One of the great things about being a swinger is that you really never get tired of having sex. Let’s face it, when you have been married for 10, 15, 20 plus years, sex can become routine: same time, same place, same positions, and let’s be honest, same person! It does not mean you do not love the person but hey, there are lots of other options out there! Let’s think of it this way: maybe you love ice cream. Do you eat the same flavor every single night of your life? Gosh, I hope not! How awful when there are so many delicious flavors and textures to choose from. One night you can eat sweet, tangy orange sherbert, the next how about a rich, luscious chocolate ice cream bar with a crunchy nougat shell? Mmmmm. Perhaps you prefer vanilla with a caramel topping and a cherry the following night. Catch my drift? Sex with different people can be compared to this. You don’t stop loving your favorite, you just like something different from time to time. What’s wrong with that?
Swinging is alot like this. Your spouse is your favorite; that goes without saying. The problem is, over time we can fall into a routine or even a rut. We start to want something different for a change. When sex is no longer spontaneous and exciting, most people lose interest. When a couple is able to have an honest conversation about sex, this is a big plus.
Now for all of you vanilla people out there who frown upon people in the lifestyle, do you think just maybe, from time to time, you fantasize about what it would be like to sleep with someone else? If you don’t, I am speechless. It’s impossible for me to believe that you don’t fantasize about a co worker, or someone famous or a family friend. It is normal and natural. Getting married or being in a committed relationship does not stop us from being sexual beings. It provides us with a partner with whom you can share your life. Someone to raise a family with. Someone to be by your side through thick and thin. It also is someone with whom you should have sex on a regular basis. It does not mean that you will cease noticing attractive people or fantasizing what it would be like to have sex with them.
The lifestyle brings people together who do love their partner, but also love to have sex. Most of these couples are looking for variety. They are seeking out a way to spice up their sex lives together. What sets them apart from other couples is that they take this step together. Rather than one person, or both, sneaking out behind the others back, they discuss what is missing and try to find a solution as a couple. The rewards for handling it this way are immense.
Couples in the lifestyle rediscover the thrill of the hunt. The ability, as a couple, to go out and meet other couples together for sex. Imagine discussing with your significant other which person appeals to you and to them. We still get to maintain our relationship with our significant other while exploring our sexuality with others who are also open minded. What a great concept! Imagine discussing the experience after the fact while wrapped in each others arms. Giggling like children about the mishaps that occur from time to time. It probably surprises vanilla people when they hear that swinging brings you closer to your partner. The honesty is very liberating and creates a bond that is incredibly strong.
Swingers have truly discovered a way to have it all! Each time swingers attend a party or club event, they know if they want to have sex, they can. They also know if they want to try something or someone new, they can! How can you get tired of something new? You can’t…
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