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Curious to know if people are secretly meeting up to play during COVID
August 4, 2020
2:03 pm
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Hope212
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Ok, I will start. At first we stayed away, we did not go to our nearby club, no meet and greets, no parties, nothing! Then, we got super bored. How many movies can you watch on weekend nights? After working all week, I really wanted to do something fun.
The first few weeks we simply met close friends (two at a time) and played privately in our home or theirs. We are now haning as a group of 4 couples every weekend and playing together. OMG it's awesome! I missed this, how about you guys?

August 4, 2020
2:37 pm
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Sorry to say we have steered clear of swinging since mid March. We have a friend who got very sick with the virus and we realized it is no joke! It has been nice to reconnect with each other over the past few months. Sometimes we get so busy with friends that we don't take the time to appreciate one another like this. No regrets, we will come back out to play when they find a vaccine or a cure. Be safe!

August 4, 2020
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Listen, we've got lots of people in Texas who got sick but we got frustrated staying home by ourselves so we've been out with friends. We only play with safe people so we aren't worried.

August 5, 2020
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Can you explain to me, texascpl ,who exactly is safe? Other than having daily tests, you could not possibly know that a person has not been exposed.

It's so hard for me to understand what is so difficult about staying safe. Having random sex with strangers is so important that it's worth the risk? Please don't tell me you are not afraid to become infected because that makes me angry. Maybe you are not worried but what about the people you come into contact with? Perhaps they prefer not to get this virus.

Please people, think about everyone. Wear your mask and don't congregate! We are all anxious to get back to life, but the longer we don't follow the rules, the longer this will last.

August 7, 2020
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Well, I'm going to stick my neck out here and say that while we can't know if someone is 100% COVID free , we can play the pecentages. My wife and I have played with about 3 couples since the lockdown started. At first we stayed away from everyone, including our own family. We kept in touch and played silly facetime games with our lifestyle friends to keep us from going crazy on weekend nights. Eventually we decided that some couples are playing it as safe as we are. Not socializing, working from home, etc. We then made plans to meet at either our home or theirs and did indeed play. Not going to apologize but felt that although there was some risk involved, we tried to calculate the degree of risk, and ultimately felt it was rather small.

Don't worry Linda, we do wear our masks and we don't congregate! Stay safe out there!

August 7, 2020
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I suppose this is not terribly different than when AIDS first came on the scene. Swingers were probably running for the hills and over time, tiptoed back into the lifestyle. Why did they feel it was safe to come back? There was no cure. Was it because they believed their playmates were safe?

At this point in time, the virus has continued to affect people of all ages, and most people who do get it, are not exactly sure how they got it. Can we declare our friends "safe" because they work from home and limit their contact with others? Not really, but as Mago said, it's a calculated risk. We can never be certain and so perhaps if you MUST play with others, stay away from others for 2 weeks. That seems like the fair thing to do...

August 10, 2020
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We understand other people's concerns, but ultimately, the decision of whether to play is up to us. We did go to a "club" in June and we played with couples we did not know. Luckily, we did not get sick, but we do know other people who did. Since then we have been to a few parties and get togethers. Neither of us is prepared to stop living our lives and sit at home.

Maybe for the older folks it's best for them to stay home, but for us, we are going to keep partying.

August 11, 2020
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According to Hope212, she and her boyfriend (or husband) are playing with as a group of 8 people every weekend because this feels "safe". Let's just assume, that in the course of 1 week, each of these 8 people comes into contact with 10 people. I mean coworkers, family, neighbors, etc. Now you are assuming that all of these 80 people are safe too, are you not? If 1 of these 80 people have the virus, you're all screwed. And, I think saying 10 people in the course of 1 week is pretty conservative, no?

I get it, we are swingers too and love the lifestyle. However, we also would like to see this freakin thing end! If we don't do our part to stop it, we will likely be in this same position for quite a while.
The typical length of time for a vaccine to be developed is between 10 and 15 years.
The fastest vaccine that has ever been developed was the one for Ebola. That took between four and five years.
Although this vaccine will most definitely end up becoming the fastest (due to the fact that the entire world is trying to find the cure), it will still be a massive challenge to produce enough vaccines to innoculate all the people!
So, let's try to be responsible and help slow the spread. There will time to play when this is over.

Why the monkey? Because I'm a real swinger.

August 11, 2020
3:42 pm
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I feel that swinging is a personal choice. We are free to do what we want, just as we would be free to play without condoms if we chose to do so. It would be our problem if we ended up getting sick. I hardly think that we have to worry about 80 people, I don't see 10 people every day. You are free to feel the way that you do, but I don't agree with you. We have been stuck in quarantine long enough!

August 12, 2020
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Wow, hoping the 212 after your name means you are in New York. I wouldn't want to think I come into contact with you.
I find it shocking that people continue to act so selfishly! What you are doing is not a personal choice when you are putting others at risk.
It's fascinating that you begin your tale of woe explaining how you were behaving in a responsible way and were overcome by boredom. Guess what? We are all bored! That doesn't give anyone the right to act in a way that unfairly puts innocent people at risk.

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