Whatever the case, if you are one of those “shy” people, perhaps this is the perfect time for you to take advantage and go after what you want! There are women in the lifestyle who always wear a wig when they are at a lifestyle event. They claim they have more confidence because people do not recognize them and they like it that way. Costumes are also a good conversation starter. Complimenting others on how clever they are or how perfect their costume, makes it easy to open the dialogue. Once you have begun a conversation it is easy to introduce yourselves and ask the other couple questions about themselves.
People frequently ask us what we will be dressed as for Halloween. Naturally, our answer is always the same; swingers of course! No, we are not party poopers and we have come up with some pretty clever costume ideas over the years. What we have noticed, is that there are many people who take this opportunity to dress up in a way that makes them unrecognizable to others. We believe that there is a reason they do this.
Some people in the lifestyle are extremely outgoing and have no problem approaching other couples. Every chance they get, they mingle and flirt and generally know most of the people at any party by the end of the evening. Then there are others who are too shy or insecure to approach other couples. This makes Halloween the perfect opportunity for them to come out of their shells by hiding behind a costume.
Think about it, if you are wearing a mask and people cannot identify you, do you not feel bolder? If you approach a couple and you are wearing a mask, chances are they will be very friendly because they are not sure whether or not they know you. This is exactly what we have observed occurring every Halloween. There are always a few couples wearing the kind of costume that makes it impossible to guess who they are. It is very possible that some of these masked guests are new to the lifestyle. They are taking the opportunity to visit a swing club and remain anonymous.
The other fascinating part of dressing up for Halloween is noticing costume choices. I cannot help but observe that some of the quieter more shy couples take advantage of this holiday by wearing outrageous costumes. Some choose very provocative, sexy costumes. Many of the timid girls tend to go for the slutty look and the men frequently focus on calling attention to their genitals in one way or another. It always makes me wonder if they wish they could be more sexually open on regular lifestyle nights.
Even the play areas during Halloween seem busier than usual. Many couples keep their masks on, and again, seem more determined than usual, to go after what they what. Somehow, the use of masks in the play area is reminiscent of the movie Eyes Wide Shut ( a 1999 erotic drama film) starring Tom Cruise.
Whatever the case may be, whatever your costume of choice, tonight is the night to be bold and go for what you want. Costumes allow us all the freedom to be someone else for an evening. What could be more liberating than that?
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