Well, we did our research and were able to find our forum poster! We reached out to her and here is her follow up! If you recall, on the forum, people were debating whether or not this woman’s friend was technically cheating on her husband.
When Partners ID contacted me about an old forum post that I wrote 2 years ago, I was shocked! They said that people are curious to hear what happened. I am not much of a writer but this is an interesting (and true) story.
This happened 2 years ago. At the time, my husband and I spent most of our free Saturday nights at a swing club. We became friendly with a couple that is about the same age as we are (early 40s). Whenever we were at the club, we always hung out together. Sometimes we would all play together in the playroom at the end of the night. It is fair to say that we knew them fairly well. I would speak to her during the week and sometimes we would meet for dinner and drinks before heading to the club on Saturdays.
One Saturday evening, the four of us were sitting on a couch by the front door. We were having drinks and laughing when we noticed the manager walk in with a new couple. He was getting ready to give them a tour of the club. I had spotted this couple on our way in as they were signing in as new members. Anyway, when my friend sees them, she jumps up and tells the manager that she would be happy to give them a tour. To say that this is out of character would be a huge understatement. The manager gives tours often when we are in the club, and she has never paid any attention to him.
When she finished giving them a tour she invited them to come and sit with us. I gave my husband a look but he said she was just being friendly. I don’t think she said two words to me the rest of the time we were sitting with them. She was completely flirting with him, excluding everyone else who was sitting there. My husband and I felt weird so we moved on. Later that evening we went into the playroom but did not see them back there.
The following weekend was the same scenario only this time this man showed up with a different woman. He walked into the club and without hesitation turned and sat down right next to my friend. The woman he was with seemed very uncomfortable, as did my friend’s husband. Early into the evening they were throwing back shots and dancing together. Again, we got up and walked away. At this point in time, we did question if my friend was technically cheating on her husband.
We did not see them for a few weeks. The husband spoke with my husband and told him that it was an old boyfriend and it’s nothing to be concerned about. We made plans to see them in the club that next weekend and I wasn’t sure whether or not her old boyfriend would show up again. I did notice that the few weeks my friend and her husband were out of the club, the boyfriend was not there either.
My husband said he thought if this guy showed up again I should make a play for him. I did not think I could do something like this but the seed was planted.
That evening, the four of us were dancing and enjoying the evening together. Sure enough, the old boyfriend shows up on the dance floor with yet another new girl. My friend, again, turns all of her attention to this guy and we walked off the dance floor. We went back to grab our drinks but my husband did not want to leave her husband alone in this situation. He begged me to flirt with this man but I tried to explain that it would only kill the friendship.
When everyone returned to sit down, I emptied my drink and turned to the new guy. I struck up a conversation with him asking him if he was new in the lifestyle and where he and his date met each other, etc. He was actually very friendly and warm and I could see what my friend liked about him. Trying to be playful, I touched his arm while I spoke and he seemed to enjoy it. When I looked at my friend, she did not really seem concerned, which confused me. Deep down, I really thought she would be mad.
Long story short, the 6 of us ended up in the playroom that evening. My friend and I with her old boyfriend, the guys were with his date and it was so much fun! There was a little bit of extra affection between the two but I suppose having history, it was expected.
I met her for lunch that same week and we finally talked about it. She assured me that she loves her husband and that seeing her old boyfriend became like a fantasy in her mind. Although she did hope he would show up at the club, no part of her wanted to leave her husband for him. That weekend that we played with him was awesome and now she got it out of her system and could put it to rest.
How’s that for a happy ending? But that isn’t the end…
The boyfriend continued to show up at the club every Saturday. My friend continued to pursue him when he was there. We stopped hanging out with them but watched from a distance while she spent more and more time with him. About 3 months later, our friends stopped coming to the club. She never called me anymore so my husband reached out to her husband. Her husband said he was tired of bringing her to the club so she could spend every Saturday with her old boyfriend while pretending it was normal. He suspected she was meeting him during the week and hired a private detective. Long story short, they are divorced.
This was 2 years ago and happily her husband has found a wonderful woman. They are planning to get married in a few months. I have not heard from her but her husband told us that she and the old boyfriend are no longer together. A very unfortunate story!
Wishing you all the best!
To read the original forum post read here: https://www.swingersjewelry.net/forum/swingers-talk/meeting-up-with-and-playing-with-an-old-flame-in-the-club-on-purpose/
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