Everyone has a fantasy of some sort. Everyone has at least one sexual fantasy. Most people probably have a repertoire of sexual fantasies. How many people have ever told someone what their fantasies are? For people who are not in the lifestyle, the thought of exposing these fantasies to anyone is impossible to imagine. Perhaps for some people this is something they discuss with close friends but how many people would tell their partner? Should this not be a part of an intimate relationship? Are people fearful that their partner will laugh? Be appalled? Be scared?
What are sexual fantasies and why are they so common? There are an endless amount of sexual fantasies that are common among men and women. Although they tend to vary between sexes some themes are more common than others. Some of the more common sexual fantasies are:
- Having sex with someone you know, either a coworker, boss, employee, neighbor, friend, etc.
- Something in the fetish category: whips and chains, spanking and dominating, submissive sex, etc.
- Having sex in public
- Exhibitionism – having others watch you having sex
- Voyuerism – watching others having sex
- Multiple partners — having sex with more than one person
- Gang bangs — either watching or being watched
- Masturbating oneself while their partner watches
- Girl on girl action — men and women both seem to want this!
You get the point! The list could go on and on…
Do pent up fantasies contribute to people having affairs outside of their marriage? Perhaps they do. This is where swingers benefit! If most people in the lifestyle were to look at the list above, they would agree that they have participated in many of those fantasies and more. What is more wonderful than turning fantasy into reality? Especially when you are engaging in these fantasies with your partner or with your partner nearby? This is what helps build an open, honest relationship. No secrets! How wonderful to be able to open that door with the person you love and share it!
When couples are swingers, every lifestyle event holds promise of a new and exciting adventure. New people, new situations, new fantasies. There is no longer a need to make up scenarios secretly in your mind while having sex with your partner. As every couples knows, there are only so many different positions and so many rooms in your house to have sex in. After many years together it becomes more and more difficult to think of ways to keep things exciting. It’s not that you don’t love your partner, it’s that sex can become routine and boring. Imagine if the two of you were to discuss your secret fantasies. Better yet, imagine if the two of you went out and tried to fulfill them together.
What could be more exciting than that?