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Contacting other swingers
May 22, 2018
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Copter00
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I was wondering if there is a kind of unwritten rule regarding contacting people you have met. If a couple gives us their phone number, who should do the contacting? I usually leave it for my wife and she signs both our names when she texts. We normally give out her phone number because she is not at a busy day job like I am. Last weekend we gave our (her) number to a couple and the dude has been texting her non stop. WTF?

May 23, 2018
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You said that she signs both names so how does this guy know who he's talking to?

May 23, 2018
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We always give out my husband's number and he usually asks the man to be in touch with him. We have had situations where the woman was in touch but it hasn't been an issue for us. Maybe your wife is chatting him up?

May 25, 2018
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We usually talk via email and we both read them as it's a joint account. We have heard of couples who have encountered problems like this. I don't know the nature of the texts but maybe it's just chat, nothing more? Did she share the text messages with you? How about trying a group text and include his wife as well.

May 25, 2018
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Hey thanks for the responses! My wife has shown me the texts (as she always does) but thought it was weird how often he is in touch. The texts are not completely innocent and seem to be escalating with time. I think the advice to put them into a group text is a good idea. I might not see them live but can see them when I have time. I also think if his wife is involved maybe he will cool it. Let ya know!

May 26, 2018
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Maybe he's simply showing interest. Why not meet up with them and talk about it in person. Could be misunderstanding his intent and then you'll just lose a chance to have a good time with them.

May 28, 2018
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I think most couples give out the man's number and encourage the men to make the plans. This way you avoid this kind of situation. As much as we like to think everyone in the lifestyle is kosher, that's not really the case.

June 8, 2018
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We only give out an email adress to avoid this problem. Now that everyone has instant email access on their telephones it is very easy to communicate. This way there is nothing questionable between anyone as it is only the men speaking with each other.
We have heard this situation between couples in the past which is why we don't give out our phone numbers to anyone. This also eliminates anyone seeing a text that they shouldn't if they need to borrow our phone for a moment.

August 13, 2018
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We always give out my phone number (the male) but I wouldn't care if my wife gave hers out. I also wouldn't have a problem if she contacted someone we met in the lifestyle. That's why we are there! 1

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