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Convincing girlfriend to swing...
March 26, 2020
11:15 am
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I’m interested in the lifestyle. Not sure if my girlfriend would ever go for it. I know if I asked she’d say absolutely not. But we have gone to swingers clubs and temptations quit a bit. I just don’t want her to freak out if I asked her about it. Any suggestions??

April 19, 2020
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I'm confused, you say you've gone to swing clubs and even Temptations but she doesn't know you would like to swing? How did you get her to agree to go to a swing club?

To answer your question, I think you are on the right track. If she is willing to go to a swing club that's a good start. She can see for herself how normal and nonthreatening the environment is. The more time you can spend there the more comfortable she will feel. Maybe one day you should work up the nerve to suggest "checking out" the playroom because you are curious. You never know...

April 20, 2020
11:54 am
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We started the lifestyle by checking out a swing club as well. I was not particularly interested in the whole idea, I went because my husband bugged me for months. I was not open to the whole concept but I will say that when I met people in the club and saw how "normal" they were, it helped. We became friendly with several couples and over time I settled in and let my guard down.
Now, we are regulars! The trick is to feel comfortable and confident in the club, which takes time.

April 23, 2020
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When you do go to swinger places make sure you pay alot of attention to your woman. Stay the course and talk about what you see, eventually it will happen!

April 30, 2020
12:53 pm
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This is confusing! If you've already gone to a swinger club and resort, how can you say she's not open to swinging? Why did she agree to go in the first place? I think she's more ready than you give her credit for! Go for it! Maybe she's waiting for you!!

May 7, 2020
5:12 pm
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Hey Djwfd! Welcome!

I think many people (probably mostly men) can understand your question. Women can be confusing! My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for many years but it was a rocky start. She didn't want to know anything about swinging or the lifestyle so it took a few years to even get her to a club. Like some of the other folks have said, if you don't push when you go to clubs or resorts, it will make her feel more in control. Nobody wants to feel pushed or used so make sure you stay by her side and let her make the decisions. She might just surprise you over time. I know mine did! Well worth the time and effort. Right now she sulks because she wants to get out and go to the club!

May 8, 2020
11:29 am
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Most women who have no interest would never step foot in a swing club let alone go to Temptations! I think you are closer than you think. What confuses me is why you haven't discussed this with her. Have you ever asked?

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