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Swinging is becoming very complicated
August 13, 2018
4:09 pm
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Copter00
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When we started out in the lifestyle I thought everyone was cool and really enjoyed it. What we have noticed over time is that couples have a lot of expectations.

1 If you you cum too fast the girl isn't happy,

2. If you take too long you are hurting her and she takes it personally that you haven't yet cum.

3. If you kiss her it's too personal

4. If you don't kiss her passionately she can't get wet.

5. If you make her squirt, she's happy

6. If you make her squirt, her husband's not happy because he hasn't figured out how to do that

And on and on and on and on. WTF! Why must this be so complicated! If we don't stay and chat and exchange phone numbers, we are dick heads; if we play after we leave them we are sex addicts. What is up with all the judgement? We just like to go with the flow and have a good time but this is becoming too much. Anyone else have these issues?

August 13, 2018
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Yes, sadly we have seen all of the above scenarios. We were playing next to a couple this past weekend and the poor guy couldn't get an erection. His wife knocks on her husbands head and says (loudly enough for everyone around to hear), "I'm ready to take you back, this guy can't get it up and it needs to be his wife's problem, not mine". I swear I wanted to punch her in the face. What a bitch! Some folks are so kind and considerate but not all.

August 13, 2018
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I have had mostly good experiences but I do notice that some couples can be hard to play with. I like anal but some women get real upset when I ask their man for it. Is this wrong?

August 15, 2018
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No sir sexycpl! There ain't nothing wrong with asking for anal! Why would women get upset? I'm really confused by that! Anybody?

August 15, 2018
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My wife loves dp so she's not upset when another woman wants anal. I do think people can be tough these days. I agree that women complain alot about men being too big or too thick or not hard enough or take too long. I started asking women flat out what they like before getting started. I can remember doing everything in my power to last longer, only to find out the girl I was playing with was wishing I'd finish long before I did! I think like everyone always says: communicate, communicate, communicate!

August 16, 2018
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As far as anal goes, that's something I am into but my wife does not really like it. Is this something we should be discussing before committing to playing with a couple? Women are so hard to read about his. I like to try first with a finger but many women squirm away and look annoyed. Some are open to this but not to anal. Help!

September 7, 2018
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Swinging is like anything else, people all have different expectations. I agree that it can be difficult to find a balance with another couple in terms of what you want versus what they want and /or expect. Some couples get uptight if you don't kiss and begin with passion where other couples absolutely do not want that type of interaction. Some like to linger after the fact and talk and cuddle where others like to finish, high five and walk away. Is it a conversation to be had ahead of time? I would think that would be awkward. Sometimes that's is why couples gravitate to other couples that they already know. They have an ebb and flow about them because they are familiar with their style.

As far as anal goes, this is absolutely something you should try to talk about ahead of time. Even if you joke about it just to get a feel for how a woman feels about it. Please don't surprise us...

October 5, 2018
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To answer the first part of this I agree that over the past several years swinging has gone from an easy and always exciting time to a more difficult scenario. These days you do have to be "polically correct" about how you approach women. First I thought it was my age, but I think it is more the new swinging environment. Many couples are not "real" swingers. They like to touch and tease, and if they do like to swap there are so many rules. WTF! Probably some of the issue is with all the new ED drugs guys are lasting forever and many women don't actually appreciate that. Or do they?

As far as anal goes, it is always a crap shoot. Some crave it, others avoid it. If it is a must for you when you play, probably best to ask ahead of time. As for Linda, don't even think about it. Just kidding.

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