Dear Partners ID,
I am a single man and I am in the lifestyle. Let me tell you, it’s not easy for single men. It’s easy to understand why people have such a negative reaction to single men in the lifestyle. Trust me, even I have received dick pics in my inbox and I’m not even bi.
It actually takes more effort from the good guys to get past the stigma that is attached to us due to men with bad intentions and/or poor judgment. Luckily for me, people tend to be able to differentiate the good guys from the bad relatively quickly.
Although some think otherwise before getting to know me, I am not in the lifestyle for “easy” or “non-committal” sex. Believe it or not, I took to the lifestyle to find love. Yes, love, I was looking for a wife.
Like most people who know me, this revelation seemed to shock people. Why on earth would you look for a wife in a swing club? That’s like looking for a needle in a haystack!
Growing up, my parents were swingers. Although I did not know when I was a kid, I discovered their “secret” when I was in my teens. It was confusing at first, but after the initial shock, I realized my parents seemed happier than any of my friend’s parents. They didn’t say they had sex with other people, just that they had close relationships as couples. It took me a little bit of research on my own to figure out what exactly they were trying to say.
After I turned 40, I realized that I had been serial dating for years and could not seem to find what I was looking for. After internet dating sites, picking girls up at bars and being set up on countless blind dates I was ready to give up. Many of the women I dated started out great, but not long into the relationship I could feel the change. Sex was never as important to them as it was to me. I wanted to find a woman who actually loved sex and this proved to be very difficult!
Growing up with parents who were constantly physical with each other, I knew this was possible, I just had to find it. This is what led me to the lifestyle.
Although there are not too many single women at any lifestyle event, there are always a few. And guess what? Many of them are in the lifestyle because they love sex! It was not hard to meet unicorns and I have dated quite a few over the past few years. Guess what? This is not how I met my wife!
Believe it or not, I was in a swing club and saw your lifestyle jewelry! I bought a necklace and started wearing it all the time. Even if it wasn’t going to work, I love the design.
Not long after I started wearing it, I met a woman while at a sports bar who noticed the necklace. She knew what it meant and we started to talk. That was almost one year ago to the day and we are getting married in March. Wow! Best $50 I have ever spent! And if you are all wondering, yes, she loves sex!
Sorry for the long story but it has a happy ending that I wanted to share with you! I also want to give a shout out to your customer service girl Julie, who is so patient and kind! Happy New Year and best wishes to all of you!
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