Swinger dating sites; how to navigate them for a positive experience plus a list of sites

 

 

 

Group of friends meeting from a swinger dating site
Group of friends meeting from a swinger dating site

The internet has become our ‘go to’ for information on just about everything. We check our email, the weather, the news, we check online reviews, etc. You can pretty much find anything you want online, so it stands to reason that people turn to it whenever they need information. It also makes sense that when you want to get involved in something new, you go to the internet to begin your research.

Just as there are online dating sites for singles, there are also dating sites for couples. Swinger dating sites are not to be confused with sites like Ashley Madison. Swinger dating sites are designed for committed couples to look for other people to play with, together. Ashley Madison, on the other hand, promotes dating for people who are married but looking to have an affair.

Most couples new to swinging soon find these sites and eagerly sign up to get the ball rolling. They open a profile for the themselves, post the pictures, fill our the questionnaires and post it. Many will then start to look around at other people’s profiles to get some idea of who else is out there looking to swing. It can be very exciting when you are new to see the sexy photos and read what other couples have to say. Some newcomers are brave enough to contact others right off the bat. Most newbies will wait to see if someone contacts them first. Either way works, there is no right or wrong.

The first time the new couple gets an email they are bound to be very excited to open it up and see who is interested in them. Hopefully they are not too disappointed because chances are, the first few will come from single men, trolling the sites and sending out their signature dick pictures. Some couples might be looking for MFM and will be encouraged to see some responses from males. The problem can be trying to decipher which ones are really worth your time.

As you become more familiar with swinger dating sites you will realize that some of the features were put in place to help you navigate who is worth meeting and who might not be. Most offer validations from other swingers, which allows you to read what another couple has to say about the person or couple you are looking at. Single men who have earned their place will be spoken about very highly from couples. If a single man has no validations and probably no friends, it is a good indication that he is probably not the guy you want to meet.

Then finally, you open an email and it is from another couple. They love your profile and think you are exactly what they are looking for. You exchange some sexy emails and finally decide it is time to meet them in person. This can go in a few different directions:

  1.  You try to get this couple to commit to a time and place only to discover they have a very complicated schedule. Regardless of how flexible you are, they can never seem to find the time to actually meet you in person. They are wonderful about sending regular emails but have endless reasons why they cannot meet you. When you push them to nail down a date and time, they disappear, never to be heard from again.

There are couples who simply enjoy the sexy email game but have no intention of anything more than that. They look like the            perfect couple in their profile pictures and say all the right things. Although they look clean, neat, friendly and connected to each other, who knows if any of that is even real. They are most probably turned on by the sexy chats and that is all they are looking for.

 

2.   The couple is overly eager to meet you, but not for dinner or drinks. They prefer to meet at a hotel or motel and get right down    to business. They speak about having a lot of experience in the lifestyle and not requiring any type of meet and greet to get down to business. They have seen your pictures and they are good to go.

Experience tells many swingers that the problem with this couple is that they are probably not as they appear in their photos. When you meet them at a hotel, it can be tricky to back up when you don’t like what you see.

3.   You have a couple who is very excited to meet and you set up a time and a place. When they arrive, the husband is overly eager and the wife hangs back. You get the distinct impression that she is doing this for him.

This cannot end well. If one person is swinging to please their significant other, this is a huge red flag. Playing with a couple who is not on the same page is a very bad idea. It can only result in disaster.

4.   The email chats frequently turn to dirty talk. They want to engage in email sex chats.

There is always the possibility when you are talking via computer, that the entire profile is fake. It could just be a creepy guy getting his jollies engaging in free sex chats. Best to avoid this type of email correspondence.

5.   You have great email chemistry, you seem to be on the same page regarding just about everything you discuss. The email conversations are easy and you look forward to meeting this new couple. They seem like people who could be your friends.

Always a good idea to meet them for coffee or dinner before you commit to a rendezvous. You never know until you meet people in person if they are really going to work for you. Sometimes couples seem perfect until you see them. Bad breath, dirty fingernails, disgusting table manners are all a huge turnoff. Maybe they just have no sex appeal for you. Better to discover this before you head off to play.

6.   You connected quickly and easily, like their profile and the pictures. They are anxious to meet for a drink sooner rather than later.

They sound like they have been around and understand the pitfalls of online dating. Rather than send and receive tons of emails, they would like to see if it works in person. This couple is the best choice.

Just like anything else, the longer you are active on a swinger dating site, the more experienced you will become. You will know, sometimes before you even open the email, if this person or couple has potential. You will be able to know which pictures are accurate, current and appealing to you. Profiles will contain things you know you don’t want and those that have things you do.

Stick with it, swinger dating sites can be a great tool for meeting other swingers. You just have to learn how to navigate them.

Here is a list of some of the sites that we have used personally:

https://www.kasidie.com

ASN Lifestyle

https://www.SDC.com

https://www.quiver.us

https://www.SLS.com

https://www.adultfriendfinder

https://www.swingtowns.com

http://www.mixingsexy.com

https://www.lifestylelocker.net

http://www.socialswinging.com

http://swingersuk.net

http://www.swingerzonecentral.com

https://www.fabswingers.com

https://swingular.com

https://lovevoodoo.com/

https://www.lifestylelounge.com

https://www.swingingheaven.co.uk

https://www.local-swingers.co.uk

https://www.swinger-nation.co.uk

 

Just to name a few and in no particular order.   There are many sites that claim to be swinger dating sites that may or may not be for swingers.  These are all sites that are well known in the swinger community and you should comfortable signing up for.

Join some today and start your new and exciting lifestyle adventure!  Good luck!