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Men are not very good at picking up on subtle hints, are they?
February 20, 2017
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LaciDan
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I discovered recently when I was upset about something that happened during a swinger party, that men really need to be hit over the head in order for them to be aware of what women are feeling. We have had the same scenario play out so many times over the years and I thought I had made him understand by my actions what upsets me. Clearly, I was wrong! When I am with my husband and we are having a conversation, I don't appreciate when he sees an attractive woman and his eyes leave mine to follow her around the room. I'm left talking to the side of his head and it hurts me. I know he is no longer listening to me but rather has turned his attention to another woman. I get it, we're in the lifestyle but that's not really the point. Does anyone else find this rude/painful/disrespectful?
The worst is when he turns back to me, he can see i'm now upset but has no idea why. REALLY?!

February 20, 2017
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You make me laugh girl! Men have to be beat over the head to know what a woman is thinking. If you got something to say to him, sit him down in a quiet room and tell him exactly whats on your mind cause otherwise he really ain't gonna know what your thinking. They don't have that ability to figure out what your upset about. You think it's obvious but it's not obvious to men.

February 21, 2017
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Come on now ladies that's not true about every man. I can read women like a book! I don't have to be told when my girlfriend is upset. Gosh knows she radiates poison and it can be very hard to miss!

Why the monkey? Because I'm a real swinger.

February 22, 2017
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Men are from Mars and women are from Venus! Just another example. Men are usually not very good at reading a woman. OMG I know they think they are but if you don't spell things out for them, they are freakin clueless! If you take the situation you described and put two girls there, I guarentee the girl would realize immediately what the problem was! I've thought about how much easier it must be for lesbians!

February 23, 2017
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Linda
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I agree with LaciDan that it is incredibly disrespectful when men are staring some woman down when they are with you. I don't like men who stare me down when they are with their wife or girlfriend. Huge turn off. Men can be so clueless sometimes that all I can do is shake my head. Perhaps they are not really clueless but prefer to act innocent?

February 28, 2017
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I am a man and truth be told I do need to be told what it is you want me to know. I'm not much good at reading people and so that can be a problem. My wife knows that if she has something to say, she best say it loud and clear or I won't know what she's thinking. I'm not a mind reader.

March 1, 2017
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Sorry pud but I think that's a cop out. All men know that women do not like to be made to feel second best (just like men don't). If you are talking to anyone and leave the conversation to follow someone with your eyes, the person talking feels unimportant. It's called common courtesy. I understand that the point of a swinger event is to find other couples (or singles) but there is a less hurtful way to show interest. Just my opinion.

March 1, 2017
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When we are in a club or wherever, I agree that if the point of swinging is to find other couples why are you going to ask me not to look?
I love my wife but we are there to meet other people. If some pretty girl walks by of course i'm going to check her out. My wife does the same with men. That's normal and it makes no sense why people are getting their feelings hurt.

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