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Meeting up with and playing with an old flame in the club on purpose!
February 19, 2016
8:41 am
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Some folks will try anything to get their way! There is a couple I know who we met in our swing club awhile back. We have met them for dinner and drinks on the outside but kept our play relationship limited to the club. They always seemed relatively happy as a couple. A few weeks ago this new couple shows up in the club. I know they are new because i saw them signing in at the front (only new members do this). The woman from the couple we know was sitting next to me on the couch when they made their way into the club. The manager was giving them a tour when she jumps up and rushes over to tell the manager that she will give them a tour (something she has never done before). When they are done with the tour she brings the couple over to sit with us which I thought was odd. My husband was annoyed with me telling me she was just being nice. OK. The entire night she is hanging on this guy and his girlfriend was obviously unhappy.
We walked away midway through the night and did not see them in the playroom.
Next weekend the guy is back but with a different woman. He walks in, looks around and sits right next to her. Again, they spend the whole evening laughing and flirting and this time dancing.
Long story short, this went on for a few weeks and finally her husband called my husband to tell him what is going on. Turns out, this guy is her old boyfriend from high school! She bumped into him and they made plans to meet in the club. I told my husband that in my opinion, she is having an affair but using the club as a cover.
What do you think???

May 13, 2016
8:26 am
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Wow! That's really bad. I imagine your friend and her husband are over? Looking for an update.
I agree that this is really a woman who is having an affair and thinks it is ok to take it into a swing club. I have honestly never heard of anyone doing this before but that is not to say it hasn't happened. It really is sad because when your husband (or wife) is open to swinging and you do something like this it really rocks people's trust!

May 13, 2016
4:14 pm
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I hate to read stories like this because it makes swingers look bad. I have personally never heard of anyone doing this but I suppose had you not been paying attention you wouldn't have noticed! Maybe it does happen more than we know?
I think the couple needs to evaluate what is going on in the relationship and to discuss the point that swinging should not be cheating! It really saddens me when people take advantage of a good thing like this.

Are they still in the lifestyle?

May 14, 2016
7:50 am
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I have to agree that she invited her old boyfriend to the club and probably with the intention of playing with him.

Great question for all of us: is she cheating really or is she looking to swing with someone from her past? I would have said she was cheating if she met him on the outside but since her husband knows and is included in the actual playing (which we don't know has even taken place) I'm not sure I would say she's cheating.

May 14, 2016
11:20 am
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Update!!

We didn't hear back from them for a week and they were not at our club (usually they are there every Saturday). They called us yesterday and wanted to meet for drinks and head to the club tonight. She told me she bumped into him at the mall after not seeing him since high school. He is divorced and dating and is new in town. He asked her what is fun to do on weekends and she blurted it out without thinking. He said he wanted to check it out. She said they did not go in the back room with him and he is just an old friend. Not sure I believe the whole thing based on how she acted around him. We will see if he shows up again tonight. My husband thinks I should make a play for him if he shows up and see how she reacts. I don't know.

April 3, 2018
3:29 pm
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WOW! Any updates on this?! Although i don't think I know anyone who has done this I have suspected this of someone in the past. They were claiming to have recently met in the club but it seemed obvious that they had some history. That's sad to hear because swinging is all about trust. I do think there are people who swing for all the wrong reasons.

August 11, 2018
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This is so interesting! At first glance I did think this woman was flat out trying to have an affair while using swinging as an excuse. When I read what the woman's explanation was, it isn't so clear. It brings up a fascinating topic: Is this cheating? Is it cheating to tell an old flame that you hang out at a swing club? Honestly I don't believe she "accidentally" told him. She wanted to see him there and when he arrived, she seemed to be waiting for him. However, like someone pointed out, she did do this in front of her husband. I wonder how she would feel if the shoe was on the other foot...

August 15, 2018
3:36 pm
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Very interesting indeed! I agree with Linda. At first I thought she was guilty but I suppose if it happened the way she said it did, maybe not so much. Although, why on earth would anyone tell someone that they were hanging out a swing club unless they wanted that person to show up? Especially an old boyfriend. Also, the fact that the guy keeps showing up with different women makes him seem very anxious to be at the club.

Too bad this is an older thread. I wonder what the woman's husband thought of the whole thing.

August 18, 2018
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This is such a set up people, come on. There is no way that it went down the way the woman said. She was in touch with him on Facebook or Instagram, whatever, and he moved there to be close to her. She gave him hope and he took a chance. She told him to come to the club. Plain and simple! As far as whether or not this is cheating, I say it is.

August 20, 2018
9:11 am
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I know everyone is asking for an update. I think I remember the name of the woman who posted this. I am researching to figure out her email address and will ask her to post an update. Stay tuned!

August 21, 2018
7:48 am
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The concern for me is the way she approached it. If she had just told her husband she wanted to play with this guy I'm sure he would of been cool with it. They are swingers so what is the big deal? Its not like she met him at a hotel and never told him, she did it right in front of him. If I were the guy it wouldn't bother me I would just want my wife to be more upfront in the future.

Why the monkey? Because I'm a real swinger.

August 21, 2018
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Wait a sec, I don't see where they had sex.? Everyone is talking about her cheating but how did she cheat? Flirting with an old boyfriend is really not cheating in my opinion.

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