Follow up to: A hilarious post from a guest blogger who has something to say about double penetration.

Woman rejecting double penetration

An open letter to my friend…

Guest blogger:  Tina (location withheld)

Dear Friend,  (Male friend of mine who is married to my best friend),

I do love both of you, you are such great friends.  We are friends the way only people in the lifestyle can be.   We go out, have dinner, drinks, go to the club, and dance, and yes, we all have sex together.  

Sometimes you stay over and we enjoy a wonderful, cozy breakfast together in our t-shirts and underwear.  We hang out by the pool and just enjoy our time together.

So here’s the problem…  my friend’s husband has been on a mission for the past year to experience double penetration.  He was victorious one afternoon when we invited another couple to join us at home.  When it started to rain, we all ran inside where out of the blue, this woman, who was brand new to the lifestyle, announces that her secret desire has always been to have double penetration.  Us girls were a bit shocked by this sudden revelation but the men took no time and were happy to oblige.  My best friend’s husband positioned himself in the back because this is part of his new fascination.

Unfortunately, this was just the beginning.  He found other women to have anal sex with and even talked his wife into trying double with him and another man.  Now his attention has turned to me.  

Is this a case of wanting that which we cannot have?  I suspect that it is and so we joke about this frequently.  

The bottom line is… if I were looking to experiment with DP, I can say one thing is certain:  It would not be with you or my husband (who thankfully is not interested).  I would be looking for the smallest dick available and this disqualifies both you and my husband!  

Think about it… it makes sense.  Why on earth would I want the guy with one of the biggest dicks around, to be the one I attempt this with?  Not going to happen my friend so this letter is simply to let you know that although I love you as my friend, we should put this to rest once and for all.  

Case closed, or to put it crudely, oh never mind, you know what I mean.

Your loving friend,

Tina

I remember how I laughed as I wrote and later sent this blog for you to post on your website.  My friend laughed along but promised me this was not over by a long shot.

Well, here is the update…

I did indeed participate in double penetration about 1-year post writing this blog.  It was a drunken afternoon with my husband and a single male friend.  One thing led to another and boom!  It happened!   This man is average-sized at best and in my drunken state, it was no problem.

Did I enjoy it?  Why yes, I did!  It is not something I felt the need to repeat, but at least I could check it off my friend’s bucket list for me.

He and I did have anal sex not long after, but not double penetration.   Just as I suspected, he was looking for the conquer, and as it was fulfilled by another man, he lost interest.  At least for now…

How big is too big? Hey guys, how do you measure up?

Man sleeping with big erection woman staring at him wearing Partners ID bracelet
Man sleeping with big erection woman staring at him wearing Partners ID bracelet
I imagine when men see this title they immediately click on it to see if I think they measure up.   It seems men are always wondering if they are big enough, and for those who think they are big enough, they wonder if they are the best because of this.  The funny thing is, if you ask almost any woman, she will tell you that although size matters to a degree, it really is what you do with it that matters most.
This is not a topic that required much investigating.  If you listen carefully, you will hear women discussing this frequently in the lifestyle.  Although there are some women who will say that they want the biggest one they can find, they seem to be a very small minority.  More often women say, “Too big is too big.”  Let’s face it, there is only so much room in there and when a man is too big, how does that work?  I have read articles that say you can judge who is a good fit for you if you compare hands.  Women with longer fingers tend to have more length inside whereas women with very short fingers do not.  That being said, if you have longer fingers you should be looking for a man who is larger and vice versa.
A good example of a man’s size not making him good in bed is evident in porn.  Almost every porn flick I have ever seen is about the same.  The man has an enormous penis, the woman gives him a blow job and he climbs on top or takes her from behind.  Ok ladies, is this your fantasy guy?  Sure he has a big dick but so what?  It is very rare for the guy to take care of the woman in porn.  She better hope she’s wet because clearly that was not his priority.  Now I personally do like a guy who’s well endowed but if I was not ready for him it would not be fun.  That is the whole point of what makes a man measure up.  When women say it is not the size but what he does with it, this is part of that equation.
Sexy man in his underwear with Parnters ID necklace
Sexy man in his underwear with Parnters ID necklace
Bigger is only better if you are ready for it and you are able to accommodate it.  A few weeks ago we were playing in the back room of a swing club and a couple came over to the spot next to us.  She was on her back and he took his towel off (already in an erection, I’m guessing he had an injection).  He climbs on top of her and she pushed him back and asked him, “Where ya goin’ with that?”  I couldn’t help but laugh because he looked confused.  She informed him that it was going to take more than that to get her ready.
There are men who are not so lucky and are abnormally small.  You would think they would not have much success in the lifestyle but I have discovered that this is not true.  They seem to make up for their short coming by paying extreme attention to their woman’s needs. This  is very appealing to many women.  By the time they are ready for intercourse, the woman they are playing with are usually very turned on and seem not to notice the size; they just want sex!
Something I have always wondered about is when a man is so large, it must be hard for him to enjoy blow jobs.  Women can only take so much in their mouths.  The smaller sized man has the advantage of the woman being able to deep throat him with no problem at all.  I do enjoy the challenge with the large guys but worry that they are not as fulfilled if I am unable to get to the base.
My true heros in the lifestyle are the women who seek out the most well endowed men for double penetration.  It would seem to me that this is where they might favor the smaller dicks!  Big guy up front, little guy in the back.  No?  Apparently not.
Whatever the case, size is relative.  Everyone likes something different and every man should feel confident with what they have.  You can be sure you measure up if you take the time to take care of your woman.  It works both ways; how would you feel if your woman did not take care of you?  You want the experience to be erotic and hot but it takes two to get there!