You know you’re a swinger when…

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So you are in the lifestyle and have gotten your feet wet in the world of swinging.  It does not matter what “type” of swinger you are:  full swap, soft swap, etc., what matters is that you are now one of us!   It comes about slowly, but all of the sudden you have that aha moment when you realize you are truly part of the lifestyle.  This list points out things that are common among people who swing and if two or more apply to you, you are a swinger!

You know you’re a swinger when:

The names in your phone are couples with first names only (or they all have the same last name, which is the name of your swing club).

To avoid missing a night out when your adult children come to town, you have told them that you have important plans Saturday night that cannot be broken.

Before adult children come to visit, you scout their rooms to make sure their sheets are clean and there are no condoms or toys in the drawers from your last sleep over guests.

When you have young children at home, you dress in your car.  You think nothing of the trucks passing by when you are buck naked on the highway.

It is not uncommon for you to get dressed at home and wear a trench coat in the middle of summer to get out of the house.

In your home is a “secret” closet for your slut wear and hooker shoes.

When someone asks to see a picture that’s on your phone you hold the phone to show them.  You panic that they might scroll through some of the photos.

You have at least one screen name with some sexual  or provocative word in it.

There are nude photos of you somewhere.

You have lied to many friends about your where abouts on the weekend.

On more than one occassion, you have declined important vanilla social engagements to attend a swinger event.

Even though you are married, there is an ample supply of condoms in your home.

You have sex toys and lingerie and share both with your lifestyle friends.

It is not uncommon for you to tell women you love their breasts and ask if you can feel them.

Sometimes you see a couple and ask your partner if you have ever played with them.  (You can’t remember everyone!)

When you see an attractive couple, you point them out to your partner, even in vanilla settings.

You talk about the size of your partner’s penis, then your friends want to see it for themselves.

You would happily show your tattoos and piercings; even your clit ring.

When someone is talking about a Prince Albert you know it’s not a person.

You have to remember to pack a bathing suit when going to the beach with vanilla friends.

You tell your friends that you can’t see them this weekend because you have your period.

Inviting your lifestyle friends to your house requires no cooking.  They are not interested in eating…

You have had sleepovers with your friends.

If you go to the restroom with friends, you share a stall.

When out with vanilla friends, you have to make a conscious effort not to discuss sex.

Anytime you attend a vanilla party, you have to remind yourself that you cannot just strip off your clothing and jump into a pool.

You have discussed another man’s penis with your husband.

Your husband has told you that another woman is good in bed.

You’ve had some sexual contact with your best (lifestyle) friends.

You have to remember to keep your clothing on when on a vanilla vacation.

Did you shake your head in agreement more than twice?  Chances are you agreed to many of these.  If you did, congratulations!  You’re a swinger!

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Aloha from friends who live in Hawaii! How’s the lifestyle in Hawaii?

 

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Hawaiin woman wearing Partners ID black choker

 

Welina Partners ID,

Aloha from friends who live in Hawaii!

For the first years we were in the lifestyle, we sought out vacationers from the mainland through sites like SLS and SDC but it was always complicated.

We found it frustrating that we had to hide who we were from everyone we knew.  We would read articles from your site and others about clubs and friendships that had enriched so many swinger’s lives.  

Although most people tend to imagine that Hawaii is full of people who are free thinking and sexually open, but that is a thing of the past.  Religion has taken a more important role here in Hawaii over the past 2 centuries and sex is no longer something most islanders approve of if it is not between a married couple.

After reading some of the stories on your website, we finally decided to buy jewelry.  (I attached a photo of the necklace I bought from you): https://www.swingersjewelry.net/product/black-velvet-choker-necklace-with-lifestyle-pendant/  not only to find other swingers but it made us each feel authentic.  We wore our jewelry like a symbol of pride.  We enjoyed knowing that here we were identifying ourselves to everyone yet nobody knew that the symbol has any meaning.  At times it made me giggle!  Often when I wear the jewelry to work (I work in a store that sells ladies clothing), women will ask if we sell the jewelry!  The owner even asked about stocking some in the store!  How funny is that?!  

