Does one’s alter ego play a role in the lifestyle?

Librarian alter ego sexy woman

 

 

Perhaps swinging allows us to develop an alter ego…

After listening to the ever-entertaining podcast “Our Naughty Escapades” where Bob and Nicky introduce themselves by their real names, it made me think. While I have been listening to “Ben and Jen” for all this time, I wonder if these fake names allowed them to explore a riskier side of themselves.  Often times in swing clubs or lifestyle events people will wear wigs or other disguises hoping to avoid recognition.

So what is an alter ego exactly?  According to Dictionary.com https://www.dictionary.com/browse/alter-ego alter ego is defined like this:

1.  a second self; a perfect substitute or deputy
2.  an inseparable friend.
3.  another aspect of one’s self.

Entering the lifestyle can be daunting for most people.  It is a common fear for newbies that someone will recognize them.   The plan for most couples is the same: we will look around and if we spot people we know, we will leave.

But wait! If they are there too, why would they judge you for being there? They won’t, but that will not always help to ease the nervousness of couples who are coming in for the first time.

For this reason, some people like to try to change something about themselves so that others will not recognize them. Some women wear wigs, some people wear glasses and some simply change their name or profession.

While many people initially do this to avoid detection, they often discover that it is easier to act in a way they would not if they were not in disguise. Simply changing your name (which is so common) seems to allow people to feel free to explore.

Do these small, seemingly insignificant changes allow our alter egos to shine? Like Nicky said after revealing her real name, she misses naughty “Jen.” That’s because as “Jen,” she felt free to behave in a way that she does not yet feel comfortable acting as Nicky.

Alter egos are liberating! If we believe others cannot really see us as we truly are, perhaps we feel more confident.  It allows us to expose parts of ourselves that we might otherwise feel inclined to suppress or hide.

I can remember going out to a swing club for Halloween. We live close to the club, so we spend a fair amount of time there. This Halloween night, when both the girls at the front desk and the bartenders did not recognize me, something inside clicked. I walked around and realized that with a red wig on, I had become totally unrecognizable to people. It was so liberating to be able to act in a way that I otherwise would have felt too shy to do. I felt bolder and more open than I ever had before.

It was apparent that some people who tended to be shy, seemed to have found confidence by wearing a costume. It seemed to summon something inside them that did not usually come out.

The dance floor on Halloween was exceptionally crowded. People who are not usually on the dance floor were suddenly letting loose. The power of their costumes was startling.

For some people, simply entering the lifestyle creates an alter ego. By day, someone might be a teacher, a doctor or an accountant. By night, that same person lets loose and has sex with a group of total strangers. A religious individual who wears modest clothing during the day suddenly reinvents herself at night and wears mini skirts, skimpy tops and thigh high boots.

Alter egos are a healthy way to explore another side of oneself. It allows a person the freedom to behave in a way that would be impossible under normal circumstances. Imagine the slutty religious woman wearing her club clothing in her own community. Would never happen, and if it did, she would surely be shunned.

Do we all have a secret alter ego busting to be let out? A superhero begging to be unleashed? A slut living deep inside ourselves wishing to get out to explore her sexuality?

Whatever the answer is, the lifestyle is a wonderful place to probe this side of oneself. It is almost fantasy like to be able to be free to act in a way that your day to day self does not feel free to do. Try it!

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ASN Lifestyle Magazine has arrived and Michael Ramos reigns supreme!

ASN Lifestyle Magazine cover wearing Partners ID jewelry
Michael Ramos, publisher of ASN Lifestyle Magazine

 

Not a day goes by that we are not contacted via our online chat for lifestyle advice.  Although Partners ID sells lifestyle jewelry, it seems people are hungry for information regarding the lifestyle. At first, our operator explained her purpose, now she simply redirects them to ASN Lifestyle Magazine.

Although shy to admit this, people are hungry for sex.  They want to see it, read about it and mostly, engage in it.  Remember sneaking peeks at Playboy and later at Penthouse magazines? These publications seemed so racy, so edgy!  Now ASN is giving these publications a run for their money!

Although ASN is new to the game, they have been gathering steam at an alarmingly rapid rate.  They are strictly a digital publication, yet have gained an incredible amount of notoriety in a very short period of time. 

Playboy was the first magazine to arrive on the scene in December of 1953.  It was very controversial when it was first published due to the naked centerfolds.  The majority of women featured were famous actresses and models. 

The magazine was a pioneer in its liberal outlook but often included interviews with conservative political and other famous figures.  Men claimed they were mostly interested in this magazine because of the articles.  While the magazine is certainly a worthwhile publication, it seems geared primarily towards men.  The use of models and actresses is strictly to sell the magazine.  They might be picture perfect, but it doesn’t feel as though they are genuinely sexual.  

Penthouse took this type of magazine to the next level.  Rather than concerning themselves with upholding a conservative feel, they pushed the limits and created a soft porn magazine.  Again, this magazine hired models and porn stars to pose in sexually explicit poses.  Over the years, they have become a hard core porn magazine.  Penthouse routinely hires professional writers for article content.  The advertisers are not exclusively involved in the porn industry.

What sets ASN Lifestyle Magazine apart from every other publication is its authenticity.  The photos are not of models and actresses but rather of people who are actually in the lifestyle.  Nobody is simulating anything.  What you see is what it is.  This is the lifestyle.  When you see anything sexual, it is between consenting, loving adults, not paid actors and models.  

The sexual content is natural and beautiful.  It represents the love and eroticism that define the swinger lifestyle.

The blogs and articles are written by people who are in the lifestyle and are speaking from personal experience.  They are offering advice and giving outsiders a peek into what swingers are truly about.  

Both men and women will find things that they identify with between the covers of ASN Lifestyle Magazine.  It is not geared toward a male or female audience.  It is strictly a magazine devoted to those who are interested in a swinger lifestyle.

Even the advertising is geared towards the lifestyle.  You don’t see car ads or advertising for random products.  Everything is designed to attract people who are a part of the lifestyle.

What started out as a good idea has blossomed overnight into something most swingers look forward to every other month.  This magazine is packed with everything a swinger might need.  There are advice columns, etiquette information, vacation ideas, swing club exposés, even lube recommendations.  ASN Lifestyle Magazine includes all aspects of the swinger lifestyle in each publication.  No political commentaries or controversial topics that do not involve the lifestyle.

When was the last time you encountered any magazine that was this laser focused?  

Bottom line, if you are in the lifestyle, or looking to enter the lifestyle, ASN Lifestyle magazine is a must read.  If there is something missing, trust me, the editor would like to know so it can be included in the future.

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