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Why do we refer to single men as swingers? I mean really?!
January 10, 2019
9:15 am
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Hope212
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Why do we call single men looking for a simple lay, swingers? Let's be real, swingers are couples, no? Isn't that by definition what the word means? Couples who swap? Help me out here, this makes no sense. My husband and I have noticed that the amount of single men in a swing club is staggering! Don't they limit the numbers?

January 11, 2019
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Haha, you sound like my wife. Although she enjoys MMF, she agrees. These men are not swingers, just guys who have figured it out. No comittment, no flowers, no romance, etc. Take it out, put it in, and leave. Don't even need to know the lady's name.

Anyone? Are these guys swingers? I don't think so.

January 14, 2019
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Let's try to be a little open minded here. Not everyone is the same and that goes for single men as well. While I agree that some single men might be less than desirable, I have been known to spend time alone in a swing club. I have a good job, I'm educated and clean. I dress well and enjoy meeting new people. I am also bisexual. The club allows me the opportunity to have sex with both men and women and this is not easy to find outside of a swinger environment. I consider myself a swinger because I enjoy the warmth of the swinging club and its people. I am not looking for a quick shot and then run. I like to get to know the couples I play with and have a relationship with them for the evening.
Please don't judge all single men as though they are the same. It's unfair and hurts many good men. Take the time to get to know some of them and you'll be surprised!

January 25, 2019
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Nice try Bija. Being a nice guy does not a swinger make. Although you wrote a beautiful piece explaining how lovely you are, you are still a single man and that does not make you a swinger.

Swingers are couples who swap for sex. If you are single, you are not contributing as a swinger does. You have nothing at stake as we do. You are in it for yourself and nothing else. There is nothing anyone can say to make me change the way that I think regarding this.

I do understand that there are many couples who enjoy bringing a single man (or woman) in to join them. This still does not make the single man a swinger. I'm also not saying I have anything against single men in the lifestyle. I just cannot stand when they call themselves swingers. Opportunists would be a better word for them.

February 8, 2019
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OMG Linda well said! Single guys are just that. Single! They are in it for themselves so why not just be honest? Whether we enjoy playing with them is another thread for the forum.

If we are being honest, single men in a swinging environment, for the most part, are not particularly desirable. If they were, they would probably not be single in the first place. Or, they are selfish men who cannot compromise enough to be in a relationship.

February 11, 2019
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Don't get me wrong, it's not that i don't like single guys because i do. My point is, why do they call themselves swingers? They aren't swinging.

February 18, 2019
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I have been in the lifestyle for a very long time. It started with my wife, then I was single but stayed in the lifestyle. Then in and out of different relationships I was sometimes with a girlfriend and sometimes alone. When you know the lifestyle, it is very hard to be out. I'm not dirty or creepy and disrespectful. I do enjoy playing in just about any situation. There are a lot of couples who enjoy the extra male and I enjoy being that guy!

There are many creepy single men who come looking for whatever they can get. There are others who leer and lurk and creep people out. I am not one of them.

I, like everyone else, am just looking for fun and friendship.

February 20, 2019
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I say we call them opportunists!

February 22, 2019
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Single men in a swing club bring in big bucks, why would any owner want to limit them? IMO there are good guys and bad guys but the same can be said for the single women. Some are great and some are nasty. Even people who are not single, some are awesome and some suck.

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