Pegging; what is it and why is it supposed to be so pleasurable?  Is it a gateway to bisexual play?

 

 

It seems when you are in the lifestyle, you need to stay current with swinger’s vocabulary words.   Every time I think I have mastered it, I hear a new term that makes me run for my phone to look it up.  Today, the word of the day is “pegging”.  What is pegging?  It is when a woman penetrates a man’s ass, either with her finger, a dildo, vibrator or a strap on.   Most couples say that it begins with a woman using her finger and over time progresses to something more. 

Although the activity is not new, I was not aware that there was a word to describe it.   I can remember many years ago my husband mentioning that during play with another couple, the woman had inserted her finger into his ass.  He said that if anyone had seen his facial expression at that moment, he is certain, they would have laughed out loud.  He told me that it was almost a cartoonish expression with his eyes wide open and a look of complete shock on his face.  He was not expecting it and she was not subtle about her approach.  When I asked if he liked it, he said he was too shocked to say one way or the other.

One thing that people tend to want others to know, is that pegging is not in any way a “gay thing”.  Pegging takes place between a man and a woman so those who engage in this type of play want others to understand this.  Pegging does require a man to relinquish his role as the dominant partner and become the submissive partner.  For some men, they are simply not comfortable with this, for those who can do this, they swear by the benefit.

Pegging causes stimulation directly to the prostate gland.  The prostate gland is supposed to be so sensitive that simply stimulating this gland can bring men to orgasms that are much stronger than the traditional kind achieved by penile stimulation.   There is also a heavy supply of nerve endings in the anus which when touched, provide a tremendous amount of pleasure. 

Is this ever a gateway to bisexual play?  Although many men swear that it is not, many men say that it was for them.  Prior to pegging, they had no interest in other men but after experiencing the sensation that pegging created, they became curious and open.  While again, not all men follow this route, some do.  

What does the woman get out of this?  Many women have discovered strap ons that have vibrators built in which stimulate their clit during play.  This allows both the man and the woman to have simultaneous pleasure.  Other couples say that pegging was what opened them up to MFM play where the second male is behind the woman.  

There is no room in the lifestyle for judgment.  Everyone is there to live out their sexual fantasies.  If something feels good, people should be open to exploring.  Often, couples enter the lifestyle because their significant other is not open to certain types of play.  They are there looking for the experience with someone who is willing.   

Pegging is said to be very enjoyable but all men said the same thing:  this is not an activity to surprise someone with.  It is better to discuss this beforehand and to take things slow.

We already know that bisexuality amongst men is frowned upon in most swing clubs.  They have a policy that basically lets men know that they are free to do as they please behind closed doors in private rooms but there is no tolerance for public displays of male on male contact.  It seems that for many couples, this extends to pegging.  Even when it is from woman to man, this is generally done in private rooms.  Although I have personally witnessed women doing this, it’s not common to see.  

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