May 27, 2019
As an alternative, for just taking a time out when experiencing jealousy, there is an advantage if one has Faith.
For first of all, you truly have to have faith in y our partner or mate, husband or wife. Swinging or as I would call it, sharing can be very very HARD, if you think you can lose a relationship in the process of a temporary relationship or new relationship. IE... its basically for the strong and attached rather than the weak. Those unprepared do get separated and musical chairs with new partners can occur and does occur. The grass seemingly greener on the other side or inside. Yet if you know yourself and truly believe in your loved one, and have a deep or SPIRITUAL connection, usually called real love between each other, all things are possible and new horizons and experiences and loves are possible. We are tribal, we are gregarious. I reckon it is our human nature to desire others.
Besides, few can truly believe that merely one other person is the entire answer or fulfillment to their lifes.
And yet if we let go, we can hold on tighter and be together with our original. Ha, or as the bible says... the wife of our Youth.... and add some others or husband of our YOUTH, and add others as well.
Good for the goose good for the gander... its always equality IMO.
Faith wise, spiritual people who believe in their Creator and can overcome jealousy much easier, because they should have been taught to put others first rather than themselves. That's love.
If you truly love a husband or wife, you would want the best for them and therefore allow them freedom, knowing or believeing what you let go, will return to you (This whether youre within touch or not)
All sharing will initially have a degree of pain and suffering involved as your heart wrenches with its emotions, some good some bad, some doubting, some fearing. It hurts, thinking you aren't the best or the handsomest or funniest, or sexiest. Get over it, youre just you.... and not the greatest in some areas. Have some humility. For if you have been around the block a few times, in honesty you should have already known this, and it can be a key for you overcoming jeralousy. Just be yourself, as imperfect as you are.
Sure, many swingers have an attitude and are sharing for pride and ego sake, that's OK...just avoid the devoid, or be greater than them knowing its only a momentary encounter.
Besides as a spiritual person with FAITH, you also should know you have a relationship with your Creator (J)
who will not leave you ever...never. This assurance and your absolutely solid knowledge and experience in knowing He/She (HS) is in your heart and soul, no matter what happens should be your stability in healing when you seemingly feel alone or isolated.
Faith not just a feeling can overcome jealousy. Its not mere head knowledge but a knowing that you will be taken care of no matter what, and know from personal experience, that's it true and will be true in the present and FUTURE.
Confidence, faith, life experiences, words, can all get you over the hump of a hump of yours or your mates.
Just a few thoughts for ya, to overcome jealousy
PS) I noticed that a thread on jealousy was by far the most read TOPIC HERE, so here be a different angle on overcoming and conquering jealousy
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