How’s that snobby attitude working for you?
Everyone has come across that person in the lifestyle. You know who they are; standing around scoffing at others in a lifestyle environment. In their mind, they are too superior to be surrounded by such, well, inferior people. They think are the very definition of beauty and intellect You can’t miss them, they stand around with their nose in the air. Thankfully, they are not the norm but it doesn’t make it any easier to stomach them when they show up.
Why on earth do some people have such an attitude of superiority? Nothing like a healthy dose of self confidence! If these people are as irresistible as they tend to believe, why are they so frequently alone?
We watched a woman like this just last night. She was not nearly as attractive as she imagined she was but her attitude was so awful, we could barely stop staring at her. (Perhaps this is why she has so much confidence! People stare at her not because she’s so beautiful, but rather because she’s so obnoxious!)
This particular woman held her head high in the air and watched to make sure everyone looked at her as they walked past her. Needless to say, most people did not give her a second look but she kept at it. Any time a woman walked past her, she would laugh, as if to let the other woman that know she didn’t approve of her look. She would throw her head back, point at the woman and whisper in her husband’s ear. It was hard not to say something to her (or smack her). It was so incredibly rude.
Her husband tried for a long time to coerce her to mingle with other couples but she was not interested. When she finally spotted a man who she deemed worthy, she made her move. She flirted shamelessly with him all the while keeping her back to the man’s wife. Her hands were all over him and she giggled at everything he said. Her husband tried to speak with the wife but she was clearly on high alert that this woman was not someone with whom she wanted to be involved. When she thought she had this man’s interest, she walked away and made her way to the dance floor. She was putting on a show that nobody seemed interested in watching, including her husband and the couple with whom she had just interacted.
We lost sight of this woman during the evening but later on they walked past us on their way out of the club. I overheard her telling the manager that the crowd was sub par at best, a huge disappointment for such a well known club.
There is no place in the lifestyle for this type of person. Swingers pride themselves on their warmth and friendliness. That is what sets them apart from the rest of the world. There is no rule that says you must play with everyone you speak with or even that you must become friends. There is, however, an understanding of common courtesy towards others.
Most people we have encountered in the lifestyle are looking for fun. They want to feel free to let their hair down and enjoy themselves. When they encounter someone like this, they simply move away. People are not attracted to others who hold themselves in such high regard that they try to make others feel bad about themselves. This is not high school and the last thing any swinger is looking for is drama.
These types of people rarely make more than one appearance at lifestyle events because it soon becomes apparent to them that they are too good for everyone. (That’s a good thing!) It is however, a good lesson for others to learn. Nobody likes someone who feels that they are better than others. It doesn’t matter if the person is extremely attractive, very wealthy, has a very high powered job or is famous. When you are at a lifestyle event, none of that matters. The people who have the most success in the lifestyle are the friendly ones. If you are warm and inviting, you will attract other couples.