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Playing alone with a new partner
May 23, 2018
2:25 pm
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LaciDan
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We have been swinging for awhile and up until this past weekend we always played as a couple, side by side.
My husband confided recently that swinging has lots its excitement. He feels like he has been there done that and although he still enjoys it, he has cooled off a bit. He remembers the intense excitement of our ealier days swinging but it has now become pretty routine.
We met a couple at a club and went to the playroom to find them. The man told us they only play separately and asked if he and I could leave them and find a private room together. I hesitated as this was not something we had ever done.My husband encouraged me to go and so I did.
I feel guilty saying that this was te best sex I have ever had since I'm in the lifestyle. OMG!!! Was this because we were alone? HELP!!!!

May 23, 2018
2:37 pm
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We don't play apart so I can't answer that. I'm curious to know if you told your hubby how awesome the experience was and if you did, was it equally as exciting for him?

May 25, 2018
3:43 pm
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Oh my! This sounds serious. I also wondered if you told your husband and if you did what did he say? Although having great sex is the point of swinging, the dangerous part is that it seems you are feeling guilty and that's odd. What are you hiding?

May 26, 2018
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We play in separate rooms without a problem. I trust him and he trusts me. I understand why the sex is sometimes better when we are alone with a partner in a private room. There is nothing holding me back. I'm not concerned with my husband and it allows me to concentrate only on the person with whom I'm playing. I feel totally free to do and act as I please. I don't see why you should feel guilty. You are there for sex and you had sex. You didn't make plans to see him outside so where's the harm?

June 9, 2018
9:43 am
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I'm not "hiding" anything, I'm strictly asking how others feel! I did not tell my husband that it was so over the top but I did tell him I felt less inhibited without the other man's wife around. Not totally honest but trying to spare his feelings. We have since seen this couple again at the club but my husband did not want to play with his wife again. Really sucks for me because I'm dying to play with this man again. Is that wrong? Really the sex was that good!

June 20, 2018
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This is where the lifestyle can be confusing. Here you have a great time swinging and would love a repeat but hubby doesn't want to play with the wife again. So many questions!

1. Does he always get to make the decision about who you play with?

2. Do the two of you never play with separate couples?

3. Will he never play with someone because you want to?

4. Do you think he is avoiding this couple because you told him it was good?

Please don't take offense, I'm really just curious.

Why the monkey? Because I'm a real swinger.

June 21, 2018
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I think it's normal to have a good experience when you swing. It could be a coincidence that this was a great time, for all you know it would have been equally as awesome had you played next to your husband! Sometimes two people just click and the sex is great. You can play the same guy again and maybe next time won't be as hot. It's a moment.

June 22, 2018
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First I want to respond to Crayola and say that I've been thinking about that. We have been swinging for awhile and I've had numerous partners over the years. Never has any experience compared to this. There have been hotter guys and guys I was dying to play with but this was different. I wasn't that interested in him prior to playing, he just seemed like an ok guy and I could sense my husband was into his wife.

As for coco, my husband is not controlling. To answer your questions
1. We make joint decisions about who we play with. If we are not both interested, then we don't play.
2. We have only played with separate couples at private parties but usually play close to each other.
3. I have never asked him to take one for the team so I'm not about to start asking now.
4. I think he doesn't want to play with this couple again strictly because we just played with them. We rarely play with the same couple more than once.

I know we will see them this weekend so I'm still keeping my fingers crossed that he will change his mind. I doubt it.

June 22, 2018
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Linda
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So basically you were prepared to take one for the team and it ended up being a super experience! That's very funny!

Although my husband and I absolutely never play apart, I imagine that everyone would feel a bit freer if they were alone with someone. Although my husband likes when I have a good time and I, in turn, like when he has fun there is a limit to what anyone wants to see or hear.

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