.
Swing clubs closed down in March and at first, my lifestyle friends resorted to throwing private parties. They said they would keep everyone safe by only inviting “close” friends. For me, this made no sense, and the last thing I needed, was to get sick. I declined every invitation and was clear in explaining that it felt too risky.
Those parties came to a screeching halt when sadly, several of the party-goers ended up in the hospital with COVID. Those who did not feel sick quickly got tested to calm their fears.
Soon after, I began to get calls from couples I knew from the lifestyle. Each asked casually if I would like to join them one evening for drinks at their home. I might be single, but I’m not stupid. When a swinger couple invites me to their home, I know what they are expecting.
Sitting at home for weeks on end was causing me to suffer from cabin fever! When I accepted the first invitation, it never crossed my mind to ask for payment from them. I was looking forward to a fun evening!
The night with this couple was great and I felt relaxed knowing they had been tested after the party incident. When the evening was over, the husband walked me out to my car. He stuffed a wad of bills into my hand and thanked me. I was shocked and said he was crazy, but he explained that he was simply trying to help me. “We are friends, and I understand your current situation. You need the money, just take it,” he said. Thanking him, I kissed him and drove home.
Did this make me a prostitute? Was I just paid for sex? In my head, I really felt he was being kind and trying to help me. It was true, I needed the money and I did take a risk going to their home.
A few days later, another couple called with a similar invitation. I was less friendly with this couple and I hesitated. Could I accept the invitation but tell them I would expect to be paid? After considering how thrilled I was with the money I received last time, it was tempting.
I rehearsed what I would say and finally mustered up the courage to call them back. Thankfully, the call went to voicemail. It was a quick explanation of my current financial situation and the risk I was taking. I added that for some financial compensation, I would love to join them.
They did not call me back which made me feel awful. Not because I cared about them, but I felt awful about myself. During that first day, I went back and forth about it, but ultimately believed it was my right. I don’t owe anybody anything and I am allowed to set the terms if people want to use me.
Guess what? Two days later, another couple phoned. Same invitation and had already heard from the second couple. They were happy to “help me out financially”! I was thrilled! This time I didn’t have to ask because they already knew.
And just like that, I had gone from unicorn, fun ‘extra’ female, to paid call girl! The truth is, I don’t feel bad about it. I am fulfilling a need for these couples and they are doing something to help me in return. This is a win-win!
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