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Converting vanilla friends
November 12, 2015
12:16 pm
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adri1961
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What do you think about hitting on vanilla couples to try to coerce them into the lifestye? We have these long term friends and when we get together we always kid about sexual stuff. Nobody has ever touched anyone or said anything about swinging but the tension is there. We have been swingers for about 3 years. Is this ok to do? How do you approach people?

November 12, 2015
4:46 pm
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Do not even think about it unless you don't value your friendship. It's a terrible idea and won't work. I have heard more stories of people f*cking up friendships over trying to convert people. There are 2 things you need to consider. First is do you think they have any idea you are swingers? If they do and were interested they would ask you about it. Second is have you ever tried to throw out some sexual innuendo? How did they react? If they blew it off then they are not interested or not very sexual. If they took the bait you could keep trying to get onto the topic of swinging and see where they stand.

November 12, 2015
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Why not just stick with finding swingers who are already in the lifestyle? It's interesting how swingers forget that before they were in the lifestyle, swinging was foreign to them. It wasn't something you ever really thought about was it? If people made sexual comments that was all it was, a comment. You never worried that your friends were secretly thinking about having sex with you (especially as couples!) But now you are in the lifestyle so you think everyone is fair game. That gives swingers a bad rep. We don't want people to think we are always on the prowl hitting on everyone we come into contact with that attracts us.

My suggestion is to check out a swing club and find your fun there. Leave your friends out of it.

November 13, 2015
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I disagree with these ladies. You say the other couple gives off sexual vibes with you guys right? Then if I was you I would kid around and bring up swinging and see how they act. I bet you they take the bait. They probably know you guys are swingers and are waiting for you to come clean. Sounds to me like they want in. Go for it!

November 14, 2015
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I think there's no reason not to try to see if they are looking for it. Sounds like they would be up for it. It's not like you just met them and thought they were hot and said let's try to convert them. They are teasing you and if it were us we would respond. Sounds like something really hot! You could always say you guys read about a swing club or a meet and greet and wanted to check it out. If they are interested they will want to go with you. Let us know what happens. I say go for it too!

July 27, 2016
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Before we were Quote official "Swingers" we always played with our friends. We would throw a party (vanilla) a favorite couple would stay behind and help clean up, We kid about spending the night together. Be surprised how many would take us up on the offer. OK this occurred while I was in the military. After that we usually got together with them at least once a month or more as long as we were at that base with them. We get moved to new base, and we find friends again. Its when I left the military and we got on the internet to find friends to play with that we became official Swingers. LOL.....

August 8, 2016
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My hubby and I were "converted" by swingers so I can tell you that sometimes it works! We were friendly with this couple for about 6 months and really enjoyed their company. They would never make plans with us for Saturday nights which we thought was really odd. We live in Chicago so it can get very cold here. We were out one night and they invited us back to their place for drinks so we said sure. When we started walking back from the restaraunt it started to rain. Not just rain, but pour. By the time we reached their place we were soaked. Naturally we needed to get out of our wet clothes so they were kind enough to give us something to put oust No problem. They started a fire in their fireplace and we drank hot spiked drinks on the floor to warm up. We got pretty drunk and my friend's husband turned on their very large tv. Of course porn is what pops up and we all started to laugh. She asked us if we ever watch porn and we said we did. They did not turn the channel and at first I was like WTF?? We were feeling no pain and next thing I know her husband kisses me. I turned to see if my husband was freaking out but he was kissing my friend. One think led to another and next thing I know we are full blown making out with our friends. I was so turned on and clearly so was my husband. The couple asked us to have sex but we said not this time.
We went home and had crazy sex. They called to see if we were ok with everything the next morning and I told them we should make plan to see them again ASAP.
Of course they told that they are swingers and although we did not do anything more than play with them at the beginning, we eventually did go to clubs and we have been to Caliente and Desire quite a few times.
We are so glad they took a chance with us! I'm not sure we ever would have sought this out on our own.

August 9, 2016
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I agree with Jennifer. This is a very bad idea. Sure for a few people it might turn out well but I am willing to bet that for most people it is a mess. We used to have private parties at our house and often, our very attractive neighbors would mention that they noticed we had another party. My wife and I talked about inviting them but we were trying to figure out if we should be honest about what kind of parties we were having. We soon felt like we had no choice as they asked us about the parties more than once. We didn't say we were swingers, we just said that sometimes the parties can be very hot and "things happen". They showed up at our next party and although it started off fine, it ended up as a total mess. One couple had a fair amount to drink and soon removed their clothing and jumped into the pool. Before you know it another female joined them and soon it was obvious they were having sex in the pool. My wife was busy looking for someone's liquor and did not notice. My neighbors were clearly watching the couple in the pool and soon told us they had to leave to pick up their young son from a friend's house. It was probably 10:00, the party started at 9:00.
Needless to say, they no longer even make eye contact with us and we are sure the entire neighborhood now knows that we are swingers.
If I were you, I would not expose myself.

September 9, 2016
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Sorry it took so long to update but it took a long time to get up the nerve to do this. I read what you guys said but did what we felt!
It's actually kind of a funny story but it seemed like fate to us. We went out to dinner to a real nice place but it was like 60 miles from where we live. We went in one car with the friends we wanted to hit on. We had a great dinner and a lot of whiskey! When we were ready to head back home it was raining so hard that when we got out car the valet told us the road we needed to take was blocked by a downed tree. We decided to find a motel and settle in for the night. We finally find one not too far away and as our luck would have it they only had one room available! My wife and I were laughing that this was fate!
Needless to say our friends said ok because there were 2 beds and no choices! When we got inside we were soaked from the rain so my wife and I called for extra towels and we all had to wear a towel to let the clothing dry out. We joked about the situation and the sexual tension that the towels were creating. My friend dared his wife to kiss my wife and the rest is history! Hottest night ever! We didn't even tell them we are swingers.

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