Besides Great Sex, What Do Women Gain From Swinging?

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What brings women into the lifestyle?

For women who are not in the lifestyle, it is common for them to believe that women are not really in the lifestyle of their own accord.  Most vanilla women tend to think women are being pushed into this by their partners.  This wild life of sex can only be something that appeals to men.

Is this true?  Are women only in the lifestyle to make their significant others happy?  The best way to find out what is fact and what is fiction is to see for one’s self.

While the swinging lifestyle conjures up images of orgies and gang bangs, it really is so much more than that.  It is a lifestyle of friendship and acceptance.  It is a world of open-minded adults coming together for a common good.

What do women gain from the lifestyle? 

The first thing that comes to mind is confidence.  The lifestyle is not only about you and your partner as a couple, it is also about you as an individual.

Let’s be honest, it is not easy growing up female.  Most women would agree that we are held to a much higher standard than men.  First, we are expected to be perfect.  Not only the way that we look and dress but the way that we act.  This is something that begins when we are very young.  Unfortunately, the standards don’t really change as we age.  

To begin with, young girls are constantly seeing images of  beautiful women in magazines and on tv.  These ideals are things that girls grow up believing to be of utmost importance.  If having a perfect  body, hair, makeup, and clothing is not a must, why are those predominantly the images we see?  

Women have been calling for change for at least the past several decades and although we have made many strides, we are still falling short.  

In fact, if you google “50 most famous women in the world 2020” you will see what I’m referring to.  The first 20 names to appear on that list:

  • Rhianna
  • Beyonce
  • Hillary Clinton
  • Britney Spears
  • Michelle Obama
  • Taylor Swift
  • Paris Hilton
  • Madonna
  • Miley Cyrus
  • Oprah Winfrey
  • Katy Perry
  • Jennifer Aniston
  • Angelina Jolie
  • Kim Kardashian
  • Mariah Carey
  • Jennifer Lopez
  • Marilyn Monroe
  • Jessica Alba
  • Fergie
  • Scarlett Johnson

Actually, I was happy to see at least Oprah, Hillary Clinton and Michelle Obama made the list.  Not to mention, this is the list and I did not even query attractive or hot in my search.  Imagine if I had…

So here are the most famous women from 2020. These are the faces and bodies that little girls are growing up comparing themselves to.  It is easy to see why women are so critical of their own looks. 

*Before googling this list, I researched to know which word constitutes the most visible:  accomplished, prominent, well-known, influential, famous, or celebrity.  While the other lists had more women who were known for their great accomplishments and achievements, they are not women who are as visible or easily recognizable as celebrities.

The other standard that only seems to apply to women is with regard to sex.  When men sleep around they are studs, when women do it they are whores.  Why the double standard?

 Enter the lifestyle…

Initially, before entering the lifestyle, I imagined every woman would be a perfect 10.  The thought of competing with such beautiful women for the attention of men seemed daunting.  It was reminiscent of high school and made me very nervous.  

However, our first night at a swing club proved me wrong.  The variety of women that were in the club was a huge surprise.  Some old, some young, some thin, some over-weight, some tall, some short, etc.  Although many women were wearing sexy dresses, many wore jeans and sandals.  Finally, contrary to what I had imagined, there was definitely no predominant “type” of woman.

Anyhow, It did not take long to discover that women in the club were sexy for a whole different reason than the size of their body parts.  I also discovered that women in the lifestyle were applauded and held in high regard for their sexuality.  Suddenly, the double standard was gone.  In all honesty, what I noticed, was that women who had spent their lives hiding their desire to explore sex and their sexuality were applauded.

The lifestyle empowers women.  It allows them the freedom of expression in every way possible. In fact, no more judgment about either their size or their sexual appetite.  

The lifestyle proves to women that regardless of their appearance, others will find them attractive.   While some people like bigger women, some like smaller.  Additionally, just like women, men all have different ideas of what makes a man or another woman attractive.

Women have a lot of power in the lifestyle and it spills into their real lives as well.  As a result, the lifestyle gives a voice to women.  Women soon discover that they are not there to please their partners but rather to please themselves.  More importantly, the lifestyle teaches women to love their bodies.  Although many lifestyle venues are a mixture of nudists and swingers, both of who seem confident in their naked bodies.  This is a beautiful thing.

Then, what is the bottom line?  What women gain from swinging is more than just fabulous sex.  It allows them the freedom to be who they are and to feel good about it.  

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