When my husband and I finally get the same day off we like to go snorkeling.  We try to go early and have the rest of the day on the beach.  We were relaxing at the beach and this nice looking couple sets up right next to us with their beach gear.  They were very friendly and the man then asked about the lifestyle in Oahu (where we live).  I look at my husband and the man quickly pointed at his wife’s ankle bracelet.  I started to laugh because I forget that I’m wearing my necklace!  This happened a few months ago and was the best thing that ever happened to us!  We became very good friends (wink wink) and they had other friends that also are in the lifestyle.  They also introduced us to a group that has a small club so we have been so happy!  

Your jewelry is a good luck charm for us!  This is the happiest we have been since we moved back here 5 years ago!   You will see my order because I am ordering for our group!  They are very excited about it and so are we!

Mahalo nui loa,

Aloha mai e

Kailana & Bane

Oahu, Hawaii

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Sex is a lot like ice cream; we want variety and lots of it!

One of the great things about being a swinger is that you really never get tired of having sex. Let’s face it, when you have been married for 10, 15, 20 plus years, sex can become routine:  same time, same place, same positions, and let’s be honest, same person! It does not mean you do not love the person but hey, there are lots of other options out there! Let’s think of it this way: maybe you love ice cream. Do you eat the same flavor every single night of your life? Gosh, I hope not! How awful when there are so many delicious flavors and textures to choose from. One night you can eat sweet, tangy orange sherbert, the next how about a rich, luscious chocolate ice cream bar with a crunchy nougat shell? Mmmmm. Perhaps you prefer vanilla with a caramel topping and a cherry the following night. Catch my drift? Sex with different people can be compared to this. You don’t stop loving your favorite, you just like something different from time to time. What’s wrong with that?

Swinging is alot like this.  Your spouse is your favorite; that goes without saying.  The problem is, over time we can fall into a routine or even a rut.  We start to want something different for a change.  When sex is no longer spontaneous and exciting, most people lose interest.  When a couple is able to have an honest conversation about sex, this is a big plus.

Now for all of you vanilla people out there who frown upon people in the lifestyle, do you think just maybe, from time to time, you fantasize about what it would be like to sleep with someone else?  If you don’t, I am speechless. It’s impossible for me to believe that you don’t fantasize about a co worker, or someone famous or a family friend. It is normal and natural. Getting married or being in a committed relationship does not stop us from being sexual beings.   It provides us with a partner with whom you can  share your life.  Someone to raise a family with.  Someone to be by your side through thick and thin.   It also is someone with whom  you should have sex on a regular basis.  It does not mean that you will cease noticing attractive people or fantasizing what it would be like to have sex with them.

The lifestyle brings people together who do love their partner, but also love to have sex.  Most of these couples are looking for variety.  They are seeking out a way to spice up their sex lives together.  What sets them apart from other couples is that they take this step together.  Rather than one person, or both, sneaking out behind the others back, they discuss what is missing and try to find a solution as a couple.  The rewards for handling it this way are immense.

Couples in the lifestyle rediscover the thrill of the hunt.  The ability, as a couple, to go out and meet other couples together for sex.   Imagine discussing with your significant other which person appeals to you and to them.  We still get to maintain our relationship with our significant other while exploring our sexuality with others who are also open minded. What a great concept!   Imagine discussing the experience after the fact while wrapped in each others arms.  Giggling like children about the mishaps that occur from time to time.  It probably surprises vanilla people when they hear that swinging brings you closer to your partner.  The honesty is very liberating and creates a bond that is incredibly strong.

Swingers have truly discovered a way to have it all!   Each time swingers attend a party or club event, they know if they want to have sex, they can.    They also know if they want to try something or someone new, they can! How can you get tired of something new? You can’t…

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