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Black Ring Drama
April 24, 2019
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So glad that Partners ID is putting out a black ring that is different than the rest. We went to our daughter's jazz concert at school the other night and the man sitting next to me was wearing a black ring! I poked my husband and I swear we spent the entire night trying to decide if he was a swinger or not. We were checking out his wife, I tried to make small talk, nothing! I think he thought I was rude talking to him during the concert.
Out of lack of other options, I came right out and told him I liked his ring. He looked at me like I had 10 heads. Then, when the concert was over he bolted out and tried to avoid us.
We don't think he is a swinger.

May 10, 2019
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That's so funny because when I read your post and you said he bolted, I thought it was because you outed him! I agree with your original thought, I'm very glad to see a black ring that actually has the sign on it. Although guessing can be fun, it rarely ends well.

May 11, 2019
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I also had a situation with the black ring and are thrilled to see Partners ID is doing this!

Often, on my way home from work, I will stop and meet my dad for a cocktail at the clubhouse where he lives. One of the bartenders can be very flirtatious and happens to be very cute. About 6 months ago I noticed he was wearing a black ring and couldn't help but stare at it. After my very strong drink, when my dad left to use the restroom, I asked him. Honest to G-d point blank asked him if he was a swinger. The look on his face was priceless! He was so shocked! He laughed and asked why on earth I would think that. When I pointed to his ring he looked utterly confused. My father returned so our conversation was cut short. I absolutely believed him but was quite embarrassed the next time I saw him. He was less friendly and if he were really a swinger, I believe he would have been exactly the opposite. He also no longer wears the black ring.

May 18, 2019
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I think everyone in the lifestyle must have a black ring gone wrong story! We were on vacation in Bermuda with the kids. At night we had a woman from the hotel babysit so we could go out and have some fun. We were at the bar having these great Carribean cocktails and a good looking couple is sitting next to us. She was dressed very sexy and he was hot. They smiled at us and struck up a conversation. I noticed that they were both wearing black rings and was absolutely certain we had lucked out. Who else wears black rings??? Well, apparently there are people out there who simply like black rings because they were not swingers. It's a long, embarrassing story but trust me, they were not. You really can't use plain black rings as a sign.

May 20, 2019
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A guy I work with wears a black ring and I asked him if he is a swinger. He knows I am so it's no big deal. Turns out to have some kind of military meaning. He laughed hard when I asked him and said he hopes that other people aren't talking about him behind his back!

May 21, 2019
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We have friends who got married a few years ago and he has a black wedding band. There is no way on this planet that this couple swings. She is a former nun and they are both practically married to the church. Don't try to tell me otherwise. Trust me, this black ring is nothing more than a black wedding band. The end.

May 22, 2019
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I was traveling and sat next to a man on a plane who was wearing a black ring. I struck up a conversation with him and he was very friendly. I wasn't sure how to broach the subject so I simply told him that I also have a black ring. He was like, "Oh, cool." I had to guess that he was not in the lifestyle even though he was wearing on his right hand! Black rings never worked. I'm excited about these rings because you don't have to ask!

May 24, 2019
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Add me to the list of people who want this ring. I was having lunch in NYC at a very crowded deli. They seat people next to each other at long tables. I was alone and was seated next to a really cute woman. She was also alone so we ended up talking. She was wearing a black ring on her right hand. I couldn't believe my luck! Not so fast. Turns out she's not only not a swinger, but she is asexual! She was very open about it but told me flat out, that swinging is the farthest thing from what she is open to. I'm done guessing.

May 24, 2019
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I don't have any black ring stories but I do think this new ring is an excellent idea. I don't understand why people like to play the 'are they or aren't they' game. I have heard some pretty crazy and risky things couples have done in an effort to find others to swing with. This concept is so simple. This is something that clearly identifies yourself and others. If they know it, you hit pay dirt. If they don't, walk away. As swingers, we tend to think people are more open to the idea of swingers than they actually are.

May 24, 2019
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I agree with pud, people who are not in the lifestyle are not usually open to it. They often don't have very high regard for those who swing, either.
The problem is also that vanilla people seem to think swingers are predatory and this behavior only reaffirms that belief. Hitting on vanilla people is just wrong in my opinion. You can argue that you think they are swingers, but as you can see, this is rarely the case.
This black ring, like the other jewelry they sell, is spot on. You see it, you know it, you're good.

June 5, 2019
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Yup, I think everyone has a black ring story! My friend and I went to a ball game and sitting in front of us was a group of 5 friends. Three ladies and two men. For sure, the ladies were gay and I think the men were as well. One of the women was wearing a black thumb ring and one was wearing a black ring on her right ring finger. My friend was sure they were all swingers. When we heard them speaking French, my friend tried to speak with them in her high school acquired French. She asked about the rings and they gave her a funny look like 'that's such an odd question.' They actually spoke English so we explained the meaning and they were so embarrassed! They both slid them off their fingers and stuck them in their pockets.
They asked us if we were swingers and we said that we are. They shrugged their shoulders and turned back to watch the game.

We agreed that black rings were completely meaningless because so many people simply wear them and have no idea that it means anything to anyone.

June 6, 2019
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I run a home business and UPS stops at my house almost daily. I noticed a long time ago that the driver wears a black ring. I was curious if it had any meaning and so I googled it. It came up with many different meanings, one of them being a swinger. One day I bought a black ring and purposely wore it when I answered the door. Nothing, he didn't even notice. Next time I came to the door with a can of coke in my hand so the ring was practically in his face when I took a sip. Nothing. Finally, the next day, I pointed to his black ring and said look, I have one too. His response: that's cool man.

I won't ask him because I see him most days and we have a cool relationship. I will say he is not a swinger from what I can see. I have made jokes about what' s in the packages he delivers but I can tell he is not really interested. Black rings don't mean a thing. Well, with the symbol they do but not when they are plain.

June 9, 2019
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We actually bought Partners ID rings during their pre-order gig. After wearing a black ring for about 4 years and never once having someone ask or approach me (except when we went to Desire, but hey), I have had 2 people already point out the ring and tell me they love it. They knew what it was and were planning to get one too. That impresses me the most! The quality is way better than my other black ring so I encourage everyone to get one. Great buy!

Why the monkey? Because I'm a real swinger.

August 3, 2019
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My great aunt wears a black ring! I never thought much about it until I started to hear that black rings meant someone is a swinger. If you saw my aunt (she's 81), you would understand that there was no way. I finally got up the courage to ask her if it has some meaning. Turns out it does. It was to honor a friend who died in combat. I asked if other people wear black rings for the same reason and she wasn't entirely sure. She said it was something dark to remind her. I guess it has different meanings to different people.

August 15, 2019
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I was traveling recently and a male flight attendant was wearing a black ring on the ring finger of his right hand. I could not stop staring at it as he went through the emergency procedures at the beginning of the flight. When I went to the restroom I saw he was alone in the back so I asked him about it. First I showed him my ring to see if he had any reaction to it. He simply said mine was cool (LOL).

The black ring he was wearing is a wedding band. I asked why the right hand and he said that's the finger you're supposed to wear it on. At first I didn't believe him but then he told me he is from Denmark . Not a swinger.

August 15, 2019
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Hey all, Mrs. Sobe here. I have a funny story about the black ring.

The adorable lady who cuts my hair wears a black ring. I noticed it when I started going to her a few years ago. I thought it was different (had never heard of the black ring meaning swinger thing). When I recently heard that black rings mean swinger, I decided I would ask her. Last week I went to get my haircut and sure enough, there was the black ring on her finger. Before she started on my hair, she picked up her water bottle to drink some water. When I saw the ring, I asked her if it meant she was a swinger.

She laughed so hard, the water actually came out of her nose! I felt awful because she seemed to be choking! It took about 10 minutes for her to regain her composure. She looked at me like I was crazy and said absolutely not! She told me she had never heard that before but was mortified wondering how many people had thought she was!

Plain black rings definitely are not a good indication. I won't ask next time I see someone wearing one.

November 5, 2019
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Great thread, love reading these epic fails. I can't help but wonder why people still talk about upside-down pineapples and gnomes and other bs when clearly this symbol has taken hold. I agree with their concept being that you can't google their symbol because it is too complex to describe. That is the whole point, right? I have a 5 year old daughter and she actually has a pineapple ring. She was talking with me the other day and she put her hand up to wipe her mouth. Her pineapple ring was upside down... Not a reliable sign, I'll stick with my new black ring with the symbol on it.

November 18, 2019
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Hi Bija,
I agree, there is no other reliable way to know for sure. We just came back from the Bliss cruise, which was amazing, and did end up sitting with a couple at dinner one night who are not swingers! I thought every single person on that boat would be a swinger but I was wrong. They like the atmosphere and the people but they have never considered swinging. Just our luck we sit with them our first night on the ship! We wore our jewelry after that hoping others would do the same. We did see a lot of people wearing this black ring.

February 8, 2020
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We've been swingers for many years and have had Partners ID jewelry for years. We have had success with the jewelry and it seems to have become pretty well known. We also have black rings and love them, very nice quality.

As for the black ring "drama", I noticed last week that my boss started wearing a black ring. I was shocked when I saw it because this guy is ultra conservative so I couldn't imagine he was a swinger. We have weekly meetings together and I swear I heard nothing he said because I was staring at his ring. At the end of the meeting I pointed to it and said "nice ring". He laughs and says "Oh I noticed you wear one and I thought it was nice so I got one too". I did not tell him what mine means but trust me, he's no swinger.

February 27, 2020
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Yup, I'm that guy who was admitted to the hospital wearing this black ring. An accident at work had me riding in an ambulance to the emergency room. It didn't take long for one of the nurses to put her hand on mine and give me a big smile. She picked up my hand and told me she would keep this important ring with her for safe keeping.

Many hours later when I was finally ready to be discharged there she was holding the ring in her hand. She wheeled me outside to the car where my wife was waiting to pick me up. She introduced herself and told my wife that she is also in the lifestyle. They chatted for a few minutes about parties and clubs.

This was about a month ago. Since then we have been out to dinner with the nurse and her boyfriend 3 times and have plans for a weekend in Jamaica with them. She even showed up one night with a bag full of club clothes and simply gave them to my wife, who was thrilled.

I think the best part about this ring is how easy it is. The lifestyle was the farthest thing from my mind when I got wheeled into the emergency room. Without the ring, we never would of met this couple . Awesome!

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