A couple from Australia found a “very cute” swinger because of the jewelry!



Living in Australia we didn’t expect that after purchasing jewelry we would find another swinger very quickly.  How wrong we were.  We have only had our jewelry for about 3 weeks and were wearing it while out running some errands.  We stopped to grab a bite and while sitting in a corner booth, suddenly a man appeared out of nowwhere and was sitting next to me smiling.  We were  a bit confused but he pointed  to the pendant hanging from his necklace.  How wonderful this was!  Such a surprise and he’s quite cute to look at!  I am so pleased and wanted to thank you!  It really does help you spot other swingers and it really is around the world!  Bravo!

Lifestyle jewelry is alive and well in Arizona!

Golfers wearing Partners ID lifestyle jewelry
Hi Partners ID!

My husband and I have been wearing your jewelry for about 6 months. No one has ever asked if it has any special meaning. One friend did point out that they were both of the same design. We laughed and said that this is why we each bought a piece. Much like wedding rings, it makes us feel connected.

We are avid golfers and spend a lot of time at our golf club. Over the years, we have gotten to know most of the members. This is strictly a vanilla club.

As we are in the lifestyle, we have created two separate lives: our night life and our day life. There is no question that people would never suspect that we are swingers.

Like most weekends, we had plans to play golf with some friends.   At the last minute, the couple we had planned to play with had to cancel.  As a result, we were randomly paired up with another couple looking to play. Although we have known this couple for at least 8 years, the wife is a new golfer so they usually try to play alone.

After teeing off on the 3rd hole, my ball went very far to the right. As I approached I realized it went into the lake. The man who joined us drove up in his cart to hand me a ball retriever.  Just after hitting my ball, he offered me a ride to catch up with the others.   As soon as I sat in the cart, he started to laugh. I was confused and looked over at him. The man reached over and gently held the pendant of my necklace in his hand. He told me that they have been in the lifestyle for quite awhile and also have your jewelry.

This was a huge surprise!  We have known this couple for a long time and neither of us would have ever suspected that they are swingers.  It was equally as shocking for them to discover that we are also swingers.

This couple, like ourselves, prefer to travel for lifestyle events and parties. Over the past few weeks we have been in constant contact as it turns out, we are both going on a lifestyle cruise in April!

You often tell people that it’s impossible to know  who the other swingers are, and as you can see, this is true!   Certainly, without the jewelry, we would never have guessed.   For instance, here is a couple that we have known for 8 years and never suspected.

Everyone needs to wear your jewelry. It really is the only way to know who else is in the lifestyle!


Lauren and Andy
City withheld, AZ

Swinger dating site rejects; no validations for the dishonest!

Couple taking selfie for a swinger dating site
Couple taking selfie for a swinger dating site




Finding other couples to swing with can sometimes seem quite challenging. Swing clubs are a great way to meet other swingers but not everyone lives close enough to a club for this to be a viable option. For those who would like to find other swingers close to where they live, the internet offers many sites which are useful for swingers.

Swinger dating sites are a great tool for swingers. You sign up for a membership and it offers so much information that is helpful for both current swingers and for people looking to swing. The membership is not expensive but it is costly enough to prevent curiosity seekers from prying.

After signing up you are prompted to post photos of yourself and fill out a basic questionnaire. This will help other swingers to get to know more about you. This part of the process is very important. While it is normal to look through your photo albums to find the best possible pictures of yourself, make sure the pictures actually looks like you today. If the picture was not taken in the past few months, don’t post it. People don’t care what you used to look like, nor do they care that at a certain angle your photo makes you look 20 pounds thinner. They simply want to know what you really look like.

Once you have posted your new swinger profile, you are ready to start looking at other couple’s profiles. Perhaps you would like to try speed dating or look for a local public or private party in your area. For those who would like to try a swing club, most offer directories and reviews of clubs all across the US and Canada. The forums are a good resource to ask questions and get more information about swinging. Hopefully, you will be able to find what you are looking for by using this online site (or sites).

If finding other swingers on dating sites is so easy, why do people have difficulties when meeting others in person? It almost always comes back to the same reason: their pictures do not look like them. This is such a common problem that many swingers actually write on their profile that they prefer couples who do not look like their photos to please not contact them. Some profiles are less polite about it and they write things like: If you show up and you don’t look like your photos, we will leave.

It might seem harsh and even shallow for couples to be so adamant about people posting current photos, but we know first hand that people are serious about this problem. They are not afraid to walk away when someone misrepresents who they are.

We were in a swing club recently and witnessed a couple enter the club. They looked around and a couple sitting towards the back of the club waved to them. They looked at each other and slowly made their way over to the couple who had waved to them. You could tell by the look on their faces that something was wrong. They introduced themselves and sat down. The woman was very gracious and was talking to the couple but the man was looking all around the club and ignoring them. The two couples were very different. The couple who entered the club was probably in their late 40s to early 50s. The couple who waved them over were at least 10 to 15 years older than them. The younger couple was in good shape and dressed very chic, while the older couple was neither. The older couple was both overweight and not quite fashion-forward.

We watched them for a few minutes and left for the dance floor. Not long after, the younger couple appeared on the dance floor. When we went back to our seats, they followed us and sat down next to us. The man excused himself to go and pick up their drinks, which they left sitting on a table with the older couple they had met earlier. The woman explained that they had met them online and sure enough, their pictures were completely misleading. She pulled out her phone and showed us the pictures the older couple has on their profile. Not only did I question if the pictures were even of this couple but they claimed to be in their late 40s, which is absolutely impossible.

This is a perfect example of why posting old photos or shaving years off of your age does not work. Sure, it makes for a great profile and perhaps maybe people will contact you, but what happens when you have to meet someone in person?

I initially felt sorry for the older couple as they looked disappointed and rejected. When I said something, the couple who sat down with us pointed out that they were the ones who were disappointed and annoyed. They had changed their plans to accommodate this couple and it was a complete waste of their time. Had they known what this couple really looked like, and known their true age, they would have known they were not compatible and would not have wasted their time meeting them. They felt the other couple was wrong for pretending to be something they are not.

What inspires couples to create such misleading profiles? Is it possible that they think they look like their old photos? Do they not notice the extra 20 pounds they have gained since they took that picture? Perhaps they are simply afraid that nobody will contact them if they are completely honest. Maybe, they think that at least this way, couples will meet them and they will have a chance to win them over with their bright smiles and quick wit. It is possible,

Whatever the reason for this, it is wrong. The whole point in posting photos and filling out profiles is to try to find couples who are a good match for each other. Just because you are attracted to certain couples, it does not mean they will be attracted to you. If your profile is honest, your chances of a successful rendezvous is much higher than if you are dishonest. Swinging should be fun! If you approach it in a positive honest way, it will be!

Here is a list of some swinger dating sites to check out ( in no particular order):




















This site is a wonderful tool to research swing clubs, complete with reviews from swingers:    http://www.sexparty.directory  











Swinging seems to be so easy for some couples. What is their secret for success?

Smiling couple holding hands
Smiling couple holding hands


Swinging is an art that must be mastered.  Not every couple has an easy time navigating the ups and downs of the lifestyle.

Have you ever noticed that some couples seem so happy in the lifestyle?  They arrive at lifestyle events holding hands and they leave with a big smile on their faces.  What is their secret?

Swinging seems to be so easy for some couples. What is their recipe for success?

The most successful swingers are the ones with the best communication. They talk before, during and after every encounter they have. Swingers who are open and honest about how they feel get the most out of the lifestyle. That is not to say that they never have any issues when they swing; they do, the difference is they talk about it right away to clear things up for the next time.

What happens when you are not totally open with your significant other?

Some people say that they are shy and have a hard time telling their partner what works and what doesn’t when swinging. They don’t want to cause friction or upset their partner so they just go along. How’s that working for you?

As with any other aspect of a relationship, if you are not honest, your partner won’t know what is expected of him or her. If something your partner does bothers you, you must talk about it or you can’t expect it to change. It is also unfair to continually feel upset by behavior that you have not said bothers you. If, for example, it upsets you to see your significant other passionately kiss his playmates, but you have never told them, how can they know?

Sometimes things can go wrong right from the start.

Some people are natural extroverts. They walk into a room, a club, a party and they feel comfortable enough to talk with anyone. They are charming and usually quick to compliment others and put them at ease. Others are not so confident and require more time to warm up.
The shy person usually wants their partner to stay close by and include them in conversations. If the extrovert is not made aware of this, they will move about imagining their partner is fine on their own. This type of scenario is not going to leave the quieter person feeling very good about the situation right from the get go.

When things start off on the wrong foot, they tend to go from bad to worse.

If the evening starts off leaving one person feeling left out, this could be trouble. When one partner starts to connect or flirt with someone and their partner is not involved, don’t expect the one who is left out to cheer you on. If a couple is there to swap, it would be wise to discuss ahead of time if your intentions are to swap with another couple together, or if each person will be expected to fend for themselves. When one person decides to play, while the other is not connecting with anyone, how can you expect that person to be happy. This was something that should have been decided ahead of time. If someone does find themselves in this situation, it would be a good idea to talk about it after the fact, so it does not happen in the future.

What types of things might bother swingers that should be talked about?

Making love with your partner is something special between the two of you. What happens when you feel that your partner is “too much” with someone when they play? When your partner passionately kisses and locks eyes with someone else while in missionary position, does that bother you? When they lovingly play with someone’s hair after sex, does that feel too intimate? Does your partner do things when playing with someone else that you wish they would do with you? Does your partner encourage people to touch you without consenting you? Do they ever engage in sex with another couple and you are left to watch? If any of these things ring true, you must talk about it if you intend to continue in the lifestyle. Everyone’s feelings are valid. Even if you think your partner is over reacting or making something out of nothing, the problem must be discussed in order to avoid disaster.

Swinging does not come with a manual, so couples just wing it as they go.

It is true that swinging does not come with a manual, but it does require basic common sense. If most lifestyle excursions result in one person feeling hurt or confused, it is time to sit down and talk openly about what is happening. It is not ok to let it roll off your back until the next time. Nothing will change if you don’t set guidelines. If it bothers you when you partner dances with someone else and leaves you alone at the bar, speak up. If your partner spends hours talking with other couples in hopes of playing with them yet never looks to see if you’re on board, tell them. Does your partner flirt with every person they come into contact with? That’s great, unless it bothers you.

It is important to be crystal clear about what is ok and what is not.

Does your partner constantly make all the decisions when you swing? Couples must make joint decisions regarding the lifestyle if both are to be happy. If one partner calls all the shots, how can the other person be happy? Who you swing with, when you swing and where you swing should be something couples decide together. If your partner is not asking you what works for you, that is not a good sign. You must let your partner know what is ok and what is not.

Happy couples are couples who are on the same page.

If couples want to enjoy the lifestyle together, they must talk openly about swinging. Don’t expect your partner to know how you feel if you don’t tell them. If you have an open dialogue about where you are going and how you will swing, there are no surprises. If you communicate your feelings regarding single men and women, swinging side by side or in separate rooms, swinging with couples, etc., both of you will know what to expect.

Swinging can be a wonderful thing, but it can also be a very difficult thing to navigate. For couples who are completely open and honest with each other, their chances of success in the lifestyle are very high. If, however, you continue to expect your partner to read your mind and instinctively know how you are feeling, things will never go well. Honesty and open communication are key to enjoying the lifestyle. Once you and your partner understand what makes each other happy, and more importantly not happy, you will be able to relax and swing with confidence